Spring Time is Swing Time! A New Item at Mistress J’s.

Ryan lost a bet.

We were racing our turtles, and his lost, so he had to be my kinky handyman in the playroom. I had a fabulous new toy, so I gladly put him to work.

Stud finder. Enough said.

Ryan had to hang my new sex swing. I like my handymen to wear a specific uniform (nekkid), which he enthusiastically changed in to. He grabbed his tools and set about finding a strong ceiling beam to attach it to.

Ryan gave a new meaning to the term stud finder, pun intended. He found a support beam and picked a place on the ceiling. Up it went. Next, we had to test it out.

Who better to test out the swing than the man who put it up?  I put his naked ass into the swing and blindfolded him. I spun him around and we laughed as his feet hit my closet, Ryan is pretty tall. He hopped out and I put him on his tummy facing downward.

In this position, I simulated pegging him. We noticed his head was really close to the wall. I swung him back and forth, and if I did it vigorously, he would bang his head on the wall! This was not good. swing

I told Ryan he had to fix this problem and find a new place to hang the swing. I was irritated about this, and decided on a suitable punishment for putting an unwanted hole in the ceiling.

New spot found and tested. Now, on to the punishment!

a humble man

I’ll turn you into a humble man…

I cuffed Ryan to the cross and had him bend over. I grabbed his cock and balls and pulled them backwards, a little rope isolated his balls. Next, I grabbed a few dowels and rubber bands and made a homemade humbler.

He needed to be humbled for his error. Ryan is a good handyman, but in the past has made a few mistakes in my playroom. He needed to think long and hard about these blunders. Bad Ryan!

Great balls of fire!

Goodness gracious, great balls of fire!

I flogged Ryan’s back and used my cat claws on delicate areas. The problem with this punishment was, well, he enjoyed it. How was he ever going to learn?

“Get down on all fours.” I ordered, He complied.

I rather like predicaments, so I put him in one. And it was a dandy. Anal hook inserted and fastened to the wall, hands cuffed behind back, head resting on the floor. Next, a little foot torture. I hoped he was learning the error of his ways.

I quickly got the impression he liked where my feet were. Let’s just say Ryan was rising to the occasion! This was a very stubborn man who was not feeling remorse for anything.

badI got out my cane and swatted his bottom. “Repent!” I yelled.

Ten, eleven, twelve hard strokes. Finally a whimper escaped his mouth. Three more firm wacks to make sure. Satisfied he was going to be more careful next time he worked for me, I released him.

“Forgive me Mistress, for I have sinned.” Ryan said.

I decided to forgive him and we made an appointment for following week to hang my new blinds.

If you are curious about my swing, flogging, caning and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

 

Teaching Danielle a Lesson For Being a Slut.

Danielle was feeling slutty. Mistress knew it the moment she walked in. Her sluttiness hung on her like cheap perfume, cloying and sweet. She gave off that air of sluttiness that some mistake as confidence.  Mistress knows better. Danielle needed to be taught a lesson, and quickly.

Danielle was here to serve Mistress J. But she had a little attitude, and Mistress does not like a cocky gurl. Mistress J turned Danielle over her knee and pulled down her panties, giving her bottom ten hard smacks.

She then made Danielle stand in the corner and think about what she had done.

Mistress J had received reports that Danielle had been behaving badly at work. She had been teasing the men with her boobs and wearing very tight skirts, hoping to taunt them into touching her privates. Danielle was also known to brag about her cock-sucking skills, but in reality had never, ever sucked one.

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Danielle’s goods be locked up good and tight!

Mistress didn’t like that type of behavior.

“You little whore,” Mistress said sternly. “You want the boys to touch your clit, well, I’ll lock it up so nobody gets to play with it, including you!”

Mistress placed the steel cage around Danielle’s cock and balls. Danielle let out a little whimper as Mistress J closed the lock and tossed the key to the side.

“Dirty girl, you are always trying to suck cock,” said Mistress J. Do you even know how?”

Danielle shook her head no. “I don’t know how, but really want to try it,” Danielle said quietly.

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A glorious Glory Hole!

Mistress pointed to a wall of cocks and told Danielle she was going to have to suck off each one.

“See all those hard cocks?” Mistress J asked Danielle, who had already dropped to her knees in anticipation. “You suck them until I tell you to stop.  You need to practice sucking dick before I give you permission to go back to work and pleasure your coworkers.”

Danielle nodded eagerly. Her mouth was already beginning to water. She crawled over to the wall and hungrily began to suck on the smallest one, which was the blue cock.

She moaned with delight as her lips circled the member. This was even better than she imagined it would feel! It was so firm and round. The head felt so lovely to cup her lips around. Danielle bobbed her head up and down, slurping noisily and sliding down a little deeper each time. She hoped she looked like a porn star in action.

“Move to the black one.” Mistress J instructed. “Pretend it’s an ear of corn. Work it baby!”

Danielle moved her head along the BBC in a motion similar to playing the flute. Her lips glided along the outer rim, up and down the shaft. Her nose touched the balls and she slowly licked them. She slid back up to the top and circled the head with her tongue.

Danielle loved sucking these cocks. She felt very slutty and naughty. She loved the attention from Mistress J, she was working hard to please her.

Danielle next pleasured the purple and brown cock, following Mistress J’s orders. When she got to the IMG_20160216_162856606large white cock Mistress J gave her special instructions.

“The white one likes teeth. You need to learn to use your teeth properly without biting the damn thing off!”

Danielle nibbled and bit the cock noting Mistress J’s approval.

“Now deep throat it.” Mistress J ordered.

Danielle’s throat and mouth were warmed up now and the thing slid down her throat easily. However, the cock was long and when it hit the base of her throat she gagged a little.

“Keep going bitch.” said her Mistress.

Danielle obliged. She sucked and gagged, tears slid down her eyes and snot started coming out of her nose. She kept going, Mistress didn’t say to stop.

Her lips were getting tired and it was hard to breathe with the snot in her nose. She was afraid the gagging would make her puke, and she didn’t want that to happen. She was hoping Mistress would let her stop pleasing this big dick, but Mistress wasn’t saying anything. She was just watching and nodding.

IMG_20160216_163134953Danielle knew better than to stop. She was Mistress’ plaything and had to do as she was told. She sucked and gagged some more.

Finally, Mistress J told her to stop and to finish off the BBC with a titty fuck. Danielle did as she was told, taking it a step further to please Mistress J. She titty fucked both the blue and black cock and sucked the purple.

Mistress was very pleased indeed! When she was finished she got down on all fours and Mistress stuck a butt plug in Danielle’s boy pussy.

“You passed my test girl.” said Mistress J. “You may go and please the boys at work. But that cage stays on. When I decide you are ready, it will come off, and we will see what happens then!”

Mistress patted Danielle’s head and told her to stand up. She swatted Danielle’s behind as she was leaving.

“Go make mama proud!” Mistress J called out as Danielle left the house.

The End.

If you are curious about cock sucking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

Your House is Filled With Pervertables…

And you don’t even know it!

What’s a pervertable you ask? Don’t worry, it isn’t contagious. A pervertable is an every day object used for naughty things, and Mistress J has several.

Here are some suggestions from me. Feel free to comment with some of your favorites if I don’t list them. Let’s get a dialogue going.

This hairbrush was a gift from an admirer.

This brush was a gift.

 

A longtime favorite throughout history is the hairbrush. Dreaded and revered, the hairbrush is one of my favorite tools, and one of my most requested instruments. I love to give a nice over-the-knee spanking with my brush. After all, why should I hurt my hand?

 

 

Candles set the mood!

Candles can really set the mood!

Candles not only add ambiance, but also are a great addition to temperature play. The hot wax is poured on to the body and drips as it cools. Oh my! Hurts so good!

 

Not now, I have a (um) headache

Not now, I have a (um) headache

 

 

 

The opposite of hot is cold. This ice bag isn’t just for headaches!

 

 

All about the baste...

All about the baste…

Texture and sensation are fun with this everyday tool The BBQ brush! I like the silicone ones. They have a great feel and are quick drying after I give them a bleach bath for clean up.

 

 

 

 

A secure wrap in case of wind!

A secure wrap in case of wind!

Being green takes on a new meaning with these two old school items. As a young girl in the mid-west, the mothers on my block hung the family’s clothes on a clothesline secured with wooden clothespins. I love the way laundry smells when it is air-dried on the line. Don’t you?

 

 

 

Some other favorite pervertables include a wooden spoon, belt, toothbrushes, a comb, dish scrubber and feather duster.

Can you name a few that I have missed?

Making sure that nipple doesn't go anywhere!

Making sure that nipple doesn’t go anywhere!

If you like sensation play and are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

These are a few of my favorite things…

Like raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, Mistress J has a few favorite things she enjoys using on her clients.

I will describe them in no particular order. During a session, you might have the honor of experiencing one, or ALL of these items!

Remember, during a session you belong to me and you are my plaything. I get to tease & torment your body!

clawsMy longtime favorites are my claws. Sharp, but not too sharp, these steel beauties can be used hard or soft, and even in the most delicate of places! I particularly enjoy teasing the navel with these. And since they are stainless steel they are super easy to sanitize.

One of my first toys I purchased for myself was my Hitachi Magic photo 2Wand. The wand is a favorite among women because it gets the job done very quickly. It requires an electrical outlet and no battery operated toy equals its strength! When I ordered it, I also purchased the G-spot and P-spot adapters. Here, my Hitachi sports the P-spot adapter. I lovingly call this the Slut Machine, as it turns my clients into very willing sluts. Take a turn on the Slut Machine and let me know if you prefer the fast or slow speed.

 

photo 3Another favorite is the Blue Surprise. The Billy by Lelo is ergonomically designed for anal play. This little guy hits all the right places and the vibration and various pulses are sure to please. My favorite sessions involve using both toys. FYI, all insertables are condom covered for  your protection.

 

The newest addition to the family is my beautiful Towel Warmer!photo 1 All I can say is why didn’t I buy one sooner???? A hot towel feels great after a Bondassage® session or massage. Sometimes, when I am home, I take one out and simply enjoy the hot towel on my hands. I love it, and my clients do too. I invite you to try a session and experience a nice, hot towel.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio. I offer Bondassage ®, Elysium® various domination sessions, FBSM as well as erotic photography and sissy transformations.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

Do you think the female foot is sexy? Kiss feet

Do you have naughty thoughts about caressing the high arch of a delicate foot, licking perfectly pedicured  toes or perhaps being trampled by a sharp stiletto?

If so, you are not alone. Of all the fetishes, perhaps the one that is most well-known and recognized is that of the foot fetish. Men and women alike by the millions admit to having some type of foot fetish and in the world of BDSM the foot fetish plays an integral role in many D/s relationships.  Many men I know have a huge desire to smell, lick, touch, taste, see, suck, female feet.

The foot fetish can cover a wide range of likes and lusts on the part of a submissive. There are some who may have an interest in a particular style or type of shoe being worn while others may focus on the foot itself. Some submissives have a fetish for well-manicured toes while others may like certain socks, stockings, pantyhose or thigh highs that encase the legs and feet. Still others may love the smell of a well-worn shoe, sock, stocking or just the smell of the foot itself. Each submissive who has a foot fetish may have a particular twist on the fetish itself that they enjoy the most.

I’d like to know what yours is…

honorThe way to this Mistress’s heart is through a foot massage. Personally, I could have my feet massaged for days. I love the way my cute size 7 feet feel in the warm palm of a man’s strong hand. Add a little oil and I am in heaven! My pedicured toes,smooth/soft soles and high arch on my feet is sexually arousing to some. My lover enjoys having one of my arches on his cheek during intimate moments.

Perhaps there’s a sexual attraction to feet because, feet are sometimes hidden as are other body parts. And when seeing just the curvy shape under a woman’e socks, one might feel curious, and wonder what they look like.

At home, I like to walk around barefoot. In a session, I start off in my sexy heels, and at some point, my shoes come off. I enjoy running my foot down the length of a man. If he is a true foot fetishist, we are a good match.flower

I love seeing a man kissing my feet or caressing it. I love using my toes in interesting ways on the body. My toes enjoy grabbing things, squishing things and curling around things. Since I am a fan of chest hair, my toes crave being buried in a thick carpet of male chest hair.

I also enjoy trampling! Lay on your back while I step on you. How about a little CBT with toes? Do you prefer shoes? That’s fun too. Let me dig my pointy heels into interesting places. It will only hurt if you want it to!

If you are curious about foot worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

A Session of Service

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d  I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of tea!

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

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The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society.  But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her.  I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and  understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in  love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off  to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty.  She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

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A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like  being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me.  I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about  Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Mummy Dearest

Many people like to get wrapped up in their work, but I can’t think of anyone who enjoys pallet wrap more then Ed of my friend and wrapper at Serious Images. You see Ed, is serious about bondage.

I met Ed at a party where he was watching over Modenarr who was lying on the floor wrapped from the neck down in pallet wrap with just his head and feet exposed and wiggling around. After carefully stepping over Modenarr, Ed and I sat down and had a long conversation where he explained to me the benefits of mummification and sensory deprivation.

Ed painted a picture of the recipient going on an inward trip, somewhat

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

different than the subspace of heavy impact play. He made it sound interesting and intriguing, and I expressed an interest in learning more and being both a top AND a bottom in a mummification scene.

Coincidentally, the next day, I went to a seminar at the Looking Glass featuring Cleo du Bois and sensory dep. It was a sensory dep weekend! The universe provides, here was something being shown to me that struck a cord, and I had to try.

A day was arranged and both Ed and Modenarr came over. Modenarr likes to use the term “wrap in foil”, and if you follow his adventures, you will find he is quite the little mummification slut, having played with some heavy hitters here in Silicon Valley. But I digress…

Modenarr, brought over a large suitcase filled with latex costumes, hoods and very specific metal devices. He also brought a bucket filled with colorful duct tape and 2 rolls of pallet wrap. He is a very prepared guy!

First, Ed and I strapped him into a sleep sac so I could see what that was all about, and since I have 3 cats, I wanted him to wear the kitty hood. We let Modenarr enjoy the comfort of my playroom and let the kitties explore the new plaything in the floor.

wrapAfter lunch, Ed gave me a step by step tutorial on proper wrapping and decorating using tape. We had Modenarr get nekkid, and Ed showed me how to wrap the pallet wrap around his body. Some folks wraps the arms separately, others wrap them to the body. You caan also use regular plastic wrap for this. After we encased his body in plastic, the duct tape was applied. Ed is known for his design work, so you won’t see a plain black wrapping by his hands.

We chose a red and black color scheme and I feel Ed’s design has a slight Aztec inspired look, don’t you?

photo (30)Of course, as a FemDom who delights in the naughty, a little humiliation was in order! I had a brand new dong, and Modenarr was the first to use it in any imaginable way. What a lucky kitty. Here he is giving it a kiss.

Remember, I offer private sessions as well as erotic photo sessions. Are you interested in mummification or sensory dep?

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing, gender bending is welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I can be found on Fetlife as MistressJ9. I look forward to hearing from you.

Please Allow Me to (re)Introduce Myself

At long last my naughty new website has launched! 

Welcome readers to my new blog and website. Take a look around and enjoy the view.

Today, I will reintroduce myself to all of my readers. I am Mistress J, Erotic Photographer, Feminine Dominant and Transformation Artist.

Many of you have read my blog posts and know what I do. This blog tells you how Mistress J came to be.

For as long as I could remember, I have been a Feminist. Born in the Midwest and raised with traditional patriarchal views, I always bristled at the notion that women could not do something simply because they were women.

I am not exactly referring to choice of occupation, such as a woman wanting to be a plumber or electrician. I do feel women should do what they want for a living, even if I had no desire to do that type of work. I am referring to things such as having to be in earlier than the male child, the assumed role of domestic goddess, the Madonna complex, etc.

I always needed a better reason than “you are female, it is your job.”

I also questioned the double standard of sexual freedom of men v. women and was told “that is the way it is.”

I remember admiring women who were in control of their sexuality, doing what (and who) they wanted  and living their life their way. Think Mae West and Marlene Dietrich.

Deep down, I didn’t agree with these patriarchal views, but didn’t know about alternatives. As I got older, I didn’t even know about kink. Eventually, I heard about it, but didn’t feel the need to explore it.  Until one day.

From the moment I picked up my camera I have been a voyeur. I became a photojournalist and my camera opened the door to many things, court-side seats at basketball games, backside passes at music events, meetings with politicians, crossing police tape, etc. Granted, I had to provide a service for those privileges, but don’t we all? My camera allowed me to participate from the sidelines, to watch, AND be in a spot of some importance. My images were respected and admired. On the side,  I was growing a wedding and portrait business which eventually turned into a full time job.

The years passed, and I started  to do boudoir photography for women, and I was naturally good at it. It was during these shoots I noticed an exchange of power that titillated me. Through advertising, I started to get a few phone calls from men who wanted nude photos of themselves for various reasons, slowly, I took these men on as clients.

It was also during this time I went through a very messy and painful divorce. I mention this only because that experience catapulted Mistress J to the surface. Trauma changes you, and in my case, it brought out my sexy, dominant side. My camera introduced me to a culture I didn’t really know about, but once I started exploring, realized I fit into it quite nicely. I also discovered I belong on top.

In the vanilla world, I felt I had to keep some of my discoveries on the down low, suppress my feelings of power, desire and art. I often felt like an outsider. In the kink world, I do not.

Mistress J likes to command. She loves to command with her camera. She loves to direct and watch someone strip themselves figuratively and physically of their clothes and trappings and reveal a piece of themselves inside. She loves to feel that intoxicating power of unleashing that energy and creating a beautiful photo. She enjoys seeing a man weep with gratitude having given him a safe place to show his feminine side in a world that only celebrates masculinity. She enjoys giving that shy guy or gal the experience of feeling confident & beautiful in front of my lens, even if it is only for a short while.

She is me.

I invite you to share that experience with me.

Intrigued? ? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.