Mistress J is Pervy, Even in Her Free Time!

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The Armory in San Francisco.

 

Last weekend (4/25), I had the pleasure of attending a cocktail party and filming at Kink.com‘s Upper Floor (TUF) at the Armory in San Francisco.

This was a fun evening. My partner and I got dressed up and enjoyed appetizers and a glass of bubbly while watching the models and crew create porn. They were initiating a new house slave.

We were “extras” on the set. There to provide color and movement in the background and of course look interested.

Interested we were! It  is exciting to see any type of filming. Earlier this year, I was in the audience for a recording of The Big Bang Theory (BBT) at the Warner Bros. Studio in LA. This live porn shoot had it’s similarities and differences to that shoot.

There were less cameras on the set at Kink.com. Just as many lights, and we got to see the models warming up for the shoot, just as we did in LA for BBT.

There is a lot of prep involved, sometimes models have to stand on boxes for a better angle. There are pauses, retakes, & blunders, and many things the viewer doesn’t see.

The models and crew are treated well, are cared for, and their comfort and safety is a priority. Everything is pre-negotiated, and no one is doing anything they don’t want to do. The male model has a tough job, as he has to stay “focused” the whole time and cum pretty much on command.

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Mistress J loves Victorian furniture!

The Upper Floor (TUF) is a great space! The decor is sumptuous, and resembles a Victorian parlor. As guests, we are encouraged to play. TUF is very male Dom heavy and I was one of the few FemDoms there that evening. I enjoyed being looked at by the male guests and could feel my actions being scrutinized.

My partner and I had negotiated our play on the way to SF. His job was to service me. He knelt on a pillow and orally pleased me, then gave me a very nice finger bang and I squirted on the Upper Floor! He obviously did his job well.

I think every young male should see a live porn shoot to see and understand that while the models are enjoying their job, they are being told what to do, and their actions are to make money. While the sex is real, it is not real life sex. Men should not  assume all women want sex such as this. Communication and consent is sexy, so talk before you poke hun!

I know this is a different blog post than what I normally write, but I hope you enjoyed it anyway and learned a little about me.

If you are curious about  Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

These are a few of my favorite things…

Like raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, Mistress J has a few favorite things she enjoys using on her clients.

I will describe them in no particular order. During a session, you might have the honor of experiencing one, or ALL of these items!

Remember, during a session you belong to me and you are my plaything. I get to tease & torment your body!

clawsMy longtime favorites are my claws. Sharp, but not too sharp, these steel beauties can be used hard or soft, and even in the most delicate of places! I particularly enjoy teasing the navel with these. And since they are stainless steel they are super easy to sanitize.

One of my first toys I purchased for myself was my Hitachi Magic photo 2Wand. The wand is a favorite among women because it gets the job done very quickly. It requires an electrical outlet and no battery operated toy equals its strength! When I ordered it, I also purchased the G-spot and P-spot adapters. Here, my Hitachi sports the P-spot adapter. I lovingly call this the Slut Machine, as it turns my clients into very willing sluts. Take a turn on the Slut Machine and let me know if you prefer the fast or slow speed.

 

photo 3Another favorite is the Blue Surprise. The Billy by Lelo is ergonomically designed for anal play. This little guy hits all the right places and the vibration and various pulses are sure to please. My favorite sessions involve using both toys. FYI, all insertables are condom covered for  your protection.

 

The newest addition to the family is my beautiful Towel Warmer!photo 1 All I can say is why didn’t I buy one sooner???? A hot towel feels great after a Bondassage® session or massage. Sometimes, when I am home, I take one out and simply enjoy the hot towel on my hands. I love it, and my clients do too. I invite you to try a session and experience a nice, hot towel.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio. I offer Bondassage ®, Elysium® various domination sessions, FBSM as well as erotic photography and sissy transformations.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

I’m Bringing Booty Back! All About that (b)Ass!*

Miss JThey like big butts, I cannot lie!

My curves tend to be an asset in my business, especially my big, juicy ass. I am, what you might say, bootyliciously built.

According to Cosmo, I AM fat. But according to my clients, I am perfect. Even when I was at my fittest, in my most splendid running shape, I had a curvy butt, a big butt. I couldn’t run it off, despite trying.

Over time, I noticed my lovers seemed to gravitate towards two favorite things, boobs and butt.  My hourglass curves became a source of inspiration and appreciation. After all, “Boys like a little more booty to hold at night.”* My lover enjoys rubbing his face on my cheeks and grabbing a handful of meaty lusciousness.Miss J Butt

I have certain clients who really dig my juicy butt. They ask me if they can worship it during a session. I usually agree if they have been good. This worship can consist of staring at my curvy loveliness to jiggling a cheek to music. A VERY good boy might be allowed to bury his face in it and plant a soft kiss.

FemDomI am rather fond of smothering my clients. Reward or punishment, the sight of my curvylicious booty crushing you will send delectable shivers down your spine.

Do you crave dominance from a woman with junk in all the right place? If so, then get your ass over here so you can worship mine!

If you are curious about ass worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 *These quotes are from the song All About That Bass by Meghan Trainor.

Feet Don’t fail Me Now! The art of foot worship.

Do you think the female foot is sexy? Kiss feet

Do you have naughty thoughts about caressing the high arch of a delicate foot, licking perfectly pedicured  toes or perhaps being trampled by a sharp stiletto?

If so, you are not alone. Of all the fetishes, perhaps the one that is most well-known and recognized is that of the foot fetish. Men and women alike by the millions admit to having some type of foot fetish and in the world of BDSM the foot fetish plays an integral role in many D/s relationships.  Many men I know have a huge desire to smell, lick, touch, taste, see, suck, female feet.

The foot fetish can cover a wide range of likes and lusts on the part of a submissive. There are some who may have an interest in a particular style or type of shoe being worn while others may focus on the foot itself. Some submissives have a fetish for well-manicured toes while others may like certain socks, stockings, pantyhose or thigh highs that encase the legs and feet. Still others may love the smell of a well-worn shoe, sock, stocking or just the smell of the foot itself. Each submissive who has a foot fetish may have a particular twist on the fetish itself that they enjoy the most.

I’d like to know what yours is…

honorThe way to this Mistress’s heart is through a foot massage. Personally, I could have my feet massaged for days. I love the way my cute size 7 feet feel in the warm palm of a man’s strong hand. Add a little oil and I am in heaven! My pedicured toes,smooth/soft soles and high arch on my feet is sexually arousing to some. My lover enjoys having one of my arches on his cheek during intimate moments.

Perhaps there’s a sexual attraction to feet because, feet are sometimes hidden as are other body parts. And when seeing just the curvy shape under a woman’e socks, one might feel curious, and wonder what they look like.

At home, I like to walk around barefoot. In a session, I start off in my sexy heels, and at some point, my shoes come off. I enjoy running my foot down the length of a man. If he is a true foot fetishist, we are a good match.flower

I love seeing a man kissing my feet or caressing it. I love using my toes in interesting ways on the body. My toes enjoy grabbing things, squishing things and curling around things. Since I am a fan of chest hair, my toes crave being buried in a thick carpet of male chest hair.

I also enjoy trampling! Lay on your back while I step on you. How about a little CBT with toes? Do you prefer shoes? That’s fun too. Let me dig my pointy heels into interesting places. It will only hurt if you want it to!

If you are curious about foot worship and Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

 

A Session of Service

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

He is wearing my favorite outfit!

You’d  I be surprised at how many requests I get from men who want their session to consist of serving me!

I don’t complain, and being an accommodating Mistress, I let the boys serve me. This is not a selfish transaction. Many men get deep pleasure out of serving a woman, especially if that way is what polite society might consider emasculating or degrading to the man. These men enjoy seeing a woman get satisfaction from using them. Especially, if it is helpful or comforting to her.

Take CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male). There is an instant vulnerability in the man’s nakedness. The clothed female has much more power. His body is on display for her to enjoy, to laugh at. Her body is clothed. She can see his arousal, or if the room is terribly cold! He cannot. For many men, this is super exciting. They get to experience what it might be like to be a highly sexualized object, but in a very controlled environment. The clothed female actually desires to view a man in all his naked glory.

Objectification, or being furniture is another demand. Being stripped of his identity and control is the turn-on here. As a table or footstool, he doesn’t have to

I like a good, strong cup of tea!

I like a good, strong cup of…tea!

be the Man-in-Charge. He doesn’t need to think, make decisions, be forceful, masculine, etc. He just concentrates on staying still.

I get a lot of requests from men asking if they can be a coffee table at a FemDom tea party. I think there is the added appeal of being reduced to furniture, but still having working ears. What better way to hear what dominant women really talk about if you are one of the pieces of furniture that they rest their glasses on! Ignored, but still present.

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The way to my heart is with a nice foot rub.

Foot-worshiping is another client favorite. So many men enjoy the sensual curve of a woman’s foot and her delicate toes. While the foot may be delicate, elegant and sexy, the foot is also very powerful.

I happen to think my size 7 feet are rather sexy. I have a high arch and cute, well proportioned toes. I get regular pedicures, and adore polish on my toes.

My sexy feet inspire men to kiss them, and rub them. Some request a stroll across their back. I have a fine collection of heels, but my favorite is being barefoot and running my toes trough chest hair.

If you are curious about Feminine Domination, cross dressing, sissification and a session of service, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The Secret Woman

“In almost all of us there is the secret woman who does not appear for her friends and acquaintances, perhaps not even for the man she marries…”

-The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt

That is a line from one of my favorite books from when I was a teen. My mom always had Gothic romances around the house and this book was a particular favorite.

Like the book, many people often have a secret side to themselves that they feel they need to hide. My clients are certainly no exception! The cross dressing male often hides his tendencies from his family and friends, not to mention society.  But this makes me wonder if there are gurls who hide their “darker” feminine form even from themselves?

Inquiring minds want to know!

Inquiring minds want to know!

For that matter, how many people really do give themselves permission to embrace their slutty side? I could ask this even of myself. Do I prefer to dish it out because it is harder for me to take it? Excellent question! I think that answer would take many blog posts, so I will use my experience with this lovely model for the meat of this post.

“Brittany” agreed to be my model on a lovely Sunday afternoon. In real life, Brittany is a well respected software engineer living the California dream. He works for a large company, has a fabulous girlfriend and lives in a swanky bachelor pad. Brittany is punctual, responsible, clean cut, respectable, polite and a little shy at first.

I knew Brittany had the desire to wear women’s clothing and had never had a professional makeover and photo shoot, which made a good candidate to turn him into her.  I also knew Brittany was pretty open minded and willing to try almost everything once.

I didn’t know Brittany was a little whore…

I thought my makeover would consist of two hair and outfit changes, both being rather refined and elegant. Most of my clients like my lady like make overs. I am inspired by the silver screen sirens of the Hollywood Golden Age, and feel gloves, furs, and jewelry are a girl’s best friend.

Hit me baby one more time!

Hit me baby one more time!

Don’t get me wrong, Brittany liked her peach ensemble and mink wrap. Her blond hair and  understated makeup matched her peaches and cream complexion. I fell in  love with her long sexy legs and spankable ass and wanted to show them off  to perfection.

What was interesting, was the difference between dainty Brittany and slutty Brittany. Dainty Brittany was reserved and quiet. When I changed her outfit and put on the short and sassy red wig the transformation was complete.

Brittany likes being slutty.  She craves it. She admitted while she liked the peach ensemble, she felt the red outfit was really more her, and allowed greater flexibility to express what she was feeling that day.

And she wanted to feel a big dick between her legs…

Brittany likes pretty things, but she is a little vain and knows she has a nice figure. She isn’t against using her feminine whiles to get what she wants. What she wants and needs most is attention, particularly lust. Brittany is a submissive girl and likes to be used and degraded. I think it’s because she doesn’t get that in her professional life.

The girl on the right is a perv...

During the shoot, I asked her what appealed to her about cross dressing. She said she likes to act and be someone different. Being female and acting the part is a big role to play, and one she enjoys.

When my model is comfortable it makes for a great session. I am glad Brittany knew she was a dirty whore and was willing to show that side to me.

I enjoyed this session because it shows two extremes of one personality. Every woman and every man have different faces to show. I am proud to provide a nurturing place for self expression. I’d love it if more gals were as uninhibited as Brittany!

If you are curious about feminization, cross dressing and sissification or Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot in my San Jose studio.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you. 408-896-5836.

The red corset and Kixie thigh highs can be found at Curvy Girl Lingerie in San Jose, California.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why is Mistress J a Kinkster?

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A good Girl Scout at Folsom Street Fair 2014.

Mistress J is a perv, just like you.

Now don’t get your panties in a bunch, I mean perv with the sincerest form of affection!

Lately, it seems I have been getting a lot of questions from folks on why I do what I do, and do I like it? The answer to that is YES! I love being kinky and sharing my experiences with other pervy people.

I am a FemDom, I don’t switch or play the submissive role. Why? And what does that mean?

Well, from the time I was a very little girl, I knew I was a Feminist. Much to my family’s chagrin, I questioned traditional gender “rules” not so much as the roles.

I was taught what so many women were told since time began. “Give in to a man, don’t make him mad, and don’t be bossy or demanding.”

Told repeatedly to put her needs third, it is interesting a little FemDom sprouted up from this environment. I LOVE being dominant. The reasons why are complex. Perhaps I like  being in control over men because it is the exact opposite of what I was taught to do as a young girl.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

A good boy obeys the Girl Scouts.

What does a FemDom do, you ask? She asserts her power over men. SHE is in control. In my personal life, I only date submissive men. My professional life is one of a Dominatrix in San Jose, CA. My men like to give up their control to me and let me lead for a while.

Now, try as I might, I cannot be completely selfish in nature. When I lead, I think of us, rather than just me.  I also have a very loving and nurturing nature.

Does that make me weak? No, because it brings me pleasure to think of others. It pleasures me to watch a man submit to my loving authority. And, it pleases me to see a man in what might be a traditional female position.

In my world, we are two people who consensually come together in the role they desire.

I like manners and respect for women. I like a man who considers her needs. My needs are to sensually/sexually dominate men. And I like it when my needs are met!

If you are curious about  Feminine Domination, I invite you to visit me for a session or photo shoot.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

Please Allow Me to (re)Introduce Myself

At long last my naughty new website has launched! 

Welcome readers to my new blog and website. Take a look around and enjoy the view.

Today, I will reintroduce myself to all of my readers. I am Mistress J, Erotic Photographer, Feminine Dominant and Transformation Artist.

Many of you have read my blog posts and know what I do. This blog tells you how Mistress J came to be.

For as long as I could remember, I have been a Feminist. Born in the Midwest and raised with traditional patriarchal views, I always bristled at the notion that women could not do something simply because they were women.

I am not exactly referring to choice of occupation, such as a woman wanting to be a plumber or electrician. I do feel women should do what they want for a living, even if I had no desire to do that type of work. I am referring to things such as having to be in earlier than the male child, the assumed role of domestic goddess, the Madonna complex, etc.

I always needed a better reason than “you are female, it is your job.”

I also questioned the double standard of sexual freedom of men v. women and was told “that is the way it is.”

I remember admiring women who were in control of their sexuality, doing what (and who) they wanted  and living their life their way. Think Mae West and Marlene Dietrich.

Deep down, I didn’t agree with these patriarchal views, but didn’t know about alternatives. As I got older, I didn’t even know about kink. Eventually, I heard about it, but didn’t feel the need to explore it.  Until one day.

From the moment I picked up my camera I have been a voyeur. I became a photojournalist and my camera opened the door to many things, court-side seats at basketball games, backside passes at music events, meetings with politicians, crossing police tape, etc. Granted, I had to provide a service for those privileges, but don’t we all? My camera allowed me to participate from the sidelines, to watch, AND be in a spot of some importance. My images were respected and admired. On the side,  I was growing a wedding and portrait business which eventually turned into a full time job.

The years passed, and I started  to do boudoir photography for women, and I was naturally good at it. It was during these shoots I noticed an exchange of power that titillated me. Through advertising, I started to get a few phone calls from men who wanted nude photos of themselves for various reasons, slowly, I took these men on as clients.

It was also during this time I went through a very messy and painful divorce. I mention this only because that experience catapulted Mistress J to the surface. Trauma changes you, and in my case, it brought out my sexy, dominant side. My camera introduced me to a culture I didn’t really know about, but once I started exploring, realized I fit into it quite nicely. I also discovered I belong on top.

In the vanilla world, I felt I had to keep some of my discoveries on the down low, suppress my feelings of power, desire and art. I often felt like an outsider. In the kink world, I do not.

Mistress J likes to command. She loves to command with her camera. She loves to direct and watch someone strip themselves figuratively and physically of their clothes and trappings and reveal a piece of themselves inside. She loves to feel that intoxicating power of unleashing that energy and creating a beautiful photo. She enjoys seeing a man weep with gratitude having given him a safe place to show his feminine side in a world that only celebrates masculinity. She enjoys giving that shy guy or gal the experience of feeling confident & beautiful in front of my lens, even if it is only for a short while.

She is me.

I invite you to share that experience with me.

Intrigued? ? Contact me. My email is Mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.