Mistress J is Pervy, Even in Her Free Time!

Posted on May 1, 2015 by Mistress J

The Armory in San Francisco.

Last weekend (4/25), I had the pleasure of attending a cocktail party and filming at Kink.com‘s Upper Floor (TUF) at the Armory in San Francisco.

This was a fun evening. My partner and I got dressed up and enjoyed appetizers and a glass of bubbly while watching the models and crew create porn. They were initiating a new house slave.

We were “extras” on the set. There to provide color and movement in the background and of course look interested.

Interested we were! It is exciting to see any type of filming. Earlier this year, I was in the audience for a recording of The Big Bang Theory (BBT) at the Warner Bros. Studio in LA. This live porn shoot had it’s similarities and differences to that shoot.

There were less cameras on the set at Kink.com. Just as many lights, and we got to see the models warming up for the shoot, just as we did in LA for BBT.

There is a lot of prep involved, sometimes models have to stand on boxes for a better angle. There are pauses, retakes, & blunders, and many things the viewer doesn’t see.

The models and crew are treated well, are cared for, and their comfort and safety is a priority. Everything is pre-negotiated, and no one is doing anything they don’t want to do. The male model has a tough job, as he has to stay “focused” the whole time and cum pretty much on command.

Mistress J loves Victorian furniture!

The Upper Floor (TUF) is a great space! The decor is sumptuous, and resembles a Victorian parlor. As guests, we are encouraged to play. TUF is very male Dom heavy and I was one of the few FemDoms there that evening. I enjoyed being looked at by the male guests and could feel my actions being scrutinized.

My partner and I had negotiated our play on the way to SF. His job was to service me. He knelt on a pillow and orally pleased me, then gave me a very nice finger bang and I squirted on the Upper Floor! He obviously did his job well.

I think every young male should see a live porn shoot to see and understand that while the models are enjoying their job, they are being told what to do, and their actions are to make money. While the sex is real, it is not real life sex. Men should not assume all women want sex such as this. Communication and consent is sexy, so talk before you poke hun!

I know this is a different blog post than what I normally write, but I hope you enjoyed it anyway and learned a little about me.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

These are a few of my favorite things…

Posted on April 23, 2015 by Mistress J

Like raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, Mistress J has a few favorite things she enjoys using on her clients.

I will describe them in no particular order. During a session, you might have the honor of experiencing one, or ALL of these items!

Remember, during a session you belong to me and you are my plaything. I get to tease & torment your body!

My longtime favorites are my claws. Sharp, but not too sharp, these steel beauties can be used hard or soft, and even in the most delicate of places! I particularly enjoy teasing the navel with these. And since they are stainless steel they are super easy to sanitize.

One of my first toys I purchased for myself was my Hitachi Magic Wand. The wand is a favorite among women because it gets the job done very quickly. It requires an electrical outlet and no battery operated toy equals its strength! When I ordered it, I also purchased the G-spot and P-spot adapters. Here, my Hitachi sports the P-spot adapter. I lovingly call this the Slut Machine, as it turns my clients into very willing sluts. Take a turn on the Slut Machine and let me know if you prefer the fast or slow speed.

Another favorite is the Blue Surprise. The Billy by Lelo is ergonomically designed for anal play. This little guy hits all the right places and the vibration and various pulses are sure to please. My favorite sessions involve using both toys. FYI, all insertables are condom covered for your protection.

The newest addition to the family is my beautiful Towel Warmer! All I can say is why didn’t I buy one sooner???? A hot towel feels great after a Bondassage® session or massage. Sometimes, when I am home, I take one out and simply enjoy the hot towel on my hands. I love it, and my clients do too. I invite you to try a session and experience a nice, hot towel.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio. I offer Bondassage ®, Elysium® various domination sessions, FBSM as well as erotic photography and sissy transformations.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

Come to the Dark Side with Bondassage® and Elysium®

Posted on April 8, 2015 by Mistress J

It is an exciting time here at Mistress J Studios. I recently became certified in Bondassage® and Elysium® and am super excited to offer these experiences to my clients!

I already offer spine-tingling sensual FBSM and BDSM experiences. Adding Bondassage and Elysium is like adding a cherry to a sundae. These are the high-end sensual experiences you have been craving to reach those hidden desires. You know, the deep, dark ones that you bury in your heart and soul?

My clients often hunger for a way to give up the control and decision making they have in everyday life. They yearn to surrender to a woman who can guide them to submission. Bondassage and Elysium take what I do one step further.

Created by the fabulous Jaeleen Bennis in Santa Cruz, providers must undergo a intensive 3-day training to call themselves a Bondassage or Elysium practitioner. The training is fantastic and I learned a lot. Certified Practitioners combine innovative massage techniques with subtle breath and energy work, rhythmic body play, and a delicious menu of skilled sensation experiences.

Bondassage is a kinky massage that will surely knock your socks off! Naked, collared and cuffed to my table, I will take you on a journey of submission, exploration, and pleasure. Letting go is the ultimate power. Letting go to me is the ultimate in pleasure. The session is steeped in D/s and combines sensory deprivation, sensation play, massage and a little corporal work all in one. This is perfect for my massage clients wanting more edge play in their sessions or are curious to try BDSM. Three quarters of the session will be spent face down.

Elysium is a bound massage without the D/s. It’s a slower, softer version on Bondassage. There is sensory deprivation and lots of sensation play and tons of slow, sexy tease. Imagine being brought to the edge and back over and over. Elysium pushes the boundaries between bliss, self control and ecstasy and is designed for massage devotees seeking something spectacularly sensual. Three quarters of the session will be spent face up.

Both sessions are divine. Both sessions have me using my body as a tool to make you drool. Both sessions are for the connoisseur of pleasure.

Come and experience this deliciously creative playground and awaken to a profound level of pleasure and relaxation.

Submission never felt better…

Rates:

90 Minute Session: 500.

120 Minute Session: 700.

Check out my profile on the Bondassage website!

If you are curious about Bondassage, Elysium and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

Let My Fingers Do The Walking! Enjoy FBSM

Posted on February 4, 2015 by Mistress J

Who doesn’t like a massage? Massage is not an indulgence but a necessity. We must take care of our bodies in order to function at 100%.

They don’t need to be clinical to be therapeutic. In fact, sensual touch has healing powers beyond measure.

My Full Body Sensual Massage (FBSM) validates my client as a breathing, sensual being. My massages are without judgment around you being a naturally erotic, sensual person. I bring the attitude that I am giving something to you, and not trying to get something in return. You surrender to me, let me take control, and allow your body to be my plaything.

Most of my clients have deeper needs than sore muscles. They crave a sensual intimacy missing from their everyday lives. Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

I hear over and over desires of letting go and letting someone else take control. Many want to experience surrender in a gentle way. Others crave sensuality and vulnerability.

You’re in good hands with Mistress J.

By now, you are probably thinking “Speak English woman! What does this all mean?” Let me begin by describing a session.

With all sessions, we will spend a few minutes discussing boundaries, desires and expectations. I explain that restraints and blindfolds are optional and get your views on that. I discover your likes and dislikes on my various tools and share safewords.

You are led upstairs to my massage room. Candles are lit, the room dimmed. A soft citrus scent lingers in the air. You get undressed and wait for me on the table, breathless with anticipation.

I have carefully chosen music for this experience. As the music begins to fill the room, I lightly touch you. I start to lead you down the road to bliss, using your body as my plaything.

After a bit of soft teasing, I apply my signature massage oil. I have a very unique way of applying it! 🙂 Different levels of pressure are applied to your body. Nothing is off limits to me. I touch your feet, knees, thighs back, glutes, etc.

Then I flip you over and do more of the same! Stress and tension melt away. Your body tingles and your senses are heightened. You have lost the need to go somewhere, perform, or ‘do’ anything. You are mine, and you like it. Surrender never felt better.

If you are curious about FBSM and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

Posted on November 13, 2014 by Mistress J

Do you think the female foot is sexy? Kiss feet

Do you have naughty thoughts about caressing the high arch of a delicate foot, licking perfectly pedicured toes or perhaps being trampled by a sharp stiletto?

If so, you are not alone. Of all the fetishes, perhaps the one that is most well-known and recognized is that of the foot fetish. Men and women alike by the millions admit to having some type of foot fetish and in the world of BDSM the foot fetish plays an integral role in many D/s relationships. Many men I know have a huge desire to smell, lick, touch, taste, see, suck, female feet.

The foot fetish can cover a wide range of likes and lusts on the part of a submissive. There are some who may have an interest in a particular style or type of shoe being worn while others may focus on the foot itself. Some submissives have a fetish for well-manicured toes while others may like certain socks, stockings, pantyhose or thigh highs that encase the legs and feet. Still others may love the smell of a well-worn shoe, sock, stocking or just the smell of the foot itself. Each submissive who has a foot fetish may have a particular twist on the fetish itself that they enjoy the most.

I’d like to know what yours is…

honor The way to this Mistress’s heart is through a foot massage. Personally, I could have my feet massaged for days. I love the way my cute size 7 feet feel in the warm palm of a man’s strong hand. Add a little oil and I am in heaven! My pedicured toes,smooth/soft soles and high arch on my feet is sexually arousing to some. My lover enjoys having one of my arches on his cheek during intimate moments.

Perhaps there’s a sexual attraction to feet because, feet are sometimes hidden as are other body parts. And when seeing just the curvy shape under a woman’e socks, one might feel curious, and wonder what they look like.

At home, I like to walk around barefoot. In a session, I start off in my sexy heels, and at some point, my shoes come off. I enjoy running my foot down the length of a man. If he is a true foot fetishist, we are a good match. flower

I love seeing a man kissing my feet or caressing it. I love using my toes in interesting ways on the body. My toes enjoy grabbing things, squishing things and curling around things. Since I am a fan of chest hair, my toes crave being buried in a thick carpet of male chest hair.

I also enjoy trampling! Lay on your back while I step on you. How about a little CBT with toes? Do you prefer shoes? That’s fun too. Let me dig my pointy heels into interesting places. It will only hurt if you want it to!

If you are curious about foot worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

A Session of Service

Posted on October 21, 2014 by Mistress J

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Mistress J

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society. But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her. I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty. She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Mistress J

A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me. I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Caught With His Panties Down!

Posted on July 23, 2014 by Mistress J

Pretty in Pink!

There are some men who enjoy wearing women’s panties. I happen to enjoy these men, and they do seem to find me.

Many a female friend has asked me what I enjoy about a panty-clad man, since they don’t find it attractive at all. There is defiantly a D/s aspect in asking a man to wear panties.

Historically, a straight man would sooner die than wear women’s clothes, for fear of being emasculated, or called a sissy by his peers. To seem “woman-like” was a terrible thing. Since women were perceived as weak, a man could NOT be weak. That would be social suicide.

The fan had a secret language in days of old!

Though women had extreme social limitations, and labeled the “weaker” sex, they fortunately had the privilege of being the decorative sex. Women were able to express themselves through fabrics. Colors, textures, silks, satin, lace, ribbons and assorted trimmings were all at her disposal. And this wasn’t just limited to outerwear. Women’s underwear has, and continues to be, the ultimate sensual expression of female sexuality.

My clients enjoy wearing women’s panties because it pleases me. I enjoy the way the high cut legs accentuate a man’s behind. I love the way his package is highlighted and outlined. All the time, I hear that men enjoy the feeling of the silky fabric, the pretty lace and colors make them feel sexy in a way their plain, white cotton Jockey shorts do not.

May I serve you Mistress?

I have seen amazing transformations the minute a frilly pair of panties is put on. The quiet, conservative man starts shaking his behind in glee. Feminine mannerisms appear suddenly natural to the wearer. It is as if the panties were a magical garment releasing a hidden person!

The intimate nature of the item also allows concealment under manly work clothes. Added excitement is the possible threat of discovery. Wearing panties to work is a delightful secret for the wearer and his Mistress.

Proof that some men wear panties to work!

Silicon Valley is a place of many contradictions. Men in tech are expected to be aggressive and dominant, and very much in control. It is a place where Dockers and a polo shirt are the standard uniform, though many young engineers wear jeans. That boring uniform cries out for expression. Realistically, one must conform, so panty wearing is the perfect solution to add some flair and sensuality, yet still remain outwardly masculine.

If you are curious about wearing panties or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Mummy Dearest

Posted on April 1, 2013 by Mistress J

Many people like to get wrapped up in their work, but I can’t think of anyone who enjoys pallet wrap more then Ed of my friend and wrapper at Serious Images. You see Ed, is serious about bondage.

I met Ed at a party where he was watching over Modenarr who was lying on the floor wrapped from the neck down in pallet wrap with just his head and feet exposed and wiggling around. After carefully stepping over Modenarr, Ed and I sat down and had a long conversation where he explained to me the benefits of mummification and sensory deprivation.

Ed painted a picture of the recipient going on an inward trip, somewhat

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

different than the subspace of heavy impact play. He made it sound interesting and intriguing, and I expressed an interest in learning more and being both a top AND a bottom in a mummification scene.

Coincidentally, the next day, I went to a seminar at the Looking Glass featuring Cleo du Bois and sensory dep. It was a sensory dep weekend! The universe provides, here was something being shown to me that struck a cord, and I had to try.

A day was arranged and both Ed and Modenarr came over. Modenarr likes to use the term “wrap in foil”, and if you follow his adventures, you will find he is quite the little mummification slut, having played with some heavy hitters here in Silicon Valley. But I digress…

Modenarr, brought over a large suitcase filled with latex costumes, hoods and very specific metal devices. He also brought a bucket filled with colorful duct tape and 2 rolls of pallet wrap. He is a very prepared guy!

First, Ed and I strapped him into a sleep sac so I could see what that was all about, and since I have 3 cats, I wanted him to wear the kitty hood. We let Modenarr enjoy the comfort of my playroom and let the kitties explore the new plaything in the floor.

wrap After lunch, Ed gave me a step by step tutorial on proper wrapping and decorating using tape. We had Modenarr get nekkid, and Ed showed me how to wrap the pallet wrap around his body. Some folks wraps the arms separately, others wrap them to the body. You caan also use regular plastic wrap for this. After we encased his body in plastic, the duct tape was applied. Ed is known for his design work, so you won’t see a plain black wrapping by his hands.

We chose a red and black color scheme and I feel Ed’s design has a slight Aztec inspired look, don’t you?

photo (30) Of course, as a FemDom who delights in the naughty, a little humiliation was in order! I had a brand new dong, and Modenarr was the first to use it in any imaginable way. What a lucky kitty. Here he is giving it a kiss.

Remember, I offer private sessions as well as erotic photo sessions. Are you interested in mummification or sensory dep?

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing, gender bending is welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I can be found on Fetlife as MistressJ9. I look forward to hearing from you.

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Category Archives: News

Mistress J is Pervy, Even in Her Free Time!

These are a few of my favorite things…

Come to the Dark Side with Bondassage® and Elysium®

Let My Fingers Do The Walking! Enjoy FBSM

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

A Session of Service

The Secret Woman

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

Caught With His Panties Down!

Mummy Dearest