The Submissive Male

Sub manAh, the submissive male! A favorite of Mistress J.

Do you hunger to submit to a beautiful and powerful woman? Feel the need to be tied up and secure, or perhaps you are in need of some discipline. Maybe you just want to serve.

As a PhotoDomme, I love to photograph the vulnerable side of men. I provide a safe space for men to shed their tough exterior and let their subby side show through. I will direct the scene and take you on a emotional ride much more fun than Space Mountain, and with all of the images on a CD or provided memory stick.

I can be a part of the scene, or it can be all about you. Come join me at the studio. It will only hurt if you want it to.


Girls Just Wanna Have Fun!

Happy New Year Everyone!

I am so excited about this New Year and all that I know it will bring! Not just for me, but for my readers, the world, the Nancy 4universe and my cats.

What better way to start the New Year off but with a blog post? My resolution is to write much more frequently, so stay tuned, check back often and if Mistress is naughty, don’t be afraid to tell her so.

Crossdressing in a Time of Cholera.

christy web3My post today is on two recent sessions I had with the fabulous Nancy Darkrose and the captivating Christy Lee. These sessions were as different as they could be, yet remarkably similar. First, they were similar in the aspect of being the same customer base.

Both of these clients are straight married men. Both are successful. One is a father. Both like to have sex with women and are not bi or bi-curious. They are male in every sense of the role society has expected of them except for that one thing, crossdressing.

In other words, they are men who have a side to them that identifies as female. They wanted Miss J to capture this side because they know she is understanding and knows how to photograph beautiful women.

These ladies requested feminization and photography. Mistress J also knows a thing or two about makeup and application and total transformation were a part of these sessions.

Have I dazzled you with my talents yet? Keep reading, there is more.

I could go on and on about the cultural and psychological aspects to crossdressing, but alas, that is another blog post, and one I am not sure I want to get into. The bottom line is this: Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression.

Now, on to the fun stuff!


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Nancy submitting to Miss J

Nancy walked into my Sunnyvale studio and my jaw dropped at the sight of this powerful alpha looking male in front of me. Normally a woman of discretion and decorum, I blurted out “Are you really submissive?” Nancy laughed and said yes she was, but had to hide it in order to succeed in the high tech battleground of Silicon Valley. You see, Nancy had requested feminization and Femdom services. Not only did she want to be transformed into the lovely lady that lingered inside, she also felt the need to submit to a powerful and beautiful woman (me) and have this process documented on film. For the next 2.5 hours I brought Nancy out from behind the veil of masculinity and alternately teased, provoked, spanked, humiliated and exploited her. She loved every minute and left a satisfied customer.

What was so fascinating about this session was visually seeing and feeling the feminine side come out. Like I said, Nancy as a male is alpha. He exudes confidence and male energy. (He is also sexy as hell, but I digress.) As I slowly turned Him into Her, the mannerisms changed, the testosterone subsided, the submission took place and Nancy emerged. This does not imply that women are naturally submissive. The submission came about because she had the freedom to become herself and let go, under my guidance of course.

nancy(2)Who is Nancy? Nancy is a sassy gal who is also a bit of a bottom and likes it! Nancy loves bling, bold colors, big jewelry, leather boots and lacy drawers. She also enjoys being told what to do…

Christy Lee

I photographed Christy in my home studio. She arrived in a rather delicate emotional state. I am not quite sure what Christy does for work, but the minute I met her I knew I had found the kindred spirit of an artist. Christy, like many, have had to suppress and hide this side of her life, and after a brief discussion, I realized how much this pained her. To paraphrase and possibly misquote her “It feels so right, but we are told it is wrong.”


After going through her outfits and deciding on a wig, we applied her makeup and I custom blended her foundation.  When I showed her my handiwork she was so pleased. Again, during the transformation Christy emerged christy webfrom her male counterpart. I loaned her my jewelry for the shoot and even brought out my collection of vintage screw back earrings that belonged to my great Aunts.  I don’t use these very often because my ears are pierced. We chose an elegant black cocktail dress, reddish brown wig with highlights and pumps. The look classic and understated. Her words when she saw herself decked out “Pretty.”

Who is Christy? Christy is serene, a lady. Christy Lee is old school feminine. Doors are held open for her, chairs pushed in. She is dignity and class.

It means a lot to me to be able to share my gift of photography with people to bring out sides to themselves that might remain hidden. It shouldn’t have to be that way. That is why I created my studio.

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I look forward to more sessions such as this and of other kinds.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is  I am in San Jose, California.

Life Imitates Art!

Oscar Wilde wrote in his 1889 essay The Decay of Lying that “Life imitates Art far more than Art imitates Life”. I find this to be true, don’t you?

This quote spoke to me as I was going through my photo archives and came across some similarities. Back in the day, Mistress J had thoughts of studying art history and becoming a museum curator. However, her passion for the camera was stronger for her passion for art history, and, shall we say, the rest is history? But I digress, I know you want to look at my photos!


Grande Odalisque by Jean Auguste Dominique Ingres.

I always had a thing for neoclassic paintings depicting women in Turkish baths surrounded by servants. Looking back, I think the appeal was the masked eroticism. I remember seeing this painting in an art history class and it stood out in my memory.  This painting, Grand Odalisque by Jean Auguste Dominique Ingres is mysterious and erotic, tempting yet subtle. The woman, a slave seems in control of herself, yet historically speaking, had a very low social standing. I love the colors, the muted beauty, and her lovely white skin.

Now look at this photo I took of the lovely Theresa Because ( ImNude woman by Mistress J StudiosDuring the session she relaxed on the chaise and turned her back to me. Something in her pose spoke to me and I handed her the fan and I did several shots evoking this painting. Is it an exact replica? No. But you can see the inspiration can you not? Maybe we can call this one the Kinky Concubine. Back in the day, an odalık rose to a concubine if she slept with the sultan. The talented Shots did the rope work.

I love creating mysterious, sensual, thought provoking images. I have been known to hide my subject’s face, or have them point off screen. I am influenced by romance, impressionism, and of course pain and desire.

I created this photo during a recent session. As the session unfolded, my client placed himself on the chaise and turned his back to me. I must find the rear ends of people to be very inspiring, because something about his Nude man by Mistress J Studiosbackside spoke to me.

This image is different than the other two because this one shows his vulnerability. We don’t often see the softer side of a man, but in a photo session, I often do, and like it. The other pictures showed the women accepting calm about their sexuality, or what might happen next. This one shows emotion. Is he afraid, hurt or just tired? Hard to say. But the Ingres influence is pretty strong. It will be interesting to see how often this painting influences my other sessions.

I love to make sexual, sensual photos of the human form and would love to work with you in unleashing your inner odalisque whether you are a man or a woman.

Intrigued? Contact me. My email is  I am in San Jose, California.

Mistress J Gives Thanks!

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and the year is winding down to a close. I thought I would dedicate this blog to some of the things I am thankful for.

The first and most important is my health. I am very thankful to be healthy! I am able to do two of the things I love to do, take photographs and run.

On Sunday, I participated in the Big Sur Half Marathon and set a new personal record. I did this as part of an amazing fundraising organization Team in Training and I raised $2150 for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society. I received many donations from the “alternative” community and I want to publicly thank everyone who supported me.


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I am also thankful the universe has guided my passion of photography to work with one of my favorite subjects, men! I love the male body and feel fortunate that I get to document the exciting sinews of the submissive male.

I like what I do, and am looking forward to the upcoming months to get my kink on! I hope you get yours on too. Let me photograph your secret passion. I promise, it will only hurt if you want it to.


Intrigued? Contact me. My email is  I am in San Jose, California.


About Mistress J


Genderbending and Heteroflexibility

Women have been given the permission to allow their sexuality to be more fluid. We are given the permission at a young age to brush each others hair, sit close and  it is always permissible for two women to sleep in a bed together, in a non-sexual context without any type of questioning of their sexual preference. It is also acceptable for women to wear pants. It is hard to believe this was not socially acceptable not that long ago.

Men don’t have it so easy of course. They must keep their sexuality in check. It seems society makes it so they can either be gay or straight, with no in between. These past few months, I have had the opportunity to have some frank and intense discussions with a few gentlemen on the topic of what heteroflexibility means to them and their sexuality. The discussions were incredibly varied, detailed and passionate.

The gentlemen in question all agreed to being curious to exploring their curiosity under the loving  guidance of a Mistress (me). But that is another blog post.

Today, I am going to discuss a photo session I had with a man named Moe. Moe is what many consider a man’s man. Rugged, sun kissed and manly, this country boy cowboy on occasion flirts with his feminine side.  Moe is successful in business, a caretaker of his aging mother and horse trainer. He also has an affinity for women’s clothing. He likes to flirt, hide his male parts and express himself in ways one might consider feminine.

This of course must be done in private, which is why he came to me. He does have a bit of an exhibitionist streak, and allowed me to use his photos. So it is an interesting dichotomy.  Compare these two images. The first he presents himself as a confident man. The gaze is straight on, looking at me (my camera) boldly in the eye. His legs are open and his manhood exposed. To me, his body language and gaze are inviting the viewer in for sexual contact. Per my customer request, I have blocked out his manly bits.

The second image shows him to be more vulnerable.  His pose is demure submissive, feminine. Men are not supposed to hide their genitals. The other half of the population suffers from penis envy, so expose your junk man and be proud of it! Is he ashamed? Maybe. The pink backdrop was deliberately  selected for this shoot, after all real me don’t like pink.

Moe then brought out his lady garments and I helped him become one of his favorite alter egos “Goth Girl”.  Hose, corset, dress, veil and a quick application of makeup transformed him. It does not matter if he can pass for a girl. That is not his objective. Moe wanted a safe place to document his other side. My studio provided that.

In my upcoming blog posts you will see a reoccurring statement from me. Mistress J studios is a sex positive studio. My studio is a safe place and create art of a sensual nature so my clients can expose a piece of themselves that may remain hidden most of the time. I take pride in producing high quality photography. Every session is custom designed for each client. During a session you receive from me my undivided attention, my time and talent and commitment in making your photographic and artistic yearnings come to creation.


Intrigued? Contact me. My email is  I am in San Jose, California.

The Male Submissive and the Photographer

The male submissive. Does that sentence conjure up images of wimpy men brow beaten by a shameless shrew of a wife? Media images of the submissive man have shown the man to be much smaller in stature, Imagesuper thin weak and almost effeminate compared to his large bossy and brash wife. But is this true?


In my experience, the male submissive is complex. Often he is very successful and could be considered Alpha in many respects. If traditionally the male is told he is the leader, to be dominant, why would a man go against convention and submit to a woman? This goes against biblical writings and preaching and shatters the foundation of traditional family. Why would a man want to do this?

The answer is as complex as the man himself and cannot be answered in a single blog post.

I will tell you of MY experiences as a FemDom, as Mistress J, erotic photographer. I think it comes down to yearning. For whatever reasons, when we reach adulthood and start experiencing sex there are deeply ingrained desires we often ignore or don’t understand.  Some have the need to serve or to be controlled or bullied. Some are either born naturally submissive or an event triggered this desire.  The reasons are as varied as there are people on this earth.

As Mistress J, my clients come to me in search of a release. I call myself a “Keeper of Secrets.” My clients have shared with me sides to themselves their wives, friends, coworkers do not know, and they trust me. They come with a pent up desire to communicate something to someone who will understand. Perhaps to even feel desirable, if only for an hour.

Others have come with a curiosity of what a Domme and BDSM is like. An erotic photoImage session is a unique way to get introduced to this kinky world.

Based on the D/s dynamic the photographer controls the scene and works within the subjects limits, pushing extracting, pulling. Negotiations always take place before the scene, I give aftercare, and touch base a day after to check in. This is all done under my loving female authority.

For me, as the photographer, I do get a feeling of power having my male subject reveal himself before me. I enjoy pushing him. It is a difficult thing to literally and figuratively undress before a camera. I enjoy watching the layers unfold. I often get a sexual charge, and combined with my feeling of power and control I feel my FemDom emerge.

As an artist, photography has been my way of expressing myself. I have allowed my camera to speak for me for over 15 years giving voice to my beliefs. I have been an activist, philanthropist, anthropologist and journalist all behind my lens. I have felt that taking a portrait has always been more than just capturing what someone looks like. As Mistress J came into being, it was a natural progression for me to seek out the submissive male and dominate him with my camera.

Intrigued? Call me.

The Male Body as Art

Mistress J is back after a rather long break from blogging! My sincere apologies. I have missed sharing my thoughts and am glad to be back in the internet saddle.

My website is currently down and I am focusing on the nude male, the male submissive and gender bending. I always welcome kinksters and naImageughty couples. So come on in, the water is warm!

As a super sensual FemDom, I love the beauty of the male body, and am making it my mission to create super sexy images of the opposite sex. On a personal note, I enjoy showing a bit of male vulnerability, exposing a piece that men are told by society they can’t show. 

Take this lovely image. To me it says many things. He is sitting in repose, contemplating. What is he thinking? His posture is protective. I chose to turn this into brown and white, adding to the mystery. Yet, we can still admire his sexy chest and powerful legs.

I love doing full body nudes and male erotica. I just don’t post them on my blog!

So give Mistress a call, she is waiting…

Mistress J Meets a Legend

As much as I love being the photographer, it’s definitely fun to be the model once in a while! Last fall I had the pleasure of being photographed by erotic photo legend Charles Gatewood.

I met Charles nearly 20 years ago while in college and covering the Folsom Street Fair for a school assignment. He noticed me stalking people with my eyes and could tell I was a photographer. He showed me some of his photos that were on display, and at the time I was rather shocked by the content. Although he offered me the opportunity to work with him, at that point I was in no way ready to work with an erotic photographer; attending the Folsom Street Fair was already stepping outside my comfort zone and putting me in an environment that was shocking to me! Over the years I remembered his name. Every once in a while I would look him up, see his erotic books and make sure he was still around.

Fast forward to the present. I became Mistress J and one night, while poking around on the Internet, I decided to send an email to the great man himself. I was extremely excited he answered me the next day! Charles is a sweet man who has led a very interesting life. He is very open to sharing his experiences, and is always looking for more adventures.

After emailing back and forth and meeting in person, I made it up to Charles’ beautiful apartment with a fabulous view of the bay. He lives on the 3rd floor, and when you enter you see three huge canvases of his iconic black and white images, including a few of rock legends Bob Dylan (one of my favorites – it was thrilling to hear his story of photographing him in the early days!) and Rod Stewart, in addition to those of a more graphic nature. Charles Gatewood’s collection of work is a timeline of our culture.

After a long chat, we did my photo session. Charles loves natural light; he has a large sliding glass door he uses in addition to a white backdrop and a cream colored chair, which really made my red outfit pop. It reminded me again that I love being in front of the camera as much as I like being behind it.

It was a lot of fun being photographed by a famous photographer. I recognize the gift I was given and will always remember the experience. A big thank you to Charles for taking the time to share your stories and talent with me!

Upcoming Event: Queen for a Day!

2012 is all about being who you are!

Mistress J understands that while often simple, men can be complex. That is why she started her business in the first place, to capture life’s complexities.

Miss J is a very understanding Domme, and realizes there are many men in this valley who desire domination by a woman. These men are not weak, but actually rather strong. They know what they want and need and try to seek it out.

That is why Mistress J has teamed up with Miss Tanya Love from A Place for Chainge and wants to encourage men and women to express themselves and be who they want to be.

In the D/s culture many straight men have the desire to cross dress or be a sissy boy. That desire might stem from the admiration of Female Dominance. Maybe something else, but Mistress J and Miss Tanya strive to serve the community by having you boys serve us for a night!

Come celebrate your inner girl at Queen for a Day! Queen for a Day is a fun, swanky night for sissy boys and cross dressers. You won’t want to miss it!

Join Miss J and Miss Tanya at their first annual Queen for a Day party! Named after the popular hit TV show from the ‘50s, Mistresses Tanya and J invite all of the boys to come and flaunt their feminine side.

This evening will give you the opportunity to step outside your comfort zone and move past the confines of your home. Mingle in a safe public place with other like-minded people!

Pull out that outfit from the back of your closet and have some fun. There will also be a fashion show and awards given to the top 3 beauties.

The Mistresses want to meet and socialize with other dominants, so please feel free to attend if you don’t have a special sub. You might find one here!

The Dommes will offer appropriate amounts of humiliation and beatings. There will be opportunity to shop for jewelry and makeup and have your photo taken with Mistresses J and Tanya or your Domme. We will have food and drinks available, but NO alcohol.

Find out more and register at Ticketleap.

Finding Beauty in the Female Form Through Boudoir Photos

It’s not difficult finding beauty and meaning in the female form. In my last post I provided a few differences between male and female boudoir photography. As I recently had two sessions, each with a woman, it got me to thinking about how a good boudoir photographer captures a female subject:

1. Show off the things that make her body different from a man’s – namely curves. Think of the classic hourglass shape. Create dynamic poses by having the model twist her shoulders off-axis from her hips to highlight these curves. This is a more dramatic version of the classical contrapposto pose used by artists for over 2000 years.

2. If you’re after a provocative pose, ask the model to keep her back straight pull her shoulder blades together a little. This will accentuate her breasts and bottom.

3. The number of ways to light the female nude is without limit, but in general you want to use very soft light to accent the softness of her curves. You can light high-key, where everything is evenly lit, or you can light low-key, where the light comes from one side and is more dramatic. If you want to be very dramatic, use the backlight as the only light source.

As with all photography, female boudoir photography is an art form; there are no fixed rules or boundaries. Curious what your boudoir photos might look like? Contact me to schedule a session!