Lending a Helping Hand. Male Masturbators & Tools of the Trade.

Posted on March 7, 2017 by Mistress J

Mistress J is always looking for tools and toys to enhance your experience here at the studio. Some of her favorite shopping sites are Extreme Restraints and The Stockroom. If someone wanted to send me a gift card from either site, Mistress J wouldn’t complain!

But I digress.

Me & Lelo

Using a masturbator provides new sensations down south. While I assume most visitors don’t tire of Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters, Miss J is always looking to shake things up (pun intended). So what exciting things can be explored? Keep reading.

My newest and favorite tool is the Hummingbird. This non-porous plastic sleeve fits on either of my two wands and provides a snug vibration that will get your juices flowing and send you over the edge!

I am the proud owner of two wands. One is the Hitachi Magic Wand or Slut Machine as I like to call it. The Hitachi plugs into the wall and delivers a powerful punch of vibration. One could say it pulses faster than an actual hummingbird’s wings. When flying solo, this is a very efficient tool. It gets the job done in 30 seconds.

Birds of a feather flock together.

Fits like a glove!

The Lelo wand on the other hand, is softer, sophisticated, subtle quiet, and slowly builds up, similar to a kettle boiling. This makes it GREAT for couples play. The subtleties of this wand provide superior spasms upon crescendo! That’s why I love using the hummingbird on this one. As an edging expert, I like to keep a guy on the perimeter as long as I can.

If I want to test your endurance, I put the hummingbird on the Hitachi and watch you struggle to maintain control.

This is what my client ” Los” had to say about the hummingbird.

“I have never experienced anything like it. I remember the pleasure running though me with such intensity that I gasped involuntary. At some point she turned the intensity or volume higher which immediately overwhelmed me. I liked it too much.”

So there you have it.

Perhaps one shouldn’t put all their eggs in one basket, but with a basket full of TENGA eggs, there’s no need to diversify! The TENGA EGG is made of a super stretchy material has a bumpy inside. Here is the description taken from the TENGA website:

These egg whites are cholesterol free…

Different Strokes from Different Yolks! Super-Stretch Sleeves for Pleasure! The TENGA EGG Series may look small, but their super-stretchable material can fit men of all sizes! The external designs of each EGG reflect the internal details within them – with a total of 13 EGGs to choose from you’re sure to find a perfect match!

I especially enjoy using these in my FBSM and Bondassage/Elysium sessions. I climb on top of my client and slip the egg on to their um, egg beater, and slowly twist and stroke. Each egg has a different inside, so your experience can vary each time I use one on you. Now, for hygiene reasons, I only use one to a customer. And, since it comes with a unique carrying case, I offer you your egg to take home as a party favor.

From now until Easter 2017. I am offering an Egg-cellent special session. You don some bunny ears and go on an Easter egg hunt throughout my studio. When you find the TENGA Egg, I’ll use it on you!

One of the pleasure of having someone use a masturbatory on you is an element of naughtiness. I mean, after all, you are getting edged by a thing not a person! How devious. And, to make it more naughty, if feels good! Oh my.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about male masturbators and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Wax On, Wax Off. Wax Play With Mistress J

Posted on February 7, 2017 by Mistress J

Grasshopper, I know sometimes your cravings require a delicate balance between sensuality and sadism. I am writing about the perfect session for you. A hot wax session! Hot candle wax play is fun. It is artistic. It requires submission and tolerance. And, if scented candles are used, can be a fruity good time!

Ryan was feeling stressed out. I invited him over for a hot wax session and he readily agreed. My weapons of choice that day were a white pillar candle, a red cranberry candle in a tin, an evergreen scented candle and two sex candles. One in purple, the other red.

I lit the candles 10 minutes before he arrived, so the wax would be nice and gooey when it was time to play. After he stretched his nekkid body on the massage table, we got down to business.

Securing his hands to the table, I proceeded to pour the colorful wax on his shoulders. Red, purple, green, white. So colorful and pretty.

Ryan enjoyed the warm wax dripping onto his skin. Sometimes he’d wiggle if a drop was unusually hot, then he’d settle back down and mutter his pleasure at the heat.

I pour my wax from a pretty high angle to prevent burning the skin. The distance gives the wax time to cool off so the subject won’t get burned. We did a side by side comparison of a sex candle vs. a regular candle. The reviews were mixed.

Ryan thought the sex candles (which claim to burn at a lower temperature) actually felt hotter on contact, but cooled faster then a soy candle. Another client said the opposite. He thought the sex candles were 5 degrees cooler. I found these results interesting, and I think more research is in order.

Ryan’s back and shoulders are hairless, so I poured the wax with glee. You could say that I poured my heart out to him. Ha, ha. His ass was a little hairy, so I rubbed some massage oil in before coating his buns. A coat of oil helps the wax come off the hair. Ryan said the oil made the wax feel a tiny bit hotter, something he enjoyed! I also made sure I coated his balls.

Now, I have played with Ryan many times and I know his tastes and limits. He is a pain, sensation and bondage slut. If I am browsing the internet for toys and am doubtful, I ask myself, “would Ryan like this?” If the answer is yes, I buy it. My point is, I knew he could take the heat of the wax and enjoy it. I know wax play isn’t for everyone, but those who like it, will enjoy a session with lil’ ol’ me.

Love, Italian style!

That is a good lead in for the next part. I poured wax in his butt crack and balls! Ryan wiggled and giggled. He liked it. I knew he would, the little perv. I used green, red and white wax for his under carriage. How festive it looked. Viva Italia! I had a sudden craving for pasta.

The session went on with me pouring wax all over him. Eventually, he like, totally, looked like an 80’s splatter painting, it was sooo rad! He was so bright and colorful. And the dried wax created a little bit of a restricted feeling, another thing Ryan enjoyed.

When I felt my masterpiece was complete, I stopped pouring and let the wax harden. Now it was time to clean him up for the shower! I took one of the cat claws and scraped off the wax. It came off in hard clumps. Little bits clung to the hair on his balls. I used a dry brush and got them clean. He seemed to enjoy the attention down there.

Feel like experiencing some hot wax play? I’d love to pour it on thick!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about wax play & my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Animal Crackers. Pony & Puppy Play with Mistress J!

Posted on October 31, 2016 by Mistress J

Happy Halloween! And in the spirit of the day, I will talk about a niche fetish, Pony Play…

You might be asking yourself why would someone want to be an animal? Animal roleplay of sorts has been around for centuries. A tribal member would sometimes take the form physically and often spiritually of an animal that was either revered or hunted.

Humans and animals have also had a close connection since time began. The horse, dog and cat being treasured friends. Both the human and the animal sharing a co-dependent relationship that is far from dysfunctional.

Recently, I had the honor of photographing some sexy animals and their handlers. It was loads of fun, and I even go to play a little.

Ride, Sally, ride!

One gentleman enjoys being a pony. Being a take charge kinda guy, he loves the feeling of submission to strong sexy women. Being a very fit Ironman athlete, he loves to have women ride his back and take him for a walk. While he prefers the feel of a naked woman straddled across his shoulders,

Mistress J did not do a nude photo shoot, so you will need to use your imagination on that one pervs.

I have had this particular pony over to the studio and have indeed straddled his strong, lithe back between my bare thighs. I felt his rolling tendons and had to clamp my thighs tight around him to stay astride. We walked all around the upper floor of my home. He was a good pony handling my weight well. I only had to use the crop on him twice. He was rewarded with carrots and petting afterwards.

Other folks like to be dogs. Dogs love the attention and affection lavished on them by their humans.

Humans love the seemingly unconditional love they get from their pets, and pets thrive when loved and cherished by their owners.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.”
― Charles M. Schulz

Since many people have an altar ego, it makes sense that that altar ego does not need to be human. Who hasn’t admired the majesty of an animal running in the field or flying in the sky. Their grace and beauty is astounding. Their intelligence apparent, and when one connects with an animal it really is magic.

In some cases, pet play is seen as a loving, quiet cuddling time where there is no need for verbalization and the simple act of stroking, rubbing and holding the other partner is satisfying or reassuring in and of itself for those involved.

For still others, there is the experience of power play setup in a context or structure which they can accept. Clearly, again, it depends on the people involved and what they bring to it or take from it.

All in all, Mistress J is very fond of animals.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, or animal play, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Makin’ You My Bitch, or, Owning Your Ass.

Posted on October 19, 2016 by Mistress J

A session might go like this…

I answer the door to your knock, smiling in anticipation of tonight’s events. You enter shyly, also smiling and your eyes light up in pleasure at the sight of me.

cock I invite you into the living room, admiring the way your jeans hang on your hips. Your clothes always have a casual elegance, and your energy tonight is playful and boyish. “Your ass is mine tonight,” I say to myself as you remove your coat and hang it up.

I let you sit down and relax just a bit. Over tea, we discuss pleasantries. I think you are confused as to why I am treating you almost as an equal. I look into your eyes, and see your guard going down just a bit, and that is my trigger.

I take you up to my playroom. I close the door behind us and you look at me with some surprise, the door is never closed during play.

“Strip quickly.” I command. You have no choice but to obey.

I point to the floor and you kneel down, hands behind your back. I slowly circle you, admiring your body. Touching you where I want, teasing your chest hair, tweaking a nipple. I lean over you and put my black leather collar around your neck. Once it’s on, I pause, holding you close to me and we breathe deeply together for a moment. I inhale your heady male scent and slide my tongue up to your ear.

“I’m making you my little bitch tonight.” I whisper. I feel you tremble in anticipation. You have longed for this, begged for it, hungered to be made mine. It is finally going to happen.

I have you stand up and I place your ankles in my cuffs and spread your legs wide with my spreader bar. Confined and open, I bend you over my green couch and you rest on your elbows, ass in the air.

I slap that sweet little ass and the smacking sound excites me. I slip a well lubed and gloved finger inside your ass and feel that tight warmth. Slowly and firmly I move my finger in and out, loosening you up. I can feel you relax a bit, you start to slowly grind my fingers. I stick in another and you are amazed that two fingers easily fit into your asshole.

When I tire of that play, I pull out, inject more lube up your ass with a lube shooter then continue to open you up with the Hitachi Magic Wand with P-Spot adaptor. You gasp as the fullness enters you. Your cock springs to attention as I slowly begin to pump your ass with it. I turn it on low and you moan with pleasure, dripping pre-cum onto the towel I placed under you so my furniture will not get soiled.

You are now writhing with pleasure and dripping like crazy, I turn the vibrator on high and I think you will jump out of your skin. Such intense sensations! When I am not using both hands to pump you with the wand I slap your ass. “Yes,” you whisper with each slap of my hand.

“Are you ready slut?” I ask you when I turn off the vibe. “Yes Mistress,” you mumble.

“What are you ready for? I ask you.

“I am ready for you to make me your bitch.”

I have you help me put on my cock. I pull you back onto your knees and I have you suck it like the silly slut you are. Soon, you are deep throating it, looking up into my eyes with adoration as saliva slides out of the side of your mouth.

Seeing you like this pleases me. My pussy is wet and I am turned on. I reach out and slap your cheek. It takes you by surprise, but you smile.

“Back on your knees bitch.” I order and again you are sprawled out on the green couch.

I stand up and slide my long, thin dong inside you. We both moan with delight and I begin to fuck your ass the way I want my pussy fucked. Long, slow and hard, teasing you with the tip, never quite going all the way down, teasing you until suddenly you feel the full length of me deep inside you.

Now I begin to pump you harder. “I want to hear it,” I say as I grab your hips and ram your tight ass.

“I am your bitch Mistress.” Your voice is muffled as your face is in the seat of the couch.

I grab your shoulder with one hand, and the collar by the other and yank you up.

“Do you like being treated like a slut?” I ask you as I bite your ear.

“I do Mistress, I am a dirty slut. I am your slut,” You say, and I respond with a firm slap on your ass with my hand.

You are overcome. Drool spills out of your mouth, your cock drips pre-cum you moan and breathe deep and hard. Do you like the feeling of the dong up your ass, or do you like the situation of being fucked hard by a powerful woman, the role reversal? You are unsure what to think, but you do know you like being used for my pleasure. And I am very well pleased.

You are now mine. My bitch, my slut, my plaything. I plan on using you often.

Such Exquisite Torture! A session with a masochist…

Posted on May 10, 2016 by Mistress J

Allen* came over one sunny afternoon. He is a long time client here at Mistress J’s. Lately he has been craving some serious humiliation, degradation and even a little pain. What’s funny about Allen is he started off here as a sensual massage client. Now he is a hard-core pervy pain slut and I am constantly thinking of fun new ways in which to torture his ass. (among other things)

Allen was ordered to strip and wait for me in the dungeon. I was excited to use my three new ceiling hooks that Ryan hung when he lost that bet. I also had a few other surprises in store for him.

I chained these balls to the wall.

I know he is as fond of receiving CBT as I am of giving it. I have a few fun penis devices, but the problem is, Allen’s balls are rather large. It makes it difficult for me to wrap such devices around them so modifications are usually made. I knew he’d enjoy my spiky cock parachute, but also knew he wouldn’t be able to wear it the traditional way, wrapped around his balls and hanging downward. Instead, I wrapped it around his large cock and he had the thrill of experiencing a hundred little cat claws digging into his manhood!

I added a weight to the parachute so he could feel a nice swing when he moved. I took a chain and secured it to the wall. Poor Allen had to endure the entire session standing up, but that was by design, I wanted access to all the good parts.

Tryin’a break the chains but the chains only break me**

I went about blindfolding and restraining him to the ceiling with cuffs and chains. Mistress J is really digging the new hooks. I took out my trusty anal hook, wrapped a rubber around it and lubed it up. I slowly inserted it into Allen’s butt. His growing excitement was evident despite wearing a tight, prickly parachute on his ding-dong.

Feeling owned and controlled, Allen hung his head and leaned on the long dangling chains for support. He had no choice but to submit. I took out my electric gloves and ran them all over his body, administering sweet shocks in the most private of places. At times, I spanked his firm little arse with my favorite paddle. He let out grateful yelps.

Poor Allen. This man comes here on his lunch hour to be treated like a dirty rag. How dare Mistress J do this to him?!?

Well, I aim to please.

This man had a bit more “treatment” to endure. I took my little footstool and sat down. I lubed up my new anal speculum and switched the hook for the speculum because someone needed to be stretched for something bigger.

The metal was a little cold, and Allen let out a shiver as it slid into his behind. I took my time and slid it in and out several times before opening it up. Allen sighed with pleasure as the speculum gently pried open his anus. I secured the latch and let him enjoy the feeling of the pressure the instrument gave to his inner butt hole. I enjoyed this part of the session. Not many men get to feel the enjoyment of a speculum, at least not as often as women. I felt like a doctor indeed and wished I had a white lab coat.

Ride, Sally ride…

Feeling he was ready for the last part of my evil plans, I took out my harness and gave Allen what he came for; hard, forceful pegging! I took a photo of me riding his ass, which I did for 20 minutes. Do you feel sorry for him? I don’t. This man was getting what he deserved, and more!

So, Allen endured what I gave him, and when it was over, quickly devoured a bottle of water. He took a shower and came downstairs on shaky legs.

“That was a quick hour Mistress, thank you.” he said as he took leave of me.

I know he will be back soon.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*Name changed to protect the innocent. **From Nick Jonas “Chains”.

Spring Time is Swing Time! A New Item at Mistress J’s.

Posted on April 10, 2016 by Mistress J

Ryan lost a bet.

We were racing our turtles, and his lost, so he had to be my kinky handyman in the playroom. I had a fabulous new toy, so I gladly put him to work.

Stud finder. Enough said.

Ryan had to hang my new sex swing. I like my handymen to wear a specific uniform (nekkid), which he enthusiastically changed in to. He grabbed his tools and set about finding a strong ceiling beam to attach it to.

Ryan gave a new meaning to the term stud finder, pun intended. He found a support beam and picked a place on the ceiling. Up it went. Next, we had to test it out.

Who better to test out the swing than the man who put it up? I put his naked ass into the swing and blindfolded him. I spun him around and we laughed as his feet hit my closet, Ryan is pretty tall. He hopped out and I put him on his tummy facing downward.

In this position, I simulated pegging him. We noticed his head was really close to the wall. I swung him back and forth, and if I did it vigorously, he would bang his head on the wall! This was not good.

I told Ryan he had to fix this problem and find a new place to hang the swing. I was irritated about this, and decided on a suitable punishment for putting an unwanted hole in the ceiling.

New spot found and tested. Now, on to the punishment!

I’ll turn you into a humble man…

I cuffed Ryan to the cross and had him bend over. I grabbed his cock and balls and pulled them backwards, a little rope isolated his balls. Next, I grabbed a few dowels and rubber bands and made a homemade humbler.

He needed to be humbled for his error. Ryan is a good handyman, but in the past has made a few mistakes in my playroom. He needed to think long and hard about these blunders. Bad Ryan!

Goodness gracious, great balls of fire!

I flogged Ryan’s back and used my cat claws on delicate areas. The problem with this punishment was, well, he enjoyed it. How was he ever going to learn?

“Get down on all fours.” I ordered, He complied.

I rather like predicaments, so I put him in one. And it was a dandy. Anal hook inserted and fastened to the wall, hands cuffed behind back, head resting on the floor. Next, a little foot torture. I hoped he was learning the error of his ways.

I quickly got the impression he liked where my feet were. Let’s just say Ryan was rising to the occasion! This was a very stubborn man who was not feeling remorse for anything.

I got out my cane and swatted his bottom. “Repent!” I yelled.

Ten, eleven, twelve hard strokes. Finally a whimper escaped his mouth. Three more firm wacks to make sure. Satisfied he was going to be more careful next time he worked for me, I released him.

“Forgive me Mistress, for I have sinned.” Ryan said.

I decided to forgive him and we made an appointment for following week to hang my new blinds.

If you are curious about my swing, flogging, caning and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

Teaching Danielle a Lesson For Being a Slut.

Posted on March 7, 2016 by Mistress J

Danielle was feeling slutty. Mistress knew it the moment she walked in. Her sluttiness hung on her like cheap perfume, cloying and sweet. She gave off that air of sluttiness that some mistake as confidence. Mistress knows better. Danielle needed to be taught a lesson, and quickly.

Danielle was here to serve Mistress J. But she had a little attitude, and Mistress does not like a cocky gurl. Mistress J turned Danielle over her knee and pulled down her panties, giving her bottom ten hard smacks.

She then made Danielle stand in the corner and think about what she had done.

Mistress J had received reports that Danielle had been behaving badly at work. She had been teasing the men with her boobs and wearing very tight skirts, hoping to taunt them into touching her privates. Danielle was also known to brag about her cock-sucking skills, but in reality had never, ever sucked one.

Danielle’s goods be locked up good and tight!

Mistress didn’t like that type of behavior.

“You little whore,” Mistress said sternly. “You want the boys to touch your clit, well, I’ll lock it up so nobody gets to play with it, including you!”

Mistress placed the steel cage around Danielle’s cock and balls. Danielle let out a little whimper as Mistress J closed the lock and tossed the key to the side.

“Dirty girl, you are always trying to suck cock,” said Mistress J. Do you even know how?”

Danielle shook her head no. “I don’t know how, but really want to try it,” Danielle said quietly.

A glorious Glory Hole!

Mistress pointed to a wall of cocks and told Danielle she was going to have to suck off each one.

“See all those hard cocks?” Mistress J asked Danielle, who had already dropped to her knees in anticipation. “You suck them until I tell you to stop. You need to practice sucking dick before I give you permission to go back to work and pleasure your coworkers.”

Danielle nodded eagerly. Her mouth was already beginning to water. She crawled over to the wall and hungrily began to suck on the smallest one, which was the blue cock.

She moaned with delight as her lips circled the member. This was even better than she imagined it would feel! It was so firm and round. The head felt so lovely to cup her lips around. Danielle bobbed her head up and down, slurping noisily and sliding down a little deeper each time. She hoped she looked like a porn star in action.

“Move to the black one.” Mistress J instructed. “Pretend it’s an ear of corn. Work it baby!”

Danielle moved her head along the BBC in a motion similar to playing the flute. Her lips glided along the outer rim, up and down the shaft. Her nose touched the balls and she slowly licked them. She slid back up to the top and circled the head with her tongue.

Danielle loved sucking these cocks. She felt very slutty and naughty. She loved the attention from Mistress J, she was working hard to please her.

Danielle next pleasured the purple and brown cock, following Mistress J’s orders. When she got to the large white cock Mistress J gave her special instructions.

“The white one likes teeth. You need to learn to use your teeth properly without biting the damn thing off!”

Danielle nibbled and bit the cock noting Mistress J’s approval.

“Now deep throat it.” Mistress J ordered.

Danielle’s throat and mouth were warmed up now and the thing slid down her throat easily. However, the cock was long and when it hit the base of her throat she gagged a little.

“Keep going bitch.” said her Mistress.

Danielle obliged. She sucked and gagged, tears slid down her eyes and snot started coming out of her nose. She kept going, Mistress didn’t say to stop.

Her lips were getting tired and it was hard to breathe with the snot in her nose. She was afraid the gagging would make her puke, and she didn’t want that to happen. She was hoping Mistress would let her stop pleasing this big dick, but Mistress wasn’t saying anything. She was just watching and nodding.

Danielle knew better than to stop. She was Mistress’ plaything and had to do as she was told. She sucked and gagged some more.

Finally, Mistress J told her to stop and to finish off the BBC with a titty fuck. Danielle did as she was told, taking it a step further to please Mistress J. She titty fucked both the blue and black cock and sucked the purple.

Mistress was very pleased indeed! When she was finished she got down on all fours and Mistress stuck a butt plug in Danielle’s boy pussy.

“You passed my test girl.” said Mistress J. “You may go and please the boys at work. But that cage stays on. When I decide you are ready, it will come off, and we will see what happens then!”

Mistress patted Danielle’s head and told her to stand up. She swatted Danielle’s behind as she was leaving.

“Go make mama proud!” Mistress J called out as Danielle left the house.

The End.

If you are curious about cock sucking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

“You’re Breaking My Balls!” And I like it…

Posted on January 5, 2016 by Mistress J

Ball Busting, CBT, Punching his Package. Such fun terminology for the same thing; beating a man’s bits!

A new meaning to the term “morning wood.”

CBT or Cock Ball Torture can range from a light tickling or teasing to a full on kicking of the crotch. It really depends on the client and his pain tolerance.

My tools of the trade may range from my good ol’ hands and feet, to paddles, floggers, electric items, clothespins, clothesline and claws. The person in the photo on the left is a real pain slut and likes to be beaten with a heavy wooden paddle.

I think the appeal of CBT for many is two fold.

First, there is the pain aspect. As stated earlier, the amount of pain varies by client. Pain can be very pleasurable within one’s limits. Light pain can be erotic. Tickling can be tantalizing, and torturous!

The second aspect is the attention given to a man’s nether regions. A friend of mine once said “The only reason men get up in the morning is the hope someone will look at their penis.” With CBT, all the attention is on that area. Everyone is looking at it, and I am sure it feels very special.

Speaking of attention, check out this video. Sissy Danielle’s little boy clit is getting teased with my toes! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McPCkxRI1io

Cat scratch fever!

I also feel many men enjoy the psychological thrill of the woman controlling the cock. She does what she wants to it. And the cock can’t do anything but obey…

On the right, my favorite tools, the cat claws love to poke and scratch balls, especially when they are stretched and separated in my black leather cock case. Sometimes it feels like I am playing with balloons and I wonder if they will pop? It is highly recommended one remains still, as sudden movements can be dangerous.

Wrap it up, I’ll take it.

So many men enjoy the feeling of having their “cucumber” encased that they get very excited. What happens next can be many things. It depends on my mood! Click on this link to see a client experiencing the whirligig, one of my favorite tricks. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-NGOWYTLzA

If you are curious about any type of CBT play, please let me know. I’d love to incorporate it into a session!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about CBT and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

And the winner is… Click here to find out what is most requested.

Posted on December 23, 2015 by Mistress J

I know many of you have been hanging by a thread since my last post, wondering what the most requested service is over here at Mistress J Studios, in San Jose, California. Well, since it is the holiday season, I’ll tell you.

lotsofcocks

It’s pegging!

What is pegging some of you ask? It is getting poked in the butt with a rubber dong that is strapped around my hips.

It is amazing how many men desire the ultimate in role reversal. Remember that saying “It is better to give than to receive” ? My clients and I tend to agree, as I REALLY enjoy giving it good to a guy and having him take it like a girl!

The anus has thousands of nerve endings, thus making it a pleasurable experience when done right. Here is a link to Bliss Connection’s blog on 9 Tips For pain Free Anal Sex.

Pegging often goes deeper than just pleasure. I hear over and over, how my cis-gendered male clients want to give up control, to be taken, to surrender. Because of anatomy, even if they identify as submissive, their penis demands that they penetrate, and in most cases, move their hips.

The magical mystery tour is dying to take you away..

In pegging, the boy and the girl trade places. She gives, he receives.

I love it. I am the one who controls the warm-up, the pace, the depth and the position. I tease and deny. I teach. Often, I will instruct my client to try a slow teasing technique the next time he has PIV sex. Certain positions give him a chance to feel leg fatigue, a common occurrence with the Cowgirl pose. When the man wants to jump right into the pounding, I hold him back, reminding him who’s in charge, and dictate the pace.

I see what the male sees, and he sees what the female sees. Pegging leaves me exhausted, and him often energized. Does this sound familiar folks? In this role reversal, the female gets a taste of how the man feels and what he does. They do a lot of work ladies!

Please don’t think for a minute that straight men who like pegging are secretly gay. It’s not about that at all. A straight man is not gay if he wants to be pegged by a woman.

In our deeply misogynistic culture, men are raised with the fear of being labeled as someone who acts like a woman. How dreadful is that! (sarcasm) I mean, what man wants to be like a girl? Isn’t the man supposed to in charge of sex?

Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, claim “straight men who get into anal penetration are among the most secure in their masculinity: because they’ve examined themselves, faced their fears.”

They go on to say “The idea that penetration is an act of dominance is almost certainly tied in to sexism and the notion that the woman’s role is inferior. Plenty of men have absorbed these ideas at a subconscious level. Even if a man doesn’t think it is an act of dominance when he penetrates his (male or female) partner, he may still hesitate to switch roles because he is afraid that it will mean losing his masculinity if he takes a turn catching instead of pitching.”

We’re steeped in a culture of prescribed sexual roles for men and women, so it’s a thrill to break the “rules”. I see a man enjoying the feeling of vulnerability he’s not accustomed to. The taboo of being penetrated is (for some) is what is exciting. Yes, it feels good, but here is a respectable, Dockers wearing, alpha man being bent over my couch and taking it in the a**. He has given up control and all he can do is spread his cheeks and smile. How fun for him!

And fun for me too. There is a feeling of power and responsibility for me. This man trusts me with his most valuable assets, (pun intended) his body and his dignity. And I take that role very seriously. I always start off gentle…

Since sexism goes both ways, one of the reasons pegging desired so often here is because my clients want it, but can’t get it at home. Many say their gal thinks it’s silly or emasculating. I think that attitude is what is silly. What can be more manly than a man feeling comfortable enough with his partner and share his deepest desires, whatever they are? And one where she can express and explore hers?

Pegging breaks convention, it liberates, it connects. And it feels good.

Just to be clear, Mistress J believes in consent from both parties, and one should never do anything that is not to their liking or something they find distasteful just to please another person.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about pegging and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

You Naughty Boy! You Need a Spanking!

Posted on October 6, 2015 by Mistress J

When boys are naughty, they need to be spanked!

Spankings are the second most requested service here at Mistress J Studios. The number one request will be in another blog post, so hold on pervs.

Why would a strong, manly man willingly pay me to turn them over my knee and spank their behind like a naughty child? Excellent question Grasshopper.

Spankings are intimate and erotic. There is a feeling of vulnerability and helplessness when one is draped bare-assed across a knee, with the buttocks on full display. One is instantly reduced to a body part, and a luscious one at that!

Bare bottom spanking is primal. It is humiliating, and for many, it feels good.

To quote Dr. Victoria Zdrok from an article on AskMen.

The bottom is a prime erogenous zone; however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation — like in spanking — to trigger them;

The physiological process of sexual arousal demands that before orgasm can occur, blood must be collected and kept in the genitals and nearby areas. Spanking creates just such a physiological response, as the stinging of the skin causes blood to collect in the bottom (and simultaneously in the nearby genitals), thus accomplishing “mechanically” what caresses and kisses do psychologically.

The feeling of “surrender” or submission is an important part of a sexual response, as many men need to give up control and give themselves “permission” to feel sexual. Spanking incites and reinforces such feelings;

Often the eroticism is triggered by something in youth. Perhaps a spanking from an Aunt or baby sitter triggered a sexual feeling. Maybe a photograph or scene from a movie stirred the first flush of desire.

For me, I got excited over the thought of the Spanking Machine. As a child in the mid-west, on a birthday of a classmate, the birthday person had to go through the Spanking Machine. The Spanking Machine consisted of crawling under a gauntlet of legs and receiving a spanking from each kid. The thought of delivering the spankings thrilled me. Especially on the male classmates. I dreaded receiving them, and was glad when my birthday fell on a weekend. The Spanking Machine could only be experienced on the actual birthday. Those were the rules.

I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I love a man’s butt! I love to sensually dominate men. So spanking a male submissive is perfect for me! I use my hand, a hairbrush, paddles and canes. When a man is bare bottomed and across my lap, I can FEEL his excitement! Sometimes I need to place a towel across my lap to protect my skirt from the excitement. It’s a lovely feeling.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about spanking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

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