Monthly Archives: October 2014

A Session of Service

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He is wearing my favorite outfit!

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d  I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of tea!

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

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The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

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“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society.  But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her.  I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and  understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in  love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off  to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty.  She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

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A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like  being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me.  I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about  Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.