Lock Him Up and Throw Away the Key! The fine art of male chastity.

“I know why the caged bird sings.”*  It’s because he is in chastity!

Some of ya’ll might be scratching your head and wondering what is this thing called male chastity?

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

To cage or not to cage, that is the question!

Perhaps you are conjuring up images of medieval wives kept under lock until the arrival of key-wielding husbands. The men were in battle, the wives at home, and something had to protect their property from an invading penis, but male chastity? Come on! What’s up with that?

Women get the bad rap of being the emotional creatures. That really isn’t true. After all, men often can’t control their own sexual desires. Their need for sex with a particular person or a sexual act is often the driving force behind all that they do. They will go to great lengths to get it, often practicing in amazing deception, denial and even expense.

So who’s the emotional creature now?

I for one fully believe in female-led relationships. My clients want to experience some sort of toyssubmission, and a loss of control, the degrees vary by individual. What better way to rule a man, then to control the very thing he thinks with (his penis). And many men agree!

In short, chastity devices serve as a way of controlling the wearer’s sexual behavior, physically blocking the possibility of intercourse and masturbation. It’s primary function is orgasm denial. 

Orgasm denial is a multi-faceted erotic fantasy, but at its heart is a desire by a submissive man to give control of his sexual release to a dominant woman. Unlike many fantasies, it can be an all-consuming obsession, condemning the cage-wearer to constant frustration and anticipation. 

Being locked in chastity doesn’t mean the denial of sexual pleasure, just an abstention from release. In fact many men revel in the new found gratification they glean from the tease and denial games they engage in with their “key holders”.

The caged male likes the feeling of ownership, especially ownership of their sex. I personally enjoy seeing the frustration and pent up desire in my guy’s face. His eagerness to please and be a good boy. The possible promise of release and release.

How thrilling it is to be locked up and set free when his Dominant wants him for her pleasure. Such sweet objectification! He is reduced to a plaything, and at her command and timetable.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

This is how one is released when the key is lost.

I once had a sub who lived quite some distance from me. He locked himself up and mailed me the all the keys to his lock. He did not wrap them in tissue and they were flopping loose in a letter size envelope. The envelope ripped, and the keys were lost in a mailbox forever. Good thing he had a small saw to cut himself out when I wanted him free!

Chastity is such a complex subject. I could go on and on. But I’ll end this now and write more later.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about chastity and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*This is a reference to the book I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.

“You’re Breaking My Balls!” And I like it…

Ball Busting, CBT, Punching his Package. Such fun terminology for the same thing; beating a man’s bits!

A new meaning to "morning wood."

A new meaning to the term “morning wood.”

CBT or Cock Ball Torture can range from a light tickling or teasing to a full on kicking of the crotch. It really depends on the client and his pain tolerance.

My tools of the trade may range from my good ol’ hands and feet, to paddles, floggers, electric items, clothespins, clothesline and claws. The person in the photo on the left is a real pain slut and likes to be beaten with a heavy wooden paddle.

I think the appeal of CBT  for many is two fold.

First, there is the pain aspect. As stated earlier, the amount of pain varies by client. Pain can be very pleasurable within one’s limits. Light pain can be erotic. Tickling can be tantalizing, and torturous!

The second aspect is the attention given to a man’s nether regions.  A friend of mine once said “The only reason men get up in the morning is the hope someone will look at their penis.” With CBT, all the attention is on that area. Everyone is looking at it, and I am sure it feels very special.

Speaking of attention, check out this video. Sissy Danielle’s little boy clit is getting teased with my toes!   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McPCkxRI1io

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Cat scratch fever!

I also feel many men enjoy the psychological thrill of the woman controlling the cock. She does what she wants to it. And the cock can’t do anything but obey…

On the right, my favorite tools, the cat claws love to poke and scratch balls, especially when they are stretched and separated in my black leather cock case. Sometimes it feels like I am playing with balloons and I wonder if they will pop? It is highly recommended one remains still, as sudden movements can be dangerous.

A secure wrap in case of wind!

Wrap it up, I’ll take it.

So many men enjoy the feeling of having their “cucumber” encased that they get very excited. What happens next can be many things. It depends on my mood! Click on this link to see a client experiencing the whirligig, one of my favorite tricks.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-NGOWYTLzA

If you are curious about any type of CBT play, please let me know. I’d love to incorporate it into a session!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about CBT and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

 

You Naughty Boy! You Need a Spanking!

Attachment-1 (1)When boys are naughty, they need to be spanked!

Spankings are the second most requested service here at Mistress J Studios. The number one request will be in another blog post, so hold on pervs.

Why would a strong, manly man willingly pay me to turn them over my knee and spank their behind like a naughty child? Excellent question Grasshopper.

Spankings are intimate and erotic. There is a feeling of vulnerability and helplessness when one is draped bare-assed across a knee, with the buttocks on full display. One is instantly reduced to a body part, and a luscious one at that!

Bare bottom spanking is primal. It is humiliating, and for many, it feels good.

To quote Dr. Victoria Zdrok from an article on AskMen.

  • The bottom is a prime erogenous zone; however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require harder stimulation — like in spanking — to trigger them;Attachment-1
  • The physiological process of sexual arousal demands that before orgasm can occur, blood must be collected and kept in the genitals and nearby areas. Spanking creates just such a physiological response, as the stinging of the skin causes blood to collect in the bottom (and simultaneously in the nearby genitals), thus accomplishing “mechanically” what caresses and kisses do psychologically.
  • The feeling of “surrender” or submission is an important part of a sexual response, as many men need to give up control and give themselves “permission” to feel sexual. Spanking incites and reinforces such feelings;

Often the eroticism is triggered by something in youth. Perhaps a spanking from an Aunt or baby sitter triggered a sexual feeling. Maybe a photograph or scene from a movie stirred the first flush of desire.

For me, I got excited over the thought of the Spanking Machine. As a child in the mid-west, on a birthday of a classmate, the birthday person had to go through the Spanking Machine. The Spanking Machine consisted of crawling under a gauntlet of legs and receiving a spanking from each kid. The thought of delivering the spankings thrilled me. Especially on the male classmates. I dreaded receiving them, and was glad when my birthday fell on a weekend. The Spanking Machine could only be experienced on the actual birthday. Those were the rules.

I have mentioned in previous blog posts that I love a man’s butt! I love to sensually dominate men. So spanking a male submissive is perfect for me!  I use my hand, a hairbrush, paddles and canes. When a man is bare bottomed and across my lap, I can FEEL his excitement! Sometimes I need to place a towel across my lap to protect my skirt from the excitement. It’s a lovely feeling.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about spanking and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

 My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

A “Shocking” Tale of Electrical Attraction!

plug Bzzzzz, Zap, “ouch!” Ah, the sweet sound of success.

Electrical play is one that has a niche market. It certainly isn’t for everyone, because it can either be super painful or super pleasurable. Now Miss J knows that is true for most types of BDSM play, for some reason electrosex is particularly scary! But for those who are into  something “shocking”, I have a few toys to energize your session.

I know some of you are wondering what the heck is electrosex? According to Wikipedia  “Erotic electrostimulation (abbreviated e-stim[1] and also known as electrosex) is a human sexual practice involving the application of electrical stimulation to thenerves of the body, with particular emphasis on the genitals, using a power source (such as a TENS, EMS, Violet wand, or made-for-play units) for purposes of sexual stimulation.”

A TENs unit with a cock shock collar! Not for the faint at um, heart!

A TENS unit with a cock shock collar! Not for the faint at um, heart!

TENS unit? You mean like what they use at the Physical Therapist? Yes, electrostimulation has been used in the medical field for many years to treat chronic pain or rebuild muscles strength. So, with all it on this healing going on, a pervy person decided to try it on their naughty bits, enjoyed it, and a whole new sexual fetish was born!

Some people use electrostimulation for S&M play. It’s an excellent way to explore the pleasure/pain boundary without the usual risks of damage or lasting pain to the body. It can be precisely controlled and when it’s over, the one submitting to the stimulation is none the worse for the experience (something that cannot be said for most kinds of S&M play).

Before we go any further, I only use e-stim toys designed for sex play and the human body. If you have a pace-maker or heart arrhythmia or abnormalities, I will not use these on you. Your health and safety is my main concern.

For those lovely e-pervs out there, here is what I have to play with:

  1. TENs unit
  2. Cock Shock collar
  3. electric butt plug
  4. shocking nipple clamps

My favorites are the TENS unit and cock shock collar! I especially like using them together. My nipple clamps are photo 4also fun, but can be a bit much on a tender nipple. They work well in other exciting places too!

pd3723-04So far, only one person has been brave enough to try the shocking butt plug. Yes, you read that right, only one.  Do you think YOU might be brave enough to try this pleasure probe?

If you like sensation play and are curious about Electrosex and/or Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

Your House is Filled With Pervertables…

And you don’t even know it!

What’s a pervertable you ask? Don’t worry, it isn’t contagious. A pervertable is an every day object used for naughty things, and Mistress J has several.

Here are some suggestions from me. Feel free to comment with some of your favorites if I don’t list them. Let’s get a dialogue going.

This hairbrush was a gift from an admirer.

This brush was a gift.

 

A longtime favorite throughout history is the hairbrush. Dreaded and revered, the hairbrush is one of my favorite tools, and one of my most requested instruments. I love to give a nice over-the-knee spanking with my brush. After all, why should I hurt my hand?

 

 

Candles set the mood!

Candles can really set the mood!

Candles not only add ambiance, but also are a great addition to temperature play. The hot wax is poured on to the body and drips as it cools. Oh my! Hurts so good!

 

Not now, I have a (um) headache

Not now, I have a (um) headache

 

 

 

The opposite of hot is cold. This ice bag isn’t just for headaches!

 

 

All about the baste...

All about the baste…

Texture and sensation are fun with this everyday tool The BBQ brush! I like the silicone ones. They have a great feel and are quick drying after I give them a bleach bath for clean up.

 

 

 

 

A secure wrap in case of wind!

A secure wrap in case of wind!

Being green takes on a new meaning with these two old school items. As a young girl in the mid-west, the mothers on my block hung the family’s clothes on a clothesline secured with wooden clothespins. I love the way laundry smells when it is air-dried on the line. Don’t you?

 

 

 

Some other favorite pervertables include a wooden spoon, belt, toothbrushes, a comb, dish scrubber and feather duster.

Can you name a few that I have missed?

Making sure that nipple doesn't go anywhere!

Making sure that nipple doesn’t go anywhere!

If you like sensation play and are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

If the Shoe Fits…

These boots were made for walkin'. And tramplin' and being worshipped!

These boots were made for walkin’, and  tramplin’ and being worshiped!

Some say a girl can never have too many shoes.

I would tend to agree based on the amount of men that love a woman in sexy shoes! Heels can make both the wearer and admirer feel fabulous.

Shoes can make or break an outfit. And in my business my shoes can bring a man down to his knees!  Heels can be a symbol of feminine power and aggressiveness—of men’s craving for female dominance.

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Danielle admires Mistress J’s Nine West suede heels.

Heels are delicate and dangerous, (just like women) and those two things, working together, are the source of their appeal. 

“Will those pointy heels kick me?” my client wonders with hopeful anxiety. “If I am a good boy, maybe she will squish my balls between the shanks of her shoes.”

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I have clients that want me to trip the light fantastic on their back with my sharp, pointy heels. I tend to oblige, as I find watching a man struggle under my feet enjoyable. I also enjoy seeing the unbridled eroticism of the scene. The obvious sexual pleasure he is getting from a piece of my wardrobe.

The pleasure of a good pair of heels isn’t just limited to my clients. I admit, when I am shoe shopping and come across a hawt pair of heels that look and feel right, I do get a little wet. When I find the perfect pair of shoes, I get  an absolutely must-have-it feeling.  Owning and wearing a fabulous pair of heels, boots, sandals, etc. is a source of great pleasure.

That being said, I wear a size 7 and welcome gifts of shoes or boots. But beware, this Mistress has expensive taste.

You CAN keep a good man down!

You CAN keep a good man down!

If you have a serious shoe fetish and are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

Brittany’s Job Interview

Brittany wanted a job as an entry level secretary at Mistress J Studios, a job she was completely unqualified for.

Distracting the interviewer with a glimpse of stocking.

Distracting the interviewer with a glimpse of stocking.

Brittany got the interview by lying on her resume. She had no office skills aside from knowing how to use the phone from her years as a phone sex operator. She dressed with care hoping her attire would cover her lack of skill.

Mistress J conducted a conventional interview, asking the standard questions. Brittany admitted to not knowing how to type well, she didn’t understand email, and the copy machine was well above her grasp.

Sensing that the interview was going down hill, Brittany casually slid up her skirt, exposing the lace on her stocking. She flashed a big smile to make it seem like an accident.

“Well Brittany, it appears you really can’t do anything.” Said Mistress J. “Do you have any skills you can bring to the table?”

“I do Mistress,” said Brittany rather timidly. “I can suck cock and be a good little slut.”

"I do have one skill," said Brittany

“I do have one skill,” said Brittany

Concerned by the look of disbelief on Mistress J’s face, Brittany pulled out a large zucchini from her purse and demonstrated her oral skills. The zucchini received quite  a sloppy and noisy blow job.

Brittany did a pretty good job performing fellatio on the zucchini, and Mistress J was impressed enough to continue with the interview. However, Mistress J needed concrete proof of Brittany’s sluttiness. Sucking a vegetable was one thing, but sucking a Lady Cock was quite another!

Brittany performs well during the aptitude test.

Brittany performs well during the aptitude test.

Pulling her strapon with purple cock out of her desk drawer, Mistress J put it on. “If you really want this job you better suck me good,” she told Brittany.

“Yes Mistress, I will do whatever you say. I really need this job.” She got down on all fours and enthusiastically sucked Miss J’s cock. She slurped, sucked, bit and deep throated until Mistress was satisfied. She gagged a few times and almost threw up, but being a lady, she stopped herself.

“You did a good job Brittany,” said Mistress J as Brittany carefully reapplied her lipstick. “I think we have room for you in our organization. Please go to HR and complete the paperwork.”

"I really am a clumsy girl."

“I really am a clumsy girl.”

Brittany was so happy to get the job! After thanking her new Mistress, she stood up and stumbled at the door, dropping her pens and resumes all over the floor.

As she bet over to pick them up, she accidentally flashed her panties and butt. You see, her skirt had ridden up her long, sexy legs, and Mistress J could see both London and France.

“Oopsie, I really am a clumsy girl,” Brittany said with an apologetic smile.

Mistress J leaned back in her chair watching the little slut leave. As she straightened her desk, Mistress J smiled to herself and thought of all the delicious spankings that clumsy wench was surely going to receive while in her employ.

It was going to be fun disciplining her!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing, sissification, cock sucking or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session  in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

These are a few of my favorite things…

Like raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, Mistress J has a few favorite things she enjoys using on her clients.

I will describe them in no particular order. During a session, you might have the honor of experiencing one, or ALL of these items!

Remember, during a session you belong to me and you are my plaything. I get to tease & torment your body!

clawsMy longtime favorites are my claws. Sharp, but not too sharp, these steel beauties can be used hard or soft, and even in the most delicate of places! I particularly enjoy teasing the navel with these. And since they are stainless steel they are super easy to sanitize.

One of my first toys I purchased for myself was my Hitachi Magic photo 2Wand. The wand is a favorite among women because it gets the job done very quickly. It requires an electrical outlet and no battery operated toy equals its strength! When I ordered it, I also purchased the G-spot and P-spot adapters. Here, my Hitachi sports the P-spot adapter. I lovingly call this the Slut Machine, as it turns my clients into very willing sluts. Take a turn on the Slut Machine and let me know if you prefer the fast or slow speed.

 

photo 3Another favorite is the Blue Surprise. The Billy by Lelo is ergonomically designed for anal play. This little guy hits all the right places and the vibration and various pulses are sure to please. My favorite sessions involve using both toys. FYI, all insertables are condom covered for  your protection.

 

The newest addition to the family is my beautiful Towel Warmer!photo 1 All I can say is why didn’t I buy one sooner???? A hot towel feels great after a Bondassage® session or massage. Sometimes, when I am home, I take one out and simply enjoy the hot towel on my hands. I love it, and my clients do too. I invite you to try a session and experience a nice, hot towel.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio. I offer Bondassage ®, Elysium® various domination sessions, FBSM as well as erotic photography and sissy transformations.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

I’m Bringing Booty Back! All About that (b)Ass!*

Miss JThey like big butts, I cannot lie!

My curves tend to be an asset in my business, especially my big, juicy ass. I am, what you might say, bootyliciously built.

According to Cosmo, I AM fat. But according to my clients, I am perfect. Even when I was at my fittest, in my most splendid running shape, I had a curvy butt, a big butt. I couldn’t run it off, despite trying.

Over time, I noticed my lovers seemed to gravitate towards two favorite things, boobs and butt.  My hourglass curves became a source of inspiration and appreciation. After all, “Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.”* My lover enjoys rubbing his face on my cheeks and grabbing a handful of meaty lusciousness.Miss J Butt

I have certain clients who really dig my juicy butt. They ask me if they can worship it during a session. I usually agree if they have been good. This worship can consist of staring at my curvy loveliness to jiggling a cheek to music. A VERY good boy might be allowed to bury his face in it and plant a soft kiss.

FemDomI am rather fond of smothering my clients. Reward or punishment, the sight of my curvylicious booty crushing you will send delectable shivers down your spine.

Do you crave dominance from a woman with junk in all the right place? If so, then get your ass over here so you can worship mine!

If you are curious about ass worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 *These quotes are from the song All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor.

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

Do you think the female foot is sexy? Kiss feet

Do you have naughty thoughts about caressing the high arch of a delicate foot, licking perfectly pedicured  toes or perhaps being trampled by a sharp stiletto?

If so, you are not alone. Of all the fetishes, perhaps the one that is most well-known and recognized is that of the foot fetish. Men and women alike by the millions admit to having some type of foot fetish and in the world of BDSM the foot fetish plays an integral role in many D/s relationships.  Many men I know have a huge desire to smell, lick, touch, taste, see, suck, female feet.

The foot fetish can cover a wide range of likes and lusts on the part of a submissive. There are some who may have an interest in a particular style or type of shoe being worn while others may focus on the foot itself. Some submissives have a fetish for well-manicured toes while others may like certain socks, stockings, pantyhose or thigh highs that encase the legs and feet. Still others may love the smell of a well-worn shoe, sock, stocking or just the smell of the foot itself. Each submissive who has a foot fetish may have a particular twist on the fetish itself that they enjoy the most.

I’d like to know what yours is…

honorThe way to this Mistress’s heart is through a foot massage. Personally, I could have my feet massaged for days. I love the way my cute size 7 feet feel in the warm palm of a man’s strong hand. Add a little oil and I am in heaven! My pedicured toes,smooth/soft soles and high arch on my feet is sexually arousing to some. My lover enjoys having one of my arches on his cheek during intimate moments.

Perhaps there’s a sexual attraction to feet because, feet are sometimes hidden as are other body parts. And when seeing just the curvy shape under a woman’e socks, one might feel curious, and wonder what they look like.

At home, I like to walk around barefoot. In a session, I start off in my sexy heels, and at some point, my shoes come off. I enjoy running my foot down the length of a man. If he is a true foot fetishist, we are a good match.flower

I love seeing a man kissing my feet or caressing it. I love using my toes in interesting ways on the body. My toes enjoy grabbing things, squishing things and curling around things. Since I am a fan of chest hair, my toes crave being buried in a thick carpet of male chest hair.

I also enjoy trampling! Lay on your back while I step on you. How about a little CBT with toes? Do you prefer shoes? That’s fun too. Let me dig my pointy heels into interesting places. It will only hurt if you want it to!

If you are curious about foot worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.