Let My Fingers Do The Walking! Enjoy FBSM

Who doesn’t like a massage? Massage is not an indulgence but a necessity. We must take care of our bodies in order to function at 100%man on table.

They don’t need to be clinical to be therapeutic. In fact, sensual touch has healing powers beyond measure.

My Full Body Sensual Massage (FBSM) validates my client as a breathing, sensual being. My massages are without judgment around you being a naturally erotic, sensual person. I bring the attitude that I am giving something to you, and not trying to get something in return. You surrender to me, let me take control,  and allow your body to be my plaything.

Most of my clients have deeper needs than sore muscles. They crave a sensual intimacy missing from their everyday lives. Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together.

I hear over and over desires of letting go and letting someone else take control. Many want to experience surrender in a gentle way. Others crave sensuality and vulnerability.

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You’re in good hands with Mistress J.

By now, you are probably thinking “Speak English woman! What does this all mean?” Let me begin by describing a session.

With all sessions, we will spend a few minutes discussing boundaries, desires and expectations. I explain that restraints and blindfolds are optional and get your views on that. I discover your likes and dislikes on my various tools and share safewords.

 

You are led upstairs to my massage room. Candles are lit, the room dimmed. A soft citrus scent lingers in the air. You get undressed and wait for me on the table, breathless with anticipation.

I have carefully chosen music for this experience. As the music begins to fill the room, I lightly touch you. I start to lead you down the road to bliss, using your body as my plaything.

After a bit of soft teasing, I apply my signature massage oil. I have sexy massagea very unique way of applying it! 🙂 Different levels of pressure are applied to your body. Nothing is off limits to me. I touch your feet, knees, thighs back, glutes, etc.

Then I flip you over and do more of the same! Stress and tension melt away. Your body tingles and your senses are heightened. You have lost the need to go somewhere, perform, or ‘do’ anything. You are mine, and you like it. Surrender never felt better.

If you are curious about FBSM and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

I’m Bringing Booty Back! All About that (b)Ass!*

Miss JThey like big butts, I cannot lie!

My curves tend to be an asset in my business, especially my big, juicy ass. I am, what you might say, bootyliciously built.

According to Cosmo, I AM fat. But according to my clients, I am perfect. Even when I was at my fittest, in my most splendid running shape, I had a curvy butt, a big butt. I couldn’t run it off, despite trying.

Over time, I noticed my lovers seemed to gravitate towards two favorite things, boobs and butt.  My hourglass curves became a source of inspiration and appreciation. After all, “Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.”* My lover enjoys rubbing his face on my cheeks and grabbing a handful of meaty lusciousness.Miss J Butt

I have certain clients who really dig my juicy butt. They ask me if they can worship it during a session. I usually agree if they have been good. This worship can consist of staring at my curvy loveliness to jiggling a cheek to music. A VERY good boy might be allowed to bury his face in it and plant a soft kiss.

FemDomI am rather fond of smothering my clients. Reward or punishment, the sight of my curvylicious booty crushing you will send delectable shivers down your spine.

Do you crave dominance from a woman with junk in all the right place? If so, then get your ass over here so you can worship mine!

If you are curious about ass worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 *These quotes are from the song All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor.

A Session of Service

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d  I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of tea!

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

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The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society.  But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her.  I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and  understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in  love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off  to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty.  She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

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A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like  being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me.  I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about  Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Mummy Dearest

Many people like to get wrapped up in their work, but I can’t think of anyone who enjoys pallet wrap more then Ed of my friend and wrapper at Serious Images. You see Ed, is serious about bondage.

I met Ed at a party where he was watching over Modenarr who was lying on the floor wrapped from the neck down in pallet wrap with just his head and feet exposed and wiggling around. After carefully stepping over Modenarr, Ed and I sat down and had a long conversation where he explained to me the benefits of mummification and sensory deprivation.

Ed painted a picture of the recipient going on an inward trip, somewhat

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

Ed is wrapped up in his work!

different than the subspace of heavy impact play. He made it sound interesting and intriguing, and I expressed an interest in learning more and being both a top AND a bottom in a mummification scene.

Coincidentally, the next day, I went to a seminar at the Looking Glass featuring Cleo du Bois and sensory dep. It was a sensory dep weekend! The universe provides, here was something being shown to me that struck a cord, and I had to try.

A day was arranged and both Ed and Modenarr came over. Modenarr likes to use the term “wrap in foil”, and if you follow his adventures, you will find he is quite the little mummification slut, having played with some heavy hitters here in Silicon Valley. But I digress…

Modenarr, brought over a large suitcase filled with latex costumes, hoods and very specific metal devices. He also brought a bucket filled with colorful duct tape and 2 rolls of pallet wrap. He is a very prepared guy!

First, Ed and I strapped him into a sleep sac so I could see what that was all about, and since I have 3 cats, I wanted him to wear the kitty hood. We let Modenarr enjoy the comfort of my playroom and let the kitties explore the new plaything in the floor.

wrapAfter lunch, Ed gave me a step by step tutorial on proper wrapping and decorating using tape. We had Modenarr get nekkid, and Ed showed me how to wrap the pallet wrap around his body. Some folks wraps the arms separately, others wrap them to the body. You caan also use regular plastic wrap for this. After we encased his body in plastic, the duct tape was applied. Ed is known for his design work, so you won’t see a plain black wrapping by his hands.

We chose a red and black color scheme and I feel Ed’s design has a slight Aztec inspired look, don’t you?

photo (30)Of course, as a FemDom who delights in the naughty, a little humiliation was in order! I had a brand new dong, and Modenarr was the first to use it in any imaginable way. What a lucky kitty. Here he is giving it a kiss.

Remember, I offer private sessions as well as erotic photo sessions. Are you interested in mummification or sensory dep?

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing, gender bending is welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I can be found on Fetlife as MistressJ9. I look forward to hearing from you.

Please Allow Me to (re)Introduce Myself

At long last my naughty new website has launched! 

Welcome readers to my new blog and website. Take a look around and enjoy the view.

Today, I will reintroduce myself to all of my readers. I am Mistress J, Erotic Photographer, Feminine Dominant and Transformation Artist.

Many of you have read my blog posts and know what I do. This blog tells you how Mistress J came to be.

For as long as I could remember, I have been a Feminist. Born in the Midwest and raised with traditional patriarchal views, I always bristled at the notion that women could not do something simply because they were women.

I am not exactly referring to choice of occupation, such as a woman wanting to be a plumber or electrician. I do feel women should do what they want for a living, even if I had no desire to do that type of work. I am referring to things such as having to be in earlier than the male child, the assumed role of domestic goddess, the Madonna complex, etc.

I always needed a better reason than “you are female, it is your job.”

I also questioned the double standard of sexual freedom of men v. women and was told “that is the way it is.”

I remember admiring women who were in control of their sexuality, doing what (and who) they wanted  and living their life their way. Think Mae West and Marlene Dietrich.

Deep down, I didn’t agree with these patriarchal views, but didn’t know about alternatives. As I got older, I didn’t even know about kink. Eventually, I heard about it, but didn’t feel the need to explore it.  Until one day.

From the moment I picked up my camera I have been a voyeur. I became a photojournalist and my camera opened the door to many things, court-side seats at basketball games, backside passes at music events, meetings with politicians, crossing police tape, etc. Granted, I had to provide a service for those privileges, but don’t we all? My camera allowed me to participate from the sidelines, to watch, AND be in a spot of some importance. My images were respected and admired. On the side,  I was growing a wedding and portrait business which eventually turned into a full time job.

The years passed, and I started  to do boudoir photography for women, and I was naturally good at it. It was during these shoots I noticed an exchange of power that titillated me. Through advertising, I started to get a few phone calls from men who wanted nude photos of themselves for various reasons, slowly, I took these men on as clients.

It was also during this time I went through a very messy and painful divorce. I mention this only because that experience catapulted Mistress J to the surface. Trauma changes you, and in my case, it brought out my sexy, dominant side. My camera introduced me to a culture I didn’t really know about, but once I started exploring, realized I fit into it quite nicely. I also discovered I belong on top.

In the vanilla world, I felt I had to keep some of my discoveries on the down low, suppress my feelings of power, desire and art. I often felt like an outsider. In the kink world, I do not.

Mistress J likes to command. She loves to command with her camera. She loves to direct and watch someone strip themselves figuratively and physically of their clothes and trappings and reveal a piece of themselves inside. She loves to feel that intoxicating power of unleashing that energy and creating a beautiful photo. She enjoys seeing a man weep with gratitude having given him a safe place to show his feminine side in a world that only celebrates masculinity. She enjoys giving that shy guy or gal the experience of feeling confident & beautiful in front of my lens, even if it is only for a short while.

She is me.

I invite you to share that experience with me.

Intrigued? ? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.

 

 

 

Upcoming Event: Queen for a Day!

2012 is all about being who you are!

Mistress J understands that while often simple, men can be complex. That is why she started her business in the first place, to capture life’s complexities.

Miss J is a very understanding Domme, and realizes there are many men in this valley who desire domination by a woman. These men are not weak, but actually rather strong. They know what they want and need and try to seek it out.

That is why Mistress J has teamed up with Miss Tanya Love from A Place for Chainge and wants to encourage men and women to express themselves and be who they want to be.

In the D/s culture many straight men have the desire to cross dress or be a sissy boy. That desire might stem from the admiration of Female Dominance. Maybe something else, but Mistress J and Miss Tanya strive to serve the community by having you boys serve us for a night!

Come celebrate your inner girl at Queen for a Day! Queen for a Day is a fun, swanky night for sissy boys and cross dressers. You won’t want to miss it!

Join Miss J and Miss Tanya at their first annual Queen for a Day party! Named after the popular hit TV show from the ‘50s, Mistresses Tanya and J invite all of the boys to come and flaunt their feminine side.

This evening will give you the opportunity to step outside your comfort zone and move past the confines of your home. Mingle in a safe public place with other like-minded people!

Pull out that outfit from the back of your closet and have some fun. There will also be a fashion show and awards given to the top 3 beauties.

The Mistresses want to meet and socialize with other dominants, so please feel free to attend if you don’t have a special sub. You might find one here!

The Dommes will offer appropriate amounts of humiliation and beatings. There will be opportunity to shop for jewelry and makeup and have your photo taken with Mistresses J and Tanya or your Domme. We will have food and drinks available, but NO alcohol.

Find out more and register at Ticketleap.