A Few More (new) Things…

Talk about Spring Cleaning!

I thought I’d use the first day of summer to talk about all the spring changes I made here at my humble abode. The condo was painted from top to bottom. New carpeting was installed on the stairs, landing and my bedroom. Now the best part: Laminate Flooring!

The entire downstairs and my playroom boast beautiful Pergo floors. It’s so pretty and durable. I invite you to come and book a session to see them in person!

Here is a pano shot of my playroom: 

X marks the spot!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The cross has been re-stained and is now mounted on the wall. It opens the floor quite a bit and creates a nice focal point.

 

A friend bought me a leather sling for my birthday. I have been wanting one forever, and now I have one! Let me know if you wanna take a ride! 

 

sling-a-ding-ding

 

 

 

 

 

I’m so happy with my updated space. I think you’ll like it too. As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

A Mistress Among Many. Miss J Went to DomCon LA!

Last month, I attended DomCon in LA. It was a birthday gift to myself, as I have always wanted to attend. DomCon was celebrating it’s 15th anniversary, and it was the weekend after my birthday, so it seemed like a good sign I should attend. I was only there for the weekend, from May 11-13, but the convention runs for a whole week.

I have attended many kink events here in the Bay Area. Many have been FemmeDomme oriented and others mixed energy. As a female dominant, I enjoy events with strong female energy, and while this was an event for both female and male dominants, there was LOTS of fabulous FemmeDomme energy swirling around. DomCon is an event for professionals and lifestyle enthusiasts alike, and was started by Mistress Cyan. You can read the history of DomCon here.

One of my favorite activities was sitting in the hotel lobby watching the non-kinky folk stare at the convention attendees gathered in the lobby. Folks were dressed in their finest leather, rubber, vinyl, lacy, black red, BDSM outfits. The actual convention area was blocked off and had security, but us kinksters enjoyed the lobby and restaurants as well.

It was very empowering for me to be at an event with such a strong female dominant presence, and one that acknowledged the legitimacy of professional domination. I enjoyed being a part of the Dominant women who strutted about, using their sexuality as a possible weapon and not getting punished for it I loved seeing Dommes of ALL ages being trailed by their submissives, especially the male ones. No catcalls, no grabbing, just being admired.

It’s also a gender fluid environment. I liked seeing altar egos or true genders embraced and on display as some people born with boy parts freely exhibited their feminine side and wore dresses in PUBLIC! There was even a cross-dressing pageant hosted by Alice in Bondageland. My sissy had broken out in hives, so we didn’t compete this year.

To be able to do this and not get harassed is something many cis-gendered white men cannot appreciate. They take this freedom for granted. I felt at this convention, the playing field was even, if not reversed. And it was FUN!

Shopping:

The shopping was fantastic and I bought a few things in the incredible vendor area. I love new things!

The soft green flogger is from Bunny Flogger. This one is so much fuller and heavier than my previous one. It has such a nice swing to it and throws nicely. This is perfect for sensual play.

I call the red thing my Dragon’s Tongue. It can provide a sensual little lick with the tip or provide a stingy swat. It depends on my mood. This was purchased from Agreeable Agony, and it was exactly what I was looking for to add to my tools.    

Another thing at the Agreeable Agony booth caught my eye. These beautiful soy candles in the glass pitcher. I have a few friends that like wax play and these keep Mistress J’s fingers from getting burned. They also clean up nicely.

Leather by Danny had these cute little CBT boards. I really like this because the cock stays in place and I can torment it any way I like. I was being nice here, I used a shoe lace. But for really bad boys, I have some scratchy twine that will feel great on those tender parts.

Intrigued? Contact me. I’d love to use my new toys on you!

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Harness the Energy! Can a harness help in strap-on play?

The short answer is hell ya! But I digress.

A friend was over today, and as I was shoving one dildo up his butt, and another in his mouth, I wondered if I could somehow harness this sexy energy and generate electricity. If I could, imagine how low my power bills would go!

If anyone out there knows how I could do this, drop me a line. Trust me, by the sheer volume of my pervy friends, we could become rich if we could generate, harness, store and sell the electricity produced by this unique activity.

Speaking of harnesses, I have two. I have the Doggie Style strap and the Luv Rydr. I purchased the doggie strap from Curvy Girl, and Texas Tim gave me the Luv Rydr.

Both harnesses can be used on women for PIV experiences or on men for pegging.

So, What do these harnesses do? They enhance the experience of the receiver and assist the giver. I call it a

Who let the dogs out?

win-win Jim. 

In the case of the doggie strap, the giver enjoys having most of the pressure off the lower back. She can lean back and have her body weight balance her body. By gripping the handles, and she can use her arms to create motion.

The receiver enjoys a deep feeling of penetration. The padded strap slides under the belly, and when the giver lifts the strap, a wonderful feeling of deepness occurs. 

The doggie strap has been well received and has been my favorite until the Luv Rydr showed up…

I’M TOO SEXY…

So, the first thought on this thing  is: “What the hell. This thing is butt ugly.” Look at it, it’s ridiculous! But, never judge book by it’s cover. Despite the clownish appearance, this thing gets the job done!

The device hooks over the arms, and there is an adjustable strap attached to the padded handle. The arm straps connect to a padded chest piece and there are no pressure points to make the experience uncomfortable for the wearer.

The giver grabs the paddled handle, and despite thinking of trapezes, gets to work.

When I was pounding Texas Tim, I couldn’t feel any stress points either. I didn’t think the thing was working, But Tim told me otherwise.

“Very good, the experience, lived up to how I had imaged it. The leather was soft, and I felt controlled by you as you pulled back on the handle. I had to move back to you or at least stay put as I could not move away from your thrusting deep into me. I felt like you were pounding me harder and deeper.

It helps get me into a sub-space where I knew I was a plaything for your use. Adding into that my legs were chained and spread open, I felt completely at your mercy. I was doing my best to please you so that the lesson that you own my ass would not require a larger Mistress cock. Knowing that if you had decided to go bigger, there I was in no position to refuse. (I know I always have my safe words) but when you take me to that place where I feel safe being submissive I enjoy feeling completely under your control. 

So yes, I think the harness was a great gift I hope you enjoyed using it on me.”

See pervy peeps, the Luv Ryder is so well designed, it takes the pressure off, so to speak, and real work can be accomplished.

A female receiver reviewed the Luv Rydr:

“As the “receiver” of the fun, wearing it did make me feel very objectified and the feeling  that “I only exist to be f****ed”. 

As the person wearing it, it is very comfortable. The stress on the body is very well distributed over the shoulders, so it’s really easy to wear for a long time.  Nothing rubbing strangely or scratchy.

The harness did lead to me being f****ed silly for a very long time. I like it very hard and intense so it did add to that kind of fun.  It created very deep penetration and I had that feeling (that I love) like I cannot get away, and I just have to take it. That makes me so turned on.  So much fun.”

Based on my recommendation, a male friend bought his own Luv Rydr and used it on his female partner. He said:

“The Luv Rydr harness works in the same manner as the doggie strap, giving you handles, but it holds the whole person.  It allows you to make sure your partner can’t get away and you can get great pressure.  It’s holding them on the shoulders, really keeping them in place.  It can even allow different angles that normally can’t be done more than a pump.  Since it’s on the shoulder and a sturdy point to harness, you can balance yourself and pound away.”

So there you have it folks. I use these things for a reason, and, that reason is you! And in case you were wondering, I did not receive any compensation from these fine companies.

ride, Sally ride.

As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

How Liberating! Hands free pleasure at the studio.

Mistress J is all about multi-tasking. So any devices that can help her do two things at once, or sit back and enjoy a show are always welcomed.

Recently, Texas Tim gifted me with the Liberator Wanda Magic Toy Mount, The Wand Essentials Strap Cap and the Wand Essentials Passion Pillow Wand Harness from Amazon. We had fun with the Liberator during our session. 

Texas Tim has become a huge ass slut and I was determined to break in my new toys. Using the strap cap, I attached a nice sized dildo to my Lelo Cordless Wand.

Now I was ready to have some fun. At the appropriate time, the Texas slut presented his ass to me and I used the wand on him. The girth and curvature of the dong allowed me to keep it vibrating in his ass hands free and allowed me to prepare other delights, such as my strap on.

After pounding him with my strap on cocks, I decided he needed to entertain me. After all, he’s here for MY amusement, not the other way around. 

He was instructed to straddle the Liberator complete with ass wand and ride it, Tim willingly complied.  He squatted over the Liberator and his hole slowly swallowed the purple dildo. The firm foam allowed Tim to gyrate to his specifications, becoming an enabler of his pleasure.

I sat on the couch and watched.

I pointed the wand this way and that,  alternating his positions as he sat this way and that.

I think he enjoyed it best when he straddled it while facing the smaller side of the pillow. His ass and his legs got a bit of a workout! Later, he told me he really enjoyed the Liberator and it might have been his favorite thing that day.

Next time, I will use the Liberator with my Hitachi Wand with P-Spot adapter on him and see how well that is received. I also have the sex stool, which in combination to the above could relieve leg fatigue. Hmmmm….

The Liberator can be used for a woman’s pleasure too. In fact, I think that was the original intent, but Miss J is a naughty thing. 

Mistress J’s Desire:     

This could be me with you watching.

I have the desire to restrain a slut and force him to watch me pleasure myself with my Lelo. I’ll be comfortable perched on the Liberator and can ride it how I see fit. Ah, the agony!

Here is a caveat. Please DO NOT ask (or beg) for this particular scenario. It is for me to decide if and when I want to  do it. If you ask, it will not happen. No exceptions, not even hints or references.

If it happens, it will be a surprise.

As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

 

Drilling Me Softly… The Joy of the Drill-Do!

“I heard she sang a good song…”*

Wanna get tooled?

Yes, Mistress J is always on the lookout for new toys, and since 90% of her visitors enjoy ass play, she recently invested in a Drill-Do.

You see, women enjoy power tools as much as men, and this lil’ beauty has proven itself to be the queen of my crop. (pun intended)

This is an actual drill by Chicago Electric. I find that very appropriate since Mistress J’s family comes from Chicago. Serendipity perhaps?

This drill has a unique cock attachment and can accommodate any vac-u-lock style dong. The good news is, if I want to do any remodeling, I can switch out the cock attachment for a saw and take down what needs to come down. But, I digress.

The Drill-Do has proven itself to be a safe and fun toy that brings much pleasure to both parties. Mistress J is a stickler for hygiene, always uses a condom, and thoroughly cleans each and every item after use. 

Instead of a drill bit, I call it a drill butt!

Long term visitor Allen was my first victim. He submitted to some wax play and as he presented his lovely butt to me, I inserted the Drill-do. 

I think we we both a little nervous. I had never used a saw before and was unsure of the power and if I could handle such a machine. Allen was nervous because he was on the receiving end, and as someone very familiar with power tools, and, well, nothing more needs to be said.

I slipped on a condom and lubed up the dong. Once securely in place, I started the machine on low. I heard a delightful humming and couldn’t tell if it came from Allen or the Drill-Do. Perhaps both?

A Happy Mistress!

After the initial warm up, Allen gave the OK for faster power.  Soon, I had the Drill-Do going full speed! I felt so powerful holing my butt drill. Allen was very happy and could really take it, so I gave it.

Sweet Caroline

I am so glad I have my new toy. This has proven to be worth every penny, and is my ultimate tool. I have used it on quite a few butts, all with raving reviews. Mistress J has mastered the machine!

As always, Mistress J is looking for a few good men or women to play with.

Wanna try the Drill-Do? I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

*From Roberta Flak’s Killing me softly with his song.

Down of the Farm. Fall is Harvest Time!

Were you pervs aware Mistress J is a farmer? Yes indeed. She specializes in a particular form of animal husbandry; the male cock! And now that its fall, let’s harvest these guys.

 

Big, angry cock!

Cockadoodledo!

The farm is a serene place, full of peaceful animals except for one. There is one very large, angry cock with a bright red head. Look at him! Why is he mad? Perhaps he needs a spanking to straighten him out.

 

Peter Cotton Balls.

 

Bunnies happily frolic in the barnyard. Look at Peter Cotton Balls. Isn’t he cute? I think so, and in typical bunny fashion, it looks like he’s ready to multiply!

 

Lots of hay and tools are regularly used on my farm. Perhaps I have even used a few on you? Mistress J keeps her tools clean and organized, as you can see here.  Farmer J knows the perfect tool is necessary for a good harvest. She is always buying new things. 

 

A very special tool is the drip bucket. Drips and spills occur almost daily. An organized farmer like Mistress J has a bucket ready to go to collect milky white substances.

Remember the rhyme “Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water”? Well, Mistress J tends to fetch other liquids here on the farm, and the cocks don’t complain either…

 

More Cowbell!

And no farm can be complete without cowbells!

 

 

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination and want to visit the farm, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

The Perils of Being My Plaything!

It’s not my fault you are a dirty slut. But you are, and you need to be punished!

When you visit me, you agree to be my plaything. Your body is here for my amusement and entertainment. After we negotiate our boundaries, you become mine!  Now the peril begins…   

 

Taming the Teat:

Got sensitive nipples? I think nipple suckers are just the thing! Are you worried your nipples are too small? Relax, after an hour in one of these, your nipples will be nice and plump as the compression sends the blood to the desired area. They will be nice and tender afterwards too.

Girls just want to have fun. And this little lady liked electrical play on her nipples! Such a naughty thing. She needed to be put in her place. She was, and she liked it.

 

 

Humble Beginnings:

You know I like my men humble. I have both a homemade humbler and a store bought humbler. Here, Mike models the store bought humbler and a variety of festive clothespins I picked up last year on my vacation in Poland. Ain’t they pretty? And they feel sooo nice when Mistress takes them off! For some reason this photo makes me smile.

 

 

 

Controlling  the Cock:

Zap, Crackle, Pop! A fabulous erection controlling device is my zapper! The violet want comes with a variety of attachments and delivers a satisfying jolt wherever it’s needed. Leo is wearing the homemade humbler and to prevent him from finishing, I give him a hearty zap now and again. Another fun use for this is to use it during an edging session. A well timed zap keeps things in check.  You see, Miss J like to control everything

 

Where’s the beef?

Sometimes a man simply can’t control his erection! If that is the case, chastity shows him who’s the boss. Me! Here, Mike proudly submits to being locked up in his Bon 4 metal cage. He is owned by me and will now experience long term confinement. 

 

 

So that’s the story pervs.

If you are a nasty thing and are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

A Handmade Tale. A Peek Inside Mistress J’s Dungeon!

You CAN keep a good man down!

 

It is said that necessity it the mother of invention. Well, Mistress J is blessed with a keen imagination and talented kinky friends who can help her invent pervy items for the dungeon!

Let’s take a look around the dungeon and see what has been crafted by hand.

The largest item is my cross. Made by Max, this cross has the ability to come apart for transportation. The wooden panels are attached to the metal X, which Max fabricated himself. The wood is birch, and now has a dark stain on it.

This photo is of the cross before it was stained. I think it needs a second coat. Who wants to be a good boy and do it for me? 

You might also notice I now have different curtains. I like changing things up now and again.

I love having nekkid men kneel in front of it for me.  A good place for a man is on all fours with his arse in the air, ready for inspection…

 

The second largest item is my Queening Chair. Perhaps you are wondering if this is a chair for short people? The answer is no. The chair is for the lady’s comfort during certain activities. The height is perfect for panty sniffing and administering showers into the mouth while the person in question lies beneath.  The chair also allows the lady to be comfortable while using her feet on select body parts. After all, why should Mistress J be uncomfortable, that’s the sub’s job!

The chair was modified by Tanya Caress. This is the last remaining chairs from my late grandmother’s beloved dining room set. I still have the table in my dining area. It is a gorgeous parquet patterned solid wood table, and I plan to keep it forever.  The chair is appropriately Queen Anne in style. Fit for royalty I say. I wonder if Grandma would approve of it’s current use?

 

I love to have access to various parts. A spreader bar helps with that purpose. I pry open a man’s legs, then cuff their ankles to the bar. I often pull their legs back and chain them to the wall. Such a nice view.

The spreader bar was also a Tanya Caress specialty, re-purposed from a closet rod. I still use it to hang things. ha ha.

 

One of my favorite items is my home made humbler. Simple and inexpensive, the humbler fits ALL sizes of balls because it is just dowels and rubber bands. I pull the junk back between the legs and secure the dowels around it. Try standing up and walking, I dare you!

On the same note, a pair of chopsticks and some rubber bands really show a nipple who is the boss. These two items give a new meaning to the term morning wood! 

 

I know these items are tempting you. Give in to your desire and give me a call. I’d love to create a session just for you!

If you are curious about my dungeon and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.
 

Mistress J Goes on a Photo Shoot!

Today (May 6) is my birthday! And, my gift to you is a link to my photo session and a description of my experience!

I bought  Groupon for Krazy Zexy. I remember Kamran from when we were both in the wedding photography business. I knew he was a great shooter and had been doing boudoir photography for a while. I think by looking at his website, you see how good he is with posing and lighting. He is also very good at capturing the smoldering sexy woman lying just below the surface, a skill you don’t learn in school, but are born with.

Kamran recognized me when I emailed him and I told him these were business photographs and I was now a Bondassage practitioner. We had an email consultation about outfits and accessories and planned a date.

I was told to expect to be at the studio for about 3 hours. I arrived at 9 am on a Monday and had professional hair and makeup done. That was about an hour and a half. Then I sat a bit with Kamran.

This is when I was pulled out of my comfort zone. You see, Mistress J is used to being in charge. She is in charge of her sessions (as you all know). Even when she ran her vanilla photo business she was in charge. But here, I had to turn myself over to someone else and that’s a bit tough.

It started out like on of my sessions. He had me sit down and asked ME questions! Can you believe it?  Questions about my work, personal life, how Mistress J came about, what did I want to convey, what were my hard limits and safe words.

After what felt like an hour of questions, but what was really only 15 minutes, we began to do the photos. This was the fun and the hard part. Hard because I was on the other side of the lens. I had to hold the uncomfortable poses. I was the one insecure about my short legs and such. But it was also fun being the center of attention. I got to be elegant and fancy. It was all about me I was the receiver and not the giver. This was exciting and new, and also a little uncomfortable, as I am most comfortable giving.

I got to experience what my long time client Frank experienced during his first of three photo shoots with me. I got to be the model. I was put on display and admired, and my hair looked good too, how fun is that!

The shoot went longer than three hours, almost five. I guess Mistress J is a muse for many, and Kamran was so caught up in me that we went over. 

Here is one of my favorite images from the shoot. I think it captures my sassy and playful side, don’t you? 

Enjoy the gift of looking at me today. I hope to hear from you soon.

Mistress J

 

Stop and smell the roses! Panty Sniffing in San Jose.

The Scent of a Woman. It’s intoxicating. So much that they even named a movie after it. 

I get very sweaty down there while I work, and my panties pay the price!

Panty sniffing is a popular fetish. Some men simply can’t get enough of the female smell.  Smell is a pwerful motivator. 

Wikipedia states “Olfactophilia or osmolagnia is a paraphilia for, or sexual arousal by, smells and odors emanating from the body, especially the sexual areas.” One man said my nether regions smell like “A salty ocean breeze.”

Taking in the salty air…

I often have guests ask if they can have the honor of smelling my undies. I often comply, and if I know in advance of their penchant for panties, I will don a pair of well worn fragrant ones, and let them enjoy the bouquet!

Smothering is a popular request.  As my guest lies on his back, I envelop his nose and mouth as I sit down. He is smothered by my thighs and ‘things’ until he can’t breathe. Now, imagine a gentleman with a panty fetish enjoying those sights and smells while I wear well worn and dirty panties! 

Mistress J is a big fan of thongs, and wears them daily, but some men have a granny panty fetish. I have had several clients request that I wear traditional nylon knickers, the kind you buy at Target eight to a pack. Perhaps they remind them of days gone by, like seeing them on the neighbor’s clothes line as they dry in the afternoon breeze. 

Granny panties!

Here is a photo of my round, curvy, juicy bottom fully encased in shiny nylon. What are your thoughts? 

I have been known to give my guest a lovely parting gift of the panties worn during the session. These are the ones he has sniffed and worn on his face. I put them in a sandwich baggie to preserve the smell, and my guest gets to think of our session every time he opens the bag!

Some men want to wear my panties, mingling their scent with mine. How naughty and intimate!

Now remember readers,  a true gentleman would NEVER steal a woman’s panties. That is just plain rude! 

A glimpse up my skirt.

After all, these small articles of fabric can be expensive, and every gal has her favorite pair. Most gals are happy to donate their dainties if asked. But theft is just wrong. Mistress J does not tolerate that kind of behavior.

If you are curious about the smell of my panties and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.