Spring Time is Swing Time! A New Item at Mistress J’s.

Ryan lost a bet.

We were racing our turtles, and his lost, so he had to be my kinky handyman in the playroom. I had a fabulous new toy, so I gladly put him to work.

Stud finder. Enough said.

Ryan had to hang my new sex swing. I like my handymen to wear a specific uniform (nekkid), which he enthusiastically changed in to. He grabbed his tools and set about finding a strong ceiling beam to attach it to.

Ryan gave a new meaning to the term stud finder, pun intended. He found a support beam and picked a place on the ceiling. Up it went. Next, we had to test it out.

Who better to test out the swing than the man who put it up?  I put his naked ass into the swing and blindfolded him. I spun him around and we laughed as his feet hit my closet, Ryan is pretty tall. He hopped out and I put him on his tummy facing downward.

In this position, I simulated pegging him. We noticed his head was really close to the wall. I swung him back and forth, and if I did it vigorously, he would bang his head on the wall! This was not good. swing

I told Ryan he had to fix this problem and find a new place to hang the swing. I was irritated about this, and decided on a suitable punishment for putting an unwanted hole in the ceiling.

New spot found and tested. Now, on to the punishment!

a humble man

I’ll turn you into a humble man…

I cuffed Ryan to the cross and had him bend over. I grabbed his cock and balls and pulled them backwards, a little rope isolated his balls. Next, I grabbed a few dowels and rubber bands and made a homemade humbler.

He needed to be humbled for his error. Ryan is a good handyman, but in the past has made a few mistakes in my playroom. He needed to think long and hard about these blunders. Bad Ryan!

Great balls of fire!

Goodness gracious, great balls of fire!

I flogged Ryan’s back and used my cat claws on delicate areas. The problem with this punishment was, well, he enjoyed it. How was he ever going to learn?

“Get down on all fours.” I ordered, He complied.

I rather like predicaments, so I put him in one. And it was a dandy. Anal hook inserted and fastened to the wall, hands cuffed behind back, head resting on the floor. Next, a little foot torture. I hoped he was learning the error of his ways.

I quickly got the impression he liked where my feet were. Let’s just say Ryan was rising to the occasion! This was a very stubborn man who was not feeling remorse for anything.

badI got out my cane and swatted his bottom. “Repent!” I yelled.

Ten, eleven, twelve hard strokes. Finally a whimper escaped his mouth. Three more firm wacks to make sure. Satisfied he was going to be more careful next time he worked for me, I released him.

“Forgive me Mistress, for I have sinned.” Ryan said.

I decided to forgive him and we made an appointment for following week to hang my new blinds.

If you are curious about my swing, flogging, caning and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

 

Lock Him Up and Throw Away the Key! The fine art of male chastity.

“I know why the caged bird sings.”*  It’s because he is in chastity!

Some of ya’ll might be scratching your head and wondering what is this thing called male chastity?

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

Perhaps you are conjuring up images of medieval wives kept under lock until the arrival of key-wielding husbands. The men were in battle, the wives at home, and something had to protect their property from an invading penis, but male chastity? Come on! What’s up with that?

Women get the bad rap of being the emotional creatures. That really isn’t true. After all, men often can’t control their own sexual desires. Their need for sex with a particular person or a sexual act is often the driving force behind all that they do. They will go to great lengths to get it, often practicing in amazing deception, denial and even expense.

So who’s the emotional creature now?

I for one fully believe in female-led relationships. My clients want to experience some sort of toyssubmission, and a loss of control, the degrees vary by individual. What better way to rule a man, then to control the very thing he thinks with (his penis). And many men agree!

In short, chastity devices serve as a way of controlling the wearer’s sexual behavior, physically blocking the possibility of intercourse and masturbation. It’s primary function is orgasm denial. 

Orgasm denial is a multi-faceted erotic fantasy, but at its heart is a desire by a submissive man to give control of his sexual release to a dominant woman. Unlike many fantasies, it can be an all-consuming obsession, condemning the cage-wearer to constant frustration and anticipation. 

Being locked in chastity doesn’t mean the denial of sexual pleasure, just an abstention from release. In fact many men revel in the new found gratification they glean from the tease and denial games they engage in with their “key holders”.

The caged male likes the feeling of ownership, especially ownership of their sex. I personally enjoy seeing the frustration and pent up desire in my guy’s face. His eagerness to please and be a good boy. The possible promise of release and release.

How thrilling it is to be locked up and set free when his Dominant wants him for her pleasure. Such sweet objectification! He is reduced to a plaything, and at her command and timetable.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

I once had a sub who lived quite some distance from me. He locked himself up and mailed me the all the keys to his lock. He did not wrap them in tissue and they were flopping loose in a letter size envelope. The envelope ripped, and the keys were lost in a mailbox forever. Good thing he had a small saw to cut himself out when I wanted him free!

Chastity is such a complex subject. I could go on and on. But I’ll end this now and write more later.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about chastity and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*This is a reference to the book I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.

“You’re Breaking My Balls!” And I like it…

Ball Busting, CBT, Punching his Package. Such fun terminology for the same thing; beating a man’s bits!

A new meaning to "morning wood."

A new meaning to the term “morning wood.”

CBT or Cock Ball Torture can range from a light tickling or teasing to a full on kicking of the crotch. It really depends on the client and his pain tolerance.

My tools of the trade may range from my good ol’ hands and feet, to paddles, floggers, electric items, clothespins, clothesline and claws. The person in the photo on the left is a real pain slut and likes to be beaten with a heavy wooden paddle.

I think the appeal of CBT  for many is two fold.

First, there is the pain aspect. As stated earlier, the amount of pain varies by client. Pain can be very pleasurable within one’s limits. Light pain can be erotic. Tickling can be tantalizing, and torturous!

The second aspect is the attention given to a man’s nether regions.  A friend of mine once said “The only reason men get up in the morning is the hope someone will look at their penis.” With CBT, all the attention is on that area. Everyone is looking at it, and I am sure it feels very special.

Speaking of attention, check out this video. Sissy Danielle’s little boy clit is getting teased with my toes!   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McPCkxRI1io

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Cat scratch fever!

I also feel many men enjoy the psychological thrill of the woman controlling the cock. She does what she wants to it. And the cock can’t do anything but obey…

On the right, my favorite tools, the cat claws love to poke and scratch balls, especially when they are stretched and separated in my black leather cock case. Sometimes it feels like I am playing with balloons and I wonder if they will pop? It is highly recommended one remains still, as sudden movements can be dangerous.

A secure wrap in case of wind!

Wrap it up, I’ll take it.

So many men enjoy the feeling of having their “cucumber” encased that they get very excited. What happens next can be many things. It depends on my mood! Click on this link to see a client experiencing the whirligig, one of my favorite tricks.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-NGOWYTLzA

If you are curious about any type of CBT play, please let me know. I’d love to incorporate it into a session!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about CBT and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

You Naughty Boy! You Need a Spanking!

Attachment-1 (1)When boys are naughty, they need to be spanked!

Spankings are the second most requested service here at Mistress J Studios. The number one request will be in another blog post, so hold on pervs.

Why would a strong, manly man willingly pay me to turn them over my knee and spank their behind like a naughty child? Excellent question Grasshopper.

Spankings are intimate and erotic. There is a feeling of vulnerability and helplessness when one is draped bare-assed across a knee, with the buttocks on full display. One is instantly reduced to a body part, and a luscious one at that!

Bare bottom spanking is primal. It is humiliating, and for many, it feels good.

To quote Dr. Victoria Zdrok from an article on AskMen.

  • The bottom is a prime erogenous zone; however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation — like in spanking — to trigger them;Attachment-1
  • The physiological process of sexual arousal demands that before orgasm can occur, blood must be collected and kept in the genitals and nearby areas. Spanking creates just such a physiological response, as the stinging of the skin causes blood to collect in the bottom (and simultaneously in the nearby genitals), thus accomplishing “mechanically” what caresses and kisses do psychologically.
  • The feeling of “surrender” or submission is an important part of a sexual response, as many men need to give up control and give themselves “permission” to feel sexual. Spanking incites and reinforces such feelings;

Often the eroticism is triggered by something in youth. Perhaps a spanking from an Aunt or baby sitter triggered a sexual feeling. Maybe a photograph or scene from a movie stirred the first flush of desire.

For me, I got excited over the thought of the Spanking Machine. As a child in the mid-west, on a birthday of a classmate, the birthday person had to go through the Spanking Machine. The Spanking Machine consisted of crawling under a gauntlet of legs and receiving a spanking from each kid. The thought of delivering the spankings thrilled me. Especially on the male classmates. I dreaded receiving them, and was glad when my birthday fell on a weekend. The Spanking Machine could only be experienced on the actual birthday. Those were the rules.

I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I love a man’s butt! I love to sensually dominate men. So spanking a male submissive is perfect for me!  I use my hand, a hairbrush, paddles and canes. When a man is bare bottomed and across my lap, I can FEEL his excitement! Sometimes I need to place a towel across my lap to protect my skirt from the excitement. It’s a lovely feeling.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about spanking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

Come to the Dark Side with Bondassage® and Elysium®

It is an exciting time here at Mistress J Studios. I recently became certified in Bondassage® and Elysium® and am super excited to offer  these experiences to my clients!

I already offer spine-tingling sensual FBSM and BDSM experiences. Adding Bondassage and Elysium is like adding a cherry to a sundae. These are the high-end sensual experiences you have been craving to reach those hidden desires. You know, the deep, dark ones that you bury in your heart and soul?

Step into my parlor...

Step into my parlor…

My clients often hunger for a way to give up the control and decision making they have in everyday life. They yearn to surrender to a woman who can guide them to submission. Bondassage and Elysium take what I do one step further.

Created by the fabulous Jaeleen Bennis in Santa Cruz, providers must undergo a intensive 3-day training to call themselves a Bondassage or Elysium practitioner. The training is fantastic and I learned a lot. Certified Practitioners combine innovative massage techniques with subtle breath and energy work, rhythmic body play, and a delicious menu of skilled sensation experiences.

Bondassage is a kinky massage that will surely knock your socks off! Naked, collared and cuffed to my table, I will take you on a journey of submission, exploration, and pleasure. Letting go is the ultimate power. Letting go to me is the ultimate in pleasure. The session is steeped in wheelD/s and combines sensory deprivation, sensation play, massage and a little corporal work all in one. This is perfect for my massage clients wanting more edge play in their sessions or are curious to try BDSM. Three quarters of the session will be spent face down.

Elysium is a bound massage without the D/s. It’s a slower, softer version on Bondassage. There is sensory deprivation and lots of sensation play and tons of slow, sexy tease. Imagine being brought to the edge and back over and over. Elysium pushes the boundaries between bliss, self control and ecstasy and is designed for massage devotees seeking something spectacularly sensual. Three quarters of the session will be spent face up.

Both sessions are divine. Both sessions have me using my body as a tool to make you drool. Both sessions are for the connoisseur of pleasure.

Come and experience this deliciously creative playground and awaken to a profound level of pleasure and relaxation.

Submission never felt better…

Introductory rates:

60 Minute Session (Elysium only): 300.

90 Minute Session:  400 (required for first visit)

120 Minute Session:  500

Check out my profile on the Bondassage website!

 

If you are curious about Bondassage, Elysium and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose bondassagestudio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

Mummy Dearest

Many people like to get wrapped up in their work, but I can’t think of anyone who enjoys pallet wrap more then Ed of my friend and wrapper at Serious Images. You see Ed, is serious about bondage.

I met Ed at a party where he was watching over Modenarr who was lying on the floor wrapped from the neck down in pallet wrap with just his head and feet exposed and wiggling around. After carefully stepping over Modenarr, Ed and I sat down and had a long conversation where he explained to me the benefits of mummification and sensory deprivation.

Ed painted a picture of the recipient going on an inward trip, somewhat

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

different than the subspace of heavy impact play. He made it sound interesting and intriguing, and I expressed an interest in learning more and being both a top AND a bottom in a mummification scene.

Coincidentally, the next day, I went to a seminar at the Looking Glass featuring Cleo du Bois and sensory dep. It was a sensory dep weekend! The universe provides, here was something being shown to me that struck a cord, and I had to try.

A day was arranged and both Ed and Modenarr came over. Modenarr likes to use the term “wrap in foil”, and if you follow his adventures, you will find he is quite the little mummification slut, having played with some heavy hitters here in Silicon Valley. But I digress…

Modenarr, brought over a large suitcase filled with latex costumes, hoods and very specific metal devices. He also brought a bucket filled with colorful duct tape and 2 rolls of pallet wrap. He is a very prepared guy!

First, Ed and I strapped him into a sleep sac so I could see what that was all about, and since I have 3 cats, I wanted him to wear the kitty hood. We let Modenarr enjoy the comfort of my playroom and let the kitties explore the new plaything in the floor.

wrapAfter lunch, Ed gave me a step by step tutorial on proper wrapping and decorating using tape. We had Modenarr get nekkid, and Ed showed me how to wrap the pallet wrap around his body. Some folks wraps the arms separately, others wrap them to the body. You caan also use regular plastic wrap for this. After we encased his body in plastic, the duct tape was applied. Ed is known for his design work, so you won’t see a plain black wrapping by his hands.

We chose a red and black color scheme and I feel Ed’s design has a slight Aztec inspired look, don’t you?

photo (30)Of course, as a FemDom who delights in the naughty, a little humiliation was in order! I had a brand new dong, and Modenarr was the first to use it in any imaginable way. What a lucky kitty. Here he is giving it a kiss.

Remember, I offer private sessions as well as erotic photo sessions. Are you interested in mummification or sensory dep?

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing, gender bending is welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I can be found on Fetlife as MistressJ9. I look forward to hearing from you.