Lock Him Up and Throw Away the Key! The fine art of male chastity.

“I know why the caged bird sings.”*  It’s because he is in chastity!

Some of ya’ll might be scratching your head and wondering what is this thing called male chastity?

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

Perhaps you are conjuring up images of medieval wives kept under lock until the arrival of key-wielding husbands. The men were in battle, the wives at home, and something had to protect their property from an invading penis, but male chastity? Come on! What’s up with that?

Women get the bad rap of being the emotional creatures. That really isn’t true. After all, men often can’t control their own sexual desires. Their need for sex with a particular person or a sexual act is often the driving force behind all that they do. They will go to great lengths to get it, often practicing in amazing deception, denial and even expense.

So who’s the emotional creature now?

I for one fully believe in female-led relationships. My clients want to experience some sort of toyssubmission, and a loss of control, the degrees vary by individual. What better way to rule a man, then to control the very thing he thinks with (his penis). And many men agree!

In short, chastity devices serve as a way of controlling the wearer’s sexual behavior, physically blocking the possibility of intercourse and masturbation. It’s primary function is orgasm denial. 

Orgasm denial is a multi-faceted erotic fantasy, but at its heart is a desire by a submissive man to give control of his sexual release to a dominant woman. Unlike many fantasies, it can be an all-consuming obsession, condemning the cage-wearer to constant frustration and anticipation. 

Being locked in chastity doesn’t mean the denial of sexual pleasure, just an abstention from release. In fact many men revel in the new found gratification they glean from the tease and denial games they engage in with their “key holders”.

The caged male likes the feeling of ownership, especially ownership of their sex. I personally enjoy seeing the frustration and pent up desire in my guy’s face. His eagerness to please and be a good boy. The possible promise of release and release.

How thrilling it is to be locked up and set free when his Dominant wants him for her pleasure. Such sweet objectification! He is reduced to a plaything, and at her command and timetable.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

I once had a sub who lived quite some distance from me. He locked himself up and mailed me the all the keys to his lock. He did not wrap them in tissue and they were flopping loose in a letter size envelope. The envelope ripped, and the keys were lost in a mailbox forever. Good thing he had a small saw to cut himself out when I wanted him free!

Chastity is such a complex subject. I could go on and on. But I’ll end this now and write more later.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about chastity and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*This is a reference to the book I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.

“You’re Breaking My Balls!” And I like it…

Ball Busting, CBT, Punching his Package. Such fun terminology for the same thing; beating a man’s bits!

A new meaning to "morning wood."

A new meaning to the term “morning wood.”

CBT or Cock Ball Torture can range from a light tickling or teasing to a full on kicking of the crotch. It really depends on the client and his pain tolerance.

My tools of the trade may range from my good ol’ hands and feet, to paddles, floggers, electric items, clothespins, clothesline and claws. The person in the photo on the left is a real pain slut and likes to be beaten with a heavy wooden paddle.

I think the appeal of CBT  for many is two fold.

First, there is the pain aspect. As stated earlier, the amount of pain varies by client. Pain can be very pleasurable within one’s limits. Light pain can be erotic. Tickling can be tantalizing, and torturous!

The second aspect is the attention given to a man’s nether regions.  A friend of mine once said “The only reason men get up in the morning is the hope someone will look at their penis.” With CBT, all the attention is on that area. Everyone is looking at it, and I am sure it feels very special.

Speaking of attention, check out this video. Sissy Danielle’s little boy clit is getting teased with my toes!   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McPCkxRI1io

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Cat scratch fever!

I also feel many men enjoy the psychological thrill of the woman controlling the cock. She does what she wants to it. And the cock can’t do anything but obey…

On the right, my favorite tools, the cat claws love to poke and scratch balls, especially when they are stretched and separated in my black leather cock case. Sometimes it feels like I am playing with balloons and I wonder if they will pop? It is highly recommended one remains still, as sudden movements can be dangerous.

A secure wrap in case of wind!

Wrap it up, I’ll take it.

So many men enjoy the feeling of having their “cucumber” encased that they get very excited. What happens next can be many things. It depends on my mood! Click on this link to see a client experiencing the whirligig, one of my favorite tricks.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-NGOWYTLzA

If you are curious about any type of CBT play, please let me know. I’d love to incorporate it into a session!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about CBT and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.