Drilling Me Softly… The Joy of the Drill-Do!

“I heard she sang a good song…”*

Wanna get tooled?

Yes, Mistress J is always on the lookout for new toys, and since 90% of her visitors enjoy ass play, she recently invested in a Drill-Do.

You see, women enjoy power tools as much as men, and this lil’ beauty has proven itself to be the queen of my crop. (pun intended)

This is an actual drill by Chicago Electric. I find that very appropriate since Mistress J’s family comes from Chicago. Serendipity perhaps?

This drill has a unique cock attachment and can accommodate any vac-u-lock style dong. The good news is, if I want to do any remodeling, I can switch out the cock attachment for a saw and take down what needs to come down. But, I digress.

The Drill-Do has proven itself to be a safe and fun toy that brings much pleasure to both parties. Mistress J is a stickler for hygiene, always uses a condom, and thoroughly cleans each and every item after use. 

Instead of a drill bit, I call it a drill butt!

Long term visitor Allen was my first victim. He submitted to some wax play and as he presented his lovely butt to me, I inserted the Drill-do. 

I think we we both a little nervous. I had never used a saw before and was unsure of the power and if I could handle such a machine. Allen was nervous because he was on the receiving end, and as someone very familiar with power tools, and, well, nothing more needs to be said.

I slipped on a condom and lubed up the dong. Once securely in place, I started the machine on low. I heard a delightful humming and couldn’t tell if it came from Allen or the Drill-Do. Perhaps both?

A Happy Mistress!

After the initial warm up, Allen gave the OK for faster power.  Soon, I had the Drill-Do going full speed! I felt so powerful holing my butt drill. Allen was very happy and could really take it, so I gave it.

Sweet Caroline

I am so glad I have my new toy. This has proven to be worth every penny, and is my ultimate tool. I have used it on quite a few butts, all with raving reviews. Mistress J has mastered the machine!

As always, Mistress J is looking for a few good men or women to play with.

Wanna try the Drill-Do? I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

*From Roberta Flak’s Killing me softly with his song.

Down of the Farm. Fall is Harvest Time!

Were you pervs aware Mistress J is a farmer? Yes indeed. She specializes in a particular form of animal husbandry; the male cock! And now that its fall, let’s harvest these guys.

 

Big, angry cock!

Cockadoodledo!

The farm is a serene place, full of peaceful animals except for one. There is one very large, angry cock with a bright red head. Look at him! Why is he mad? Perhaps he needs a spanking to straighten him out.

 

Peter Cotton Balls.

 

Bunnies happily frolic in the barnyard. Look at Peter Cotton Balls. Isn’t he cute? I think so, and in typical bunny fashion, it looks like he’s ready to multiply!

 

Lots of hay and tools are regularly used on my farm. Perhaps I have even used a few on you? Mistress J keeps her tools clean and organized, as you can see here.  Farmer J knows the perfect tool is necessary for a good harvest. She is always buying new things. 

 

A very special tool is the drip bucket. Drips and spills occur almost daily. An organized farmer like Mistress J has a bucket ready to go to collect milky white substances.

Remember the rhyme “Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water”? Well, Mistress J tends to fetch other liquids here on the farm, and the cocks don’t complain either…

 

More Cowbell!

And no farm can be complete without cowbells!

 

 

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination and want to visit the farm, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

The Perils of Being My Plaything!

It’s not my fault you are a dirty slut. But you are, and you need to be punished!

When you visit me, you agree to be my plaything. Your body is here for my amusement and entertainment. After we negotiate our boundaries, you become mine!  Now the peril begins…   

 

Taming the Teat:

Got sensitive nipples? I think nipple suckers are just the thing! Are you worried your nipples are too small? Relax, after an hour in one of these, your nipples will be nice and plump as the compression sends the blood to the desired area. They will be nice and tender afterwards too.

Girls just want to have fun. And this little lady liked electrical play on her nipples! Such a naughty thing. She needed to be put in her place. She was, and she liked it.

 

 

Humble Beginnings:

You know I like my men humble. I have both a homemade humbler and a store bought humbler. Here, Mike models the store bought humbler and a variety of festive clothespins I picked up last year on my vacation in Poland. Ain’t they pretty? And they feel sooo nice when Mistress takes them off! For some reason this photo makes me smile.

 

 

 

Controlling  the Cock:

Zap, Crackle, Pop! A fabulous erection controlling device is my zapper! The violet want comes with a variety of attachments and delivers a satisfying jolt wherever it’s needed. Leo is wearing the homemade humbler and to prevent him from finishing, I give him a hearty zap now and again. Another fun use for this is to use it during an edging session. A well timed zap keeps things in check.  You see, Miss J like to control everything

 

Where’s the beef?

Sometimes a man simply can’t control his erection! If that is the case, chastity shows him who’s the boss. Me! Here, Mike proudly submits to being locked up in his Bon 4 metal cage. He is owned by me and will now experience long term confinement. 

 

 

So that’s the story pervs.

If you are a nasty thing and are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Trimming the Weeds. Or, Should a Man Manscape?

To manscape, or not to manscape? That is the question.

If a client asks me if they should manscape, I ask them if they like their partners hairy. I leave it at that and let them decide. After all, hairiness is a two-way street.

I am a very open minded Mistress, and enjoy the male body in all forms, and I do enjoy me some male chest hair, especially to rub my feet in. But when it comes to the nether regions, my opinion is, trimmed is best. Not bald, or totally bushy, but trimmed. 

This is for a few reasons. One, it’s pretty and the hair does not visually detract from the main attraction.

The second reason is for CBT, or cock ball torture. If you want Mistress J to tie up your balls with rope, shorter hair is better. Now, if you are a hard core masochist, the longer pubes will get pulled and twisted along with the goods. Perhaps that’s what you desire?

The third and most important is cleanliness. Sometimes particles can get trapped in butt hair despite a vigorous shower. Good boys want to be minty fresh for their Mistress.

 This graphic will give you a good idea on why Dommes might enjoy a clean works pace.

Decorating is a breeze!

Gents, you won’t get no action, if we can’t see what your packin’!

That being said, while I prefer things trimmed down under, I won’t turn away anyone who looks like this.  And while I understand some areas are hard to reach, I offer erotic shaving as part of a session. Imagine me, warm water, shave gel and a sharp razor by your bits!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about being shaved and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

FBSM, Tie & Tease and Elysium. The Sensual Side at the Studio.

It is true Mistress J enjoys blogging about (with client permission) some of her extreme sessions. But many of the sessions here are sensual, and she likes it that way!

I spend a lot of my week doing sensual massage, and my new session, the Tie & Tease has become a customer favorite.   

I’ll explain a little about my three sensual massage sessions FBSM, Tie & Tease and Elysium, with pictures depicting Elysium and the Tie & Tease.

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Warm lube and oil feels of so nice!

In a FBSM session, you spend 60% face down and 40% face up. We always start face down.  Your arms and legs are free.

In Elysium and the Tie & Tease, you are restrained

Elysium is more 50/50 face up and down, but remember, in this session, your arms and legs are tied down to the table and are blindfolded and are wearing headphones. You really sink into subspace in this one.

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Can’t touch this!

The Tie & Tease is a face up session.  The whole time your sexy body is exposed to me. You are tied down, and you become a little toy for me to play with!

When one is tied down, they can look, or feel, but not touch. Often, my client ends up struggling against the restraints, muttering he wishes he could be free. That always makes me smile.

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Schwing!

As you stretch out your nude body in my warm playroom, I heat the massage oil and lube, along with some hot towels.

In all of my sensual sessions, you will experience sensation play. What is that you ask? Well, you can expect to experience a variety of objects all along your body. Some might be soft and fluffy, others a little scratchy, some pointy, some tickling, and for some, even mildly electric! Electric current can be very sensual when on a low setting.

Set to special music, all of these sessions start off slow. I like to think of each session as a slow seduction. I am the seducer of course, you, my object of desire. Slowly, I caress and tease your body, sending up shivers of delight. Face down or face up, something begins to rise to the occasion. 

After a nice beginning of sensation play, I do a nice body to body oil glide. My LUSCIOUS, CURVY BODY teases and torments you as I glide over you with warm oil. Remember, in an Elysium session, you’ll be deprived of sight and sound, so you won’t know what’s happening! 

It is after the glide when I turn you over.

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Taking “matters” into my own hands!

I really enjoy teasing and playing the edge game.   I tease you with my hands. Think slow Klixen massage. Such agonizing torment!

Over & over, I play with you, until you think you will explode. I love watching you struggle to maintain control over your body, which wants to rupture in delight. I bring you oh-so-close to the edge.

Then I back off, then do it again…    

How long can you hold out?

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about the Tie & Tease, Elysium, FBSM  & my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

 

 

 

 

Animal Crackers. Pony & Puppy Play with Mistress J!

dscf2566Happy Halloween! And in the spirit of the day, I will talk about a niche fetish, Pony Play…

You might be asking yourself why would someone want to be an animal? Animal roleplay of sorts has been around for centuries. A tribal member would sometimes take the form physically and often spiritually of an animal that was either revered or hunted.

Humans and animals have also had a close connection since time began. The horse, dog and cat being treasured friends. Both the human and the animal sharing a co-dependent relationship that is far from dysfunctional.

Recently, I had the honor of photographing some sexy animals and their handlers. It was loads of fun, and I even go to play a little.

Ride, Sally, ride!

Ride, Sally, ride!

One gentleman enjoys being a pony. Being a take charge kinda guy, he loves the feeling of submission to strong sexy women. Being a very fit Ironman athlete, he loves to have women ride his back and take him for a walk. While he prefers the feel of a naked woman straddled across his shoulders,

Mistress J did not do a nude photo shoot, so you will need to use your imagination on that one pervs.

I have had this particular pony over to the studio and have indeed straddled his strong, lithe back between my bare thighs. I felt his rolling tendons and had to clamp my thighs tight around him to stay astride. We walked all around the upper floor of my home. He was a good pony handling my weight well. I only had to use the crop on him twice. He was rewarded with carrots and petting afterwards.

Other folks like to be dogs. Dogs love the attention and affection lavished on them by their humans. 

Humans love the seemingly unconditional love they get from their pets, and pets thrive when loved and cherished by their owners.

“Happiness is a warm puppy.” ― Charles M. Schulz

“Happiness is a warm puppy.”
― Charles M. Schulz

Since many people have an altar ego, it makes sense that that altar ego does not need to be human. Who hasn’t admired the majesty of an animal running in the field or flying in the sky. Their grace and beauty is astounding. Their intelligence apparent, and when one connects with an animal it really is magic.

In some cases, pet play is seen as a loving, quiet cuddling time where there is no need for verbalization and the simple act of stroking, rubbing and holding the other partner is satisfying or reassuring in and of itself for those involved.

dog-walkingFor still others, there is the experience of power play setup in a context or structure which they can accept. Clearly, again, it depends on the people involved and what they bring to it or take from it.

 

All in all, Mistress J is very fond of animals.

 

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, or animal play, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

Such Exquisite Torture! A session with a masochist…

Allen* came over one sunny afternoon. He is a long time client here at Mistress J’s. Lately he has been craving some serious humiliation, degradation and even a little pain. What’s funny about Allen is he started off here as a sensual massage client. Now he is a hard-core pervy pain slut and I am constantly thinking of fun new ways in which to torture his ass. (among other things)

Allen was ordered to strip and wait for me in the dungeon. I was excited to use my three new ceiling hooks that Ryan hung when he lost that bet. I also had a few other surprises in store for him.

I chained these balls to the wall.

I chained these balls to the wall.

I know he is as fond of receiving CBT as I am of giving it. I have a few fun penis devices, but the problem is, Allen’s balls are rather large. It makes it difficult for me to wrap such devices around them so modifications are usually made. I knew he’d enjoy my spiky cock parachute, but also knew he wouldn’t be able to wear it the traditional way, wrapped around his balls and hanging downward. Instead, I wrapped it around his large cock and he had the thrill of experiencing a hundred little cat claws digging into his manhood!

I added a weight to the parachute so he could feel a nice swing when he moved. I took a chain and secured it to the wall. Poor Allen had to endure the entire session standing up, but that was by design, I wanted access to all the good parts.

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Tryin’a break the chains but the chains only break me**

I went about blindfolding and restraining him to the ceiling with cuffs and chains. Mistress J is really digging the new hooks. I took out my trusty anal hook, wrapped a rubber around it and lubed it up. I slowly inserted it into Allen’s butt. His growing excitement was evident despite wearing a tight, prickly parachute on his ding-dong.

Feeling owned and controlled, Allen hung his head and leaned on the long dangling chains for support. He had no choice but to submit. I took out my electric gloves and ran them all over his body, administering sweet shocks in the most private of places. At times, I spanked his firm little arse with my favorite paddle. He let out grateful yelps.

Poor Allen. This man comes here on his lunch hour to be treated like a dirty rag. How dare Mistress J do this to him?!?

Well, I aim to please.

This man had a bit more “treatment” to endure. I took my little footstool and sat down. I lubed up my new anal speculum and switched the hook for the speculum because someone needed to be DRstretched for something bigger.

The metal was a little cold, and Allen let out a shiver as it slid into his behind. I took my time and slid it in and out several times before opening it up. Allen sighed with pleasure as the speculum gently pried open his anus. I secured the latch and let him enjoy the feeling of the pressure the instrument gave to his inner butt hole. I enjoyed this part of the session. Not many men get to feel the enjoyment of a speculum, at least not as often as women. I felt like a doctor indeed and wished I had a white lab coat.

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Ride, Sally ride…

Feeling he was ready for the last part of my evil plans, I took out my harness and gave Allen what he came for; hard, forceful pegging! I took a photo of me riding his ass, which I did for 20 minutes. Do you feel sorry for him? I don’t. This man was getting what he deserved, and more!

So, Allen endured what I gave him, and when it was over, quickly devoured a bottle of water. He took a shower and came downstairs on shaky legs.

“That was a quick hour Mistress, thank you.” he said as he took leave of me.

I know he will be back soon.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*Name changed to protect the innocent.   **From Nick Jonas “Chains”.

 

 

Spring Time is Swing Time! A New Item at Mistress J’s.

Ryan lost a bet.

We were racing our turtles, and his lost, so he had to be my kinky handyman in the playroom. I had a fabulous new toy, so I gladly put him to work.

Stud finder. Enough said.

Ryan had to hang my new sex swing. I like my handymen to wear a specific uniform (nekkid), which he enthusiastically changed in to. He grabbed his tools and set about finding a strong ceiling beam to attach it to.

Ryan gave a new meaning to the term stud finder, pun intended. He found a support beam and picked a place on the ceiling. Up it went. Next, we had to test it out.

Who better to test out the swing than the man who put it up?  I put his naked ass into the swing and blindfolded him. I spun him around and we laughed as his feet hit my closet, Ryan is pretty tall. He hopped out and I put him on his tummy facing downward.

In this position, I simulated pegging him. We noticed his head was really close to the wall. I swung him back and forth, and if I did it vigorously, he would bang his head on the wall! This was not good. swing

I told Ryan he had to fix this problem and find a new place to hang the swing. I was irritated about this, and decided on a suitable punishment for putting an unwanted hole in the ceiling.

New spot found and tested. Now, on to the punishment!

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I’ll turn you into a humble man…

I cuffed Ryan to the cross and had him bend over. I grabbed his cock and balls and pulled them backwards, a little rope isolated his balls. Next, I grabbed a few dowels and rubber bands and made a homemade humbler.

He needed to be humbled for his error. Ryan is a good handyman, but in the past has made a few mistakes in my playroom. He needed to think long and hard about these blunders. Bad Ryan!

Great balls of fire!

Goodness gracious, great balls of fire!

I flogged Ryan’s back and used my cat claws on delicate areas. The problem with this punishment was, well, he enjoyed it. How was he ever going to learn?

“Get down on all fours.” I ordered, He complied.

I rather like predicaments, so I put him in one. And it was a dandy. Anal hook inserted and fastened to the wall, hands cuffed behind back, head resting on the floor. Next, a little foot torture. I hoped he was learning the error of his ways.

I quickly got the impression he liked where my feet were. Let’s just say Ryan was rising to the occasion! This was a very stubborn man who was not feeling remorse for anything.

badI got out my cane and swatted his bottom. “Repent!” I yelled.

Ten, eleven, twelve hard strokes. Finally a whimper escaped his mouth. Three more firm wacks to make sure. Satisfied he was going to be more careful next time he worked for me, I released him.

“Forgive me Mistress, for I have sinned.” Ryan said.

I decided to forgive him and we made an appointment for following week to hang my new blinds.

If you are curious about my swing, flogging, caning and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

 

Teaching Danielle a Lesson For Being a Slut.

Danielle was feeling slutty. Mistress knew it the moment she walked in. Her sluttiness hung on her like cheap perfume, cloying and sweet. She gave off that air of sluttiness that some mistake as confidence.  Mistress knows better. Danielle needed to be taught a lesson, and quickly.

Danielle was here to serve Mistress J. But she had a little attitude, and Mistress does not like a cocky gurl. Mistress J turned Danielle over her knee and pulled down her panties, giving her bottom ten hard smacks.

She then made Danielle stand in the corner and think about what she had done.

Mistress J had received reports that Danielle had been behaving badly at work. She had been teasing the men with her boobs and wearing very tight skirts, hoping to taunt them into touching her privates. Danielle was also known to brag about her cock-sucking skills, but in reality had never, ever sucked one.

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Danielle’s goods be locked up good and tight!

Mistress didn’t like that type of behavior.

“You little whore,” Mistress said sternly. “You want the boys to touch your clit, well, I’ll lock it up so nobody gets to play with it, including you!”

Mistress placed the steel cage around Danielle’s cock and balls. Danielle let out a little whimper as Mistress J closed the lock and tossed the key to the side.

“Dirty girl, you are always trying to suck cock,” said Mistress J. Do you even know how?”

Danielle shook her head no. “I don’t know how, but really want to try it,” Danielle said quietly.

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A glorious Glory Hole!

Mistress pointed to a wall of cocks and told Danielle she was going to have to suck off each one.

“See all those hard cocks?” Mistress J asked Danielle, who had already dropped to her knees in anticipation. “You suck them until I tell you to stop.  You need to practice sucking dick before I give you permission to go back to work and pleasure your coworkers.”

Danielle nodded eagerly. Her mouth was already beginning to water. She crawled over to the wall and hungrily began to suck on the smallest one, which was the blue cock.

She moaned with delight as her lips circled the member. This was even better than she imagined it would feel! It was so firm and round. The head felt so lovely to cup her lips around. Danielle bobbed her head up and down, slurping noisily and sliding down a little deeper each time. She hoped she looked like a porn star in action.

“Move to the black one.” Mistress J instructed. “Pretend it’s an ear of corn. Work it baby!”

Danielle moved her head along the BBC in a motion similar to playing the flute. Her lips glided along the outer rim, up and down the shaft. Her nose touched the balls and she slowly licked them. She slid back up to the top and circled the head with her tongue.

Danielle loved sucking these cocks. She felt very slutty and naughty. She loved the attention from Mistress J, she was working hard to please her.

Danielle next pleasured the purple and brown cock, following Mistress J’s orders. When she got to the IMG_20160216_162856606large white cock Mistress J gave her special instructions.

“The white one likes teeth. You need to learn to use your teeth properly without biting the damn thing off!”

Danielle nibbled and bit the cock noting Mistress J’s approval.

“Now deep throat it.” Mistress J ordered.

Danielle’s throat and mouth were warmed up now and the thing slid down her throat easily. However, the cock was long and when it hit the base of her throat she gagged a little.

“Keep going bitch.” said her Mistress.

Danielle obliged. She sucked and gagged, tears slid down her eyes and snot started coming out of her nose. She kept going, Mistress didn’t say to stop.

Her lips were getting tired and it was hard to breathe with the snot in her nose. She was afraid the gagging would make her puke, and she didn’t want that to happen. She was hoping Mistress would let her stop pleasing this big dick, but Mistress wasn’t saying anything. She was just watching and nodding.

IMG_20160216_163134953Danielle knew better than to stop. She was Mistress’ plaything and had to do as she was told. She sucked and gagged some more.

Finally, Mistress J told her to stop and to finish off the BBC with a titty fuck. Danielle did as she was told, taking it a step further to please Mistress J. She titty fucked both the blue and black cock and sucked the purple.

Mistress was very pleased indeed! When she was finished she got down on all fours and Mistress stuck a butt plug in Danielle’s boy pussy.

“You passed my test girl.” said Mistress J. “You may go and please the boys at work. But that cage stays on. When I decide you are ready, it will come off, and we will see what happens then!”

Mistress patted Danielle’s head and told her to stand up. She swatted Danielle’s behind as she was leaving.

“Go make mama proud!” Mistress J called out as Danielle left the house.

The End.

If you are curious about cock sucking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

And the winner is… Click here to find out what is most requested.

I know many of you have been hanging by a thread since my last post, wondering what the most requested service is over here at Mistress J Studios, in San Jose, California. Well, since it is the holiday season, I’ll tell you.

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It’s pegging!  

What is pegging some of you ask? It is getting poked in the butt with a rubber dong that is strapped around my hips.

It is amazing how many men desire the ultimate in role reversal. Remember that saying “It is better to give than to receive” ? My clients and I tend to agree, as I REALLY enjoy giving it good to a guy and having him take it like a girl!

The anus has thousands of nerve endings, thus making it a pleasurable experience when done right. Here is a link to Bliss Connection’s blog on 9 Tips For pain Free Anal Sex.

Pegging often goes deeper than just pleasure. I hear over and over, how my cis-gendered male clients want to give up control, to be taken, to surrender. Because of anatomy, even if they identify as submissive, their penis demands that they penetrate, and in most cases, move their hips.

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The magical mystery tour is dying to take you away..

In pegging, the boy and the girl trade places. She gives, he receives.

I love it. I am the one who controls the warm-up, the pace, the depth and the position. I tease and deny. I teach. Often, I will instruct my client to try a slow teasing technique the next time he has PIV sex. Certain positions give him a chance to feel leg fatigue, a common occurrence with the Cowgirl pose.   When the man wants to jump right into  the pounding, I hold him back, reminding him who’s in charge, and dictate the pace.

I see what the male sees, and he sees what the female sees. Pegging leaves me exhausted, and him often energized. Does this sound familiar folks? In this role reversal, the female gets a taste of how the man feels and what he does. They do a lot of work ladies!

Please don’t think for a minute that straight men who like pegging are secretly gay. It’s not about that at all. A straight man is not gay if he wants  to be pegged by a woman.

In our  deeply misogynistic culture,  men are raised with the fear of being labeled as someone who acts like a woman. How dreadful is that! (sarcasm) I mean, what man wants to be like a girl? Isn’t the man supposed to in charge of sex?

Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners, claim “straight men who get into anal penetration are among the most secure in their masculinity: because they’ve examined themselves, faced their fears.”

They go on to say “The idea that penetration is an act of dominance is almost certainly tied in to sexism and the notion that the woman’s role is inferior. Plenty of men have absorbed these ideas at a subconscious level. Even if a man doesn’t think it is an act of dominance when he penetrates his (male or female) partner, he may still hesitate to switch roles because he is afraid that it will mean losing his masculinity if he takes a turn catching instead of pitching.”

We’re steeped in a culture of prescribed sexual roles for men and women, so it’s a thrill to break the “rules”. I see a man enjoying the feeling of vulnerability he’s not accustomed to. The taboo of being penetrated is (for some) is what is exciting. Yes, it feels good, but here is a respectable, Dockers wearing, alpha man being bent over my couch and taking it in the a**.  He has given up control and all he can do is spread his cheeks and smile. How fun for him!

And fun for me too. There is a feeling of power and responsibility for me. This man trusts me with his most valuable assets, (pun intended) his body and his dignity. And I take that role very seriously. I always start off gentle…

Since sexism goes both ways, one of the reasons pegging desired so often here is because my clients want it, but can’t get it at home. Many say their gal thinks it’s silly or emasculating. I think that attitude is what is silly. What can be more manly than a man feeling comfortable enough with his partner and share his deepest desires, whatever they are? And one where she can express and explore hers?

Pegging breaks convention, it liberates, it connects. And it feels good.

Just to be clear, Mistress J believes in consent from both parties, and one should never do anything that is not to their liking or something they find distasteful just to please another person.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about pegging and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.