Let My Fingers Do The Walking! Enjoy FBSM

Posted on February 4, 2015 by Mistress J

Who doesn’t like a massage? Massage is not an indulgence but a necessity. We must take care of our bodies in order to function at 100%.

They don’t need to be clinical to be therapeutic. In fact, sensual touch has healing powers beyond measure.

My Full Body Sensual Massage (FBSM) validates my client as a breathing, sensual being. My massages are without judgment around you being a naturally erotic, sensual person. I bring the attitude that I am giving something to you, and not trying to get something in return. You surrender to me, let me take control, and allow your body to be my plaything.

Most of my clients have deeper needs than sore muscles. They crave a sensual intimacy missing from their everyday lives. Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

I hear over and over desires of letting go and letting someone else take control. Many want to experience surrender in a gentle way. Others crave sensuality and vulnerability.

You’re in good hands with Mistress J.

By now, you are probably thinking “Speak English woman! What does this all mean?” Let me begin by describing a session.

With all sessions, we will spend a few minutes discussing boundaries, desires and expectations. I explain that restraints and blindfolds are optional and get your views on that. I discover your likes and dislikes on my various tools and share safewords.

You are led upstairs to my massage room. Candles are lit, the room dimmed. A soft citrus scent lingers in the air. You get undressed and wait for me on the table, breathless with anticipation.

I have carefully chosen music for this experience. As the music begins to fill the room, I lightly touch you. I start to lead you down the road to bliss, using your body as my plaything.

After a bit of soft teasing, I apply my signature massage oil. I have a very unique way of applying it! 🙂 Different levels of pressure are applied to your body. Nothing is off limits to me. I touch your feet, knees, thighs back, glutes, etc.

Then I flip you over and do more of the same! Stress and tension melt away. Your body tingles and your senses are heightened. You have lost the need to go somewhere, perform, or ‘do’ anything. You are mine, and you like it. Surrender never felt better.

If you are curious about FBSM and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

I’m Bringing Booty Back! All About that (b)Ass!*

Posted on December 9, 2014 by Mistress J

They like big butts, I cannot lie!

My curves tend to be an asset in my business, especially my big, juicy ass. I am, what you might say, bootyliciously built.

According to Cosmo, I AM fat. But according to my clients, I am perfect. Even when I was at my fittest, in my most splendid running shape, I had a curvy butt, a big butt. I couldn’t run it off, despite trying.

Over time, I noticed my lovers seemed to gravitate towards two favorite things, boobs and butt. My hourglass curves became a source of inspiration and appreciation. After all, “Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.”* My lover enjoys rubbing his face on my cheeks and grabbing a handful of meaty lusciousness.

I have certain clients who really dig my juicy butt. They ask me if they can worship it during a session. I usually agree if they have been good. This worship can consist of staring at my curvy loveliness to jiggling a cheek to music. A VERY good boy might be allowed to bury his face in it and plant a soft kiss.

I am rather fond of smothering my clients. Reward or punishment, the sight of my curvylicious booty crushing you will send delectable shivers down your spine.

Do you crave dominance from a woman with junk in all the right place? If so, then get your ass over here so you can worship mine!

If you are curious about ass worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

*These quotes are from the song All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor.

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

Posted on November 13, 2014 by Mistress J

Do you think the female foot is sexy? Kiss feet

Do you have naughty thoughts about caressing the high arch of a delicate foot, licking perfectly pedicured toes or perhaps being trampled by a sharp stiletto?

If so, you are not alone. Of all the fetishes, perhaps the one that is most well-known and recognized is that of the foot fetish. Men and women alike by the millions admit to having some type of foot fetish and in the world of BDSM the foot fetish plays an integral role in many D/s relationships. Many men I know have a huge desire to smell, lick, touch, taste, see, suck, female feet.

The foot fetish can cover a wide range of likes and lusts on the part of a submissive. There are some who may have an interest in a particular style or type of shoe being worn while others may focus on the foot itself. Some submissives have a fetish for well-manicured toes while others may like certain socks, stockings, pantyhose or thigh highs that encase the legs and feet. Still others may love the smell of a well-worn shoe, sock, stocking or just the smell of the foot itself. Each submissive who has a foot fetish may have a particular twist on the fetish itself that they enjoy the most.

I’d like to know what yours is…

honor The way to this Mistress’s heart is through a foot massage. Personally, I could have my feet massaged for days. I love the way my cute size 7 feet feel in the warm palm of a man’s strong hand. Add a little oil and I am in heaven! My pedicured toes,smooth/soft soles and high arch on my feet is sexually arousing to some. My lover enjoys having one of my arches on his cheek during intimate moments.

Perhaps there’s a sexual attraction to feet because, feet are sometimes hidden as are other body parts. And when seeing just the curvy shape under a woman’e socks, one might feel curious, and wonder what they look like.

At home, I like to walk around barefoot. In a session, I start off in my sexy heels, and at some point, my shoes come off. I enjoy running my foot down the length of a man. If he is a true foot fetishist, we are a good match. flower

I love seeing a man kissing my feet or caressing it. I love using my toes in interesting ways on the body. My toes enjoy grabbing things, squishing things and curling around things. Since I am a fan of chest hair, my toes crave being buried in a thick carpet of male chest hair.

I also enjoy trampling! Lay on your back while I step on you. How about a little CBT with toes? Do you prefer shoes? That’s fun too. Let me dig my pointy heels into interesting places. It will only hurt if you want it to!

If you are curious about foot worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

A Session of Service

Posted on October 21, 2014 by Mistress J

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Mistress J

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society. But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her. I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty. She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Mistress J

A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me. I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Please Allow Me to (re)Introduce Myself

Posted on February 17, 2013 by Mistress J

At long last my naughty new website has launched!

Welcome readers to my new blog and website. Take a look around and enjoy the view.

Today, I will reintroduce myself to all of my readers. I am Mistress J, Erotic Photographer, Feminine Dominant and Transformation Artist.

Many of you have read my blog posts and know what I do. This blog tells you how Mistress J came to be.

For as long as I could remember, I have been a Feminist. Born in the Midwest and raised with traditional patriarchal views, I always bristled at the notion that women could not do something simply because they were women.

I am not exactly referring to choice of occupation, such as a woman wanting to be a plumber or electrician. I do feel women should do what they want for a living, even if I had no desire to do that type of work. I am referring to things such as having to be in earlier than the male child, the assumed role of domestic goddess, the Madonna complex, etc.

I always needed a better reason than “you are female, it is your job.”

I also questioned the double standard of sexual freedom of men v. women and was told “that is the way it is.”

I remember admiring women who were in control of their sexuality, doing what (and who) they wanted and living their life their way. Think Mae West and Marlene Dietrich.

Deep down, I didn’t agree with these patriarchal views, but didn’t know about alternatives. As I got older, I didn’t even know about kink. Eventually, I heard about it, but didn’t feel the need to explore it. Until one day.

From the moment I picked up my camera I have been a voyeur. I became a photojournalist and my camera opened the door to many things, court-side seats at basketball games, backside passes at music events, meetings with politicians, crossing police tape, etc. Granted, I had to provide a service for those privileges, but don’t we all? My camera allowed me to participate from the sidelines, to watch, AND be in a spot of some importance. My images were respected and admired. On the side, I was growing a wedding and portrait business which eventually turned into a full time job.

The years passed, and I started to do boudoir photography for women, and I was naturally good at it. It was during these shoots I noticed an exchange of power that titillated me. Through advertising, I started to get a few phone calls from men who wanted nude photos of themselves for various reasons, slowly, I took these men on as clients.

It was also during this time I went through a very messy and painful divorce. I mention this only because that experience catapulted Mistress J to the surface. Trauma changes you, and in my case, it brought out my sexy, dominant side. My camera introduced me to a culture I didn’t really know about, but once I started exploring, realized I fit into it quite nicely. I also discovered I belong on top.

In the vanilla world, I felt I had to keep some of my discoveries on the down low, suppress my feelings of power, desire and art. I often felt like an outsider. In the kink world, I do not.

Mistress J likes to command. She loves to command with her camera. She loves to direct and watch someone strip themselves figuratively and physically of their clothes and trappings and reveal a piece of themselves inside. She loves to feel that intoxicating power of unleashing that energy and creating a beautiful photo. She enjoys seeing a man weep with gratitude having given him a safe place to show his feminine side in a world that only celebrates masculinity. She enjoys giving that shy guy or gal the experience of feeling confident & beautiful in front of my lens, even if it is only for a short while.

She is me.

I invite you to share that experience with me.

Intrigued? ? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California.

The Male Submissive and the Photographer

Posted on November 7, 2012 by Mistress J

The male submissive. Does that sentence conjure up images of wimpy men brow beaten by a shameless shrew of a wife? Media images of the submissive man have shown the man to be much smaller in stature, super thin weak and almost effeminate compared to his large bossy and brash wife. But is this true?

No.

In my experience, the male submissive is complex. Often he is very successful and could be considered Alpha in many respects. If traditionally the male is told he is the leader, to be dominant, why would a man go against convention and submit to a woman? This goes against biblical writings and preaching and shatters the foundation of traditional family. Why would a man want to do this?

The answer is as complex as the man himself and cannot be answered in a single blog post.

I will tell you of MY experiences as a FemDom, as Mistress J, erotic photographer. I think it comes down to yearning. For whatever reasons, when we reach adulthood and start experiencing sex there are deeply ingrained desires we often ignore or don’t understand. Some have the need to serve or to be controlled or bullied. Some are either born naturally submissive or an event triggered this desire. The reasons are as varied as there are people on this earth.

As Mistress J, my clients come to me in search of a release. I call myself a “Keeper of Secrets.” My clients have shared with me sides to themselves their wives, friends, coworkers do not know, and they trust me. They come with a pent up desire to communicate something to someone who will understand. Perhaps to even feel desirable, if only for an hour.

Others have come with a curiosity of what a Domme and BDSM is like. An erotic photo session is a unique way to get introduced to this kinky world.

Based on the D/s dynamic the photographer controls the scene and works within the subjects limits, pushing extracting, pulling. Negotiations always take place before the scene, I give aftercare, and touch base a day after to check in. This is all done under my loving female authority.

For me, as the photographer, I do get a feeling of power having my male subject reveal himself before me. I enjoy pushing him. It is a difficult thing to literally and figuratively undress before a camera. I enjoy watching the layers unfold. I often get a sexual charge, and combined with my feeling of power and control I feel my FemDom emerge.

As an artist, photography has been my way of expressing myself. I have allowed my camera to speak for me for over 15 years giving voice to my beliefs. I have been an activist, philanthropist, anthropologist and journalist all behind my lens. I have felt that taking a portrait has always been more than just capturing what someone looks like. As Mistress J came into being, it was a natural progression for me to seek out the submissive male and dominate him with my camera.

Intrigued? Call me.

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Tag Archives: male submissive

Let My Fingers Do The Walking! Enjoy FBSM

I’m Bringing Booty Back! All About that (b)Ass!*

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

A Session of Service

The Secret Woman

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

Please Allow Me to (re)Introduce Myself

At long last my naughty new website has launched!

The Male Submissive and the Photographer