Harness the Energy! Can a harness help in strap-on play?

The short answer is hell ya! But I digress.

A friend was over today, and as I was shoving one dildo up his butt, and another in his mouth, I wondered if I could somehow harness this sexy energy and generate electricity. If I could, imagine how low my power bills would go!

If anyone out there knows how I could do this, drop me a line. Trust me, by the sheer volume of my pervy friends, we could become rich if we could generate, harness, store and sell the electricity produced by this unique activity.

Speaking of harnesses, I have two. I have the Doggie Style strap and the Luv Rydr. I purchased the doggie strap from Curvy Girl, and Texas Tim gave me the Luv Rydr.

Both harnesses can be used on women for PIV experiences or on men for pegging.

So, What do these harnesses do? They enhance the experience of the receiver and assist the giver. I call it a

Who let the dogs out?

win-win Jim. 

In the case of the doggie strap, the giver enjoys having most of the pressure off the lower back. She can lean back and have her body weight balance her body. By gripping the handles, and she can use her arms to create motion.

The receiver enjoys a deep feeling of penetration. The padded strap slides under the belly, and when the giver lifts the strap, a wonderful feeling of deepness occurs. 

The doggie strap has been well received and has been my favorite until the Luv Rydr showed up…

I’M TOO SEXY…

So, the first thought on this thing  is: “What the hell. This thing is butt ugly.” Look at it, it’s ridiculous! But, never judge book by it’s cover. Despite the clownish appearance, this thing gets the job done!

The device hooks over the arms, and there is an adjustable strap attached to the padded handle. The arm straps connect to a padded chest piece and there are no pressure points to make the experience uncomfortable for the wearer.

The giver grabs the paddled handle, and despite thinking of trapezes, gets to work.

When I was pounding Texas Tim, I couldn’t feel any stress points either. I didn’t think the thing was working, But Tim told me otherwise.

“Very good, the experience, lived up to how I had imaged it. The leather was soft, and I felt controlled by you as you pulled back on the handle. I had to move back to you or at least stay put as I could not move away from your thrusting deep into me. I felt like you were pounding me harder and deeper.

It helps get me into a sub-space where I knew I was a plaything for your use. Adding into that my legs were chained and spread open, I felt completely at your mercy. I was doing my best to please you so that the lesson that you own my ass would not require a larger Mistress cock. Knowing that if you had decided to go bigger, there I was in no position to refuse. (I know I always have my safe words) but when you take me to that place where I feel safe being submissive I enjoy feeling completely under your control. 

So yes, I think the harness was a great gift I hope you enjoyed using it on me.”

See pervy peeps, the Luv Ryder is so well designed, it takes the pressure off, so to speak, and real work can be accomplished.

A female receiver reviewed the Luv Rydr:

“As the “receiver” of the fun, wearing it did make me feel very objectified and the feeling  that “I only exist to be f****ed”. 

As the person wearing it, it is very comfortable. The stress on the body is very well distributed over the shoulders, so it’s really easy to wear for a long time.  Nothing rubbing strangely or scratchy.

The harness did lead to me being f****ed silly for a very long time. I like it very hard and intense so it did add to that kind of fun.  It created very deep penetration and I had that feeling (that I love) like I cannot get away, and I just have to take it. That makes me so turned on.  So much fun.”

Based on my recommendation, a male friend bought his own Luv Rydr and used it on his female partner. He said:

“The Luv Rydr harness works in the same manner as the doggie strap, giving you handles, but it holds the whole person.  It allows you to make sure your partner can’t get away and you can get great pressure.  It’s holding them on the shoulders, really keeping them in place.  It can even allow different angles that normally can’t be done more than a pump.  Since it’s on the shoulder and a sturdy point to harness, you can balance yourself and pound away.”

So there you have it folks. I use these things for a reason, and, that reason is you! And in case you were wondering, I did not receive any compensation from these fine companies.

ride, Sally ride.

As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

How Liberating! Hands free pleasure at the studio.

Mistress J is all about multi-tasking. So any devices that can help her do two things at once, or sit back and enjoy a show are always welcomed.

Recently, Texas Tim gifted me with the Liberator Wanda Magic Toy Mount, The Wand Essentials Strap Cap and the Wand Essentials Passion Pillow Wand Harness from Amazon. We had fun with the Liberator during our session. 

Texas Tim has become a huge ass slut and I was determined to break in my new toys. Using the strap cap, I attached a nice sized dildo to my Lelo Cordless Wand.

Now I was ready to have some fun. At the appropriate time, the Texas slut presented his ass to me and I used the wand on him. The girth and curvature of the dong allowed me to keep it vibrating in his ass hands free and allowed me to prepare other delights, such as my strap on.

After pounding him with my strap on cocks, I decided he needed to entertain me. After all, he’s here for MY amusement, not the other way around. 

He was instructed to straddle the Liberator complete with ass wand and ride it, Tim willingly complied.  He squatted over the Liberator and his hole slowly swallowed the purple dildo. The firm foam allowed Tim to gyrate to his specifications, becoming an enabler of his pleasure.

I sat on the couch and watched.

I pointed the wand this way and that,  alternating his positions as he sat this way and that.

I think he enjoyed it best when he straddled it while facing the smaller side of the pillow. His ass and his legs got a bit of a workout! Later, he told me he really enjoyed the Liberator and it might have been his favorite thing that day.

Next time, I will use the Liberator with my Hitachi Wand with P-Spot adapter on him and see how well that is received. I also have the sex stool, which in combination to the above could relieve leg fatigue. Hmmmm….

The Liberator can be used for a woman’s pleasure too. In fact, I think that was the original intent, but Miss J is a naughty thing. 

Mistress J’s Desire:     

This could be me with you watching.

I have the desire to restrain a slut and force him to watch me pleasure myself with my Lelo. I’ll be comfortable perched on the Liberator and can ride it how I see fit. Ah, the agony!

Here is a caveat. Please DO NOT ask (or beg) for this particular scenario. It is for me to decide if and when I want to  do it. If you ask, it will not happen. No exceptions, not even hints or references.

If it happens, it will be a surprise.

As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

 

Serves Me Right! Serving Me with a Smile.

Sissy tea time.

I have said this before, and I will say it again, I get pleasure out of pleasing my guests.

Many men delight in serving women. I like those men.

Do I have perfect form?

So, if my guests want to serve me, who am I to deny them their pleasure?  If someone wants to honor me with service and chores as part of a session, I often will let them. Of course, it depends on my mood and what needs to be done.

Serving refreshments is always welcome. After all, being Mistress J is hard work, and sometimes I get parched.

 I like afternoon tea, and I like men in panties. What better way to enjoy the afternoon than to have a man in panties serve me tea! Talk about killing two birds with one stone!

Perhaps a sissy wants to lavish attention on Miss J? She’s too kind to refuse.

Other times, the man in question wants to be my furniture! I like a nice, strong back to put things on. Just be careful, if you move while I am pouring, you might get scalded. This has happened before…

I recently had a guest who wanted the session to be about my amusement. I always have fun with him, and this time I decided to put him to good use. 

I can’t stress enough the importance of staying hydrated. That’s why I always have water for us during our sessions. Here, Allen* displays his dexterity while making sure Mistress has water. He held his position for a long time, catching himself if he lost his balance. He didn’t spill a drop, and the water was quite refreshing! He was tethered to the wall by a very unique anchor point. I didn’t want him to get away!

Life is all about balance.

I’m always thinking up new things for the playroom, and the house itself. I can only ask my dad to do so much, besides, I’d rather have someone I’m not related to do work around the house. 

I recently had my cross re-sanded and stained by jepguy. He was very anxious to please. He has served me before, so he knew the drill. He stripped down to his uniform and I inserted a butt plug. He then went to work making the cross look pretty.

Jepguy has done some light handiwork for me in the past, but his most notable act of service was being the naked waiter at a dinner party I had for my FemmeDomme friends. He did a nice job serving and clearing the table, all the while in his special uniform. I was impressed, as he kept his thingy under control. There was no dripping on the floor. Such a good boy!

Not everyone has to provide service in the house. A special friend from Texas made me a mess of home made BBQ ribs and chicken! He found out I love BBQ, and got up super early to smoke the meat. It was still warm when he arrived.

So, no matter how you serve your mistress, one thing is certain. You will serve with a smile, and most likely be naked!

If you are inclined to service and are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

*not his real name.

A New Year, A Kinky New You!

Here’s to 2018! 

I don’t know about you, but I am glad to have a new year on the books.

Lots of fun things will take place over here at Mistress J’s. The biggest news is I will be redecorating my house and play space! That includes new paint and flooring, and maybe one or two new pieces of furniture. I am so excited for this makeover.

Speaking of makeovers, many people use a new year to try new things, get a new hair style, and kick old habits to the curb. I have a fabulous idea! How about if I help you with a NEW habit; a Kinky New You for 2018? After all, Mistress J is a giver, and her business is all about pleasure. Sounds like she’s the right person to help you get your kink on, or maybe I should say get the kinks out. ha ha

Bad boys, bad boys…

Bondage: Have you ever wanted to feel helpless in a controlled way?

I have some shiny, bright handcuffs. We can play a game of cops and robbers. I will be the cop of course, while you get a strip and cavity search! Are you hiding something? Perhaps I need to dig pretty deep.

My St. Andrews Cross intrigues many people. Imaging being spread armed and eagled with no way to dismount. I could do WHATEVER I wanted to you. Oh the horror!

I could tickle you, spank you, tease your junk and do it with you blindfolded. I have lots of toys and tools, and you are just an object for my desire and imagination… Poor baby,

 

Anal Play: For many men, their deepest and darkest desires are to be pegged, I like to make a man spread his ass cheeks and become my Bend Over Boyfriend!

I have a fine selection of dongs ranging from small to destroyer. And don’t forget, I am the proud owner of a Drill-Do! Your New Year’s Resolution could be to take it for a spin!

 

Femminization: Perhaps you have always had a fantasy of femminization? Well, I have a selection of wigs, jewelry, shoes and clothing to bring out the lady in you. You can be naughty or nice. I like it all! And you will too.

 

Whatever you desire, I am sure we can make it happen here at my studio. I do have a few hard limits: No scat, blood, diaper or age play. I also don’t wrestle, smoke anything, and will not see an inebriated guest.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

 

 

Having a Ball!

 

Twist and shout

Bollocks! Mistress J loves to play with balls. They swing and bounce, they are fun to poke and prod and even twist! As my plaything, I get to do what I want to you. Instead of grabbing a fistful of dollars, I often will grab a fistful of balls!

Ball play is fun because it doesn’t need to be extreme, so everyone can enjoy. I grab both balls in one hand, pull them away from the body and twist. By keeping them together, there is no pain. Now, if you are craving a little pain, let me know and I’ll accommodate you!

twinkle toes

 When things start to get serious in a session, I’ll take off my shoes. Now My toes can join in the fun! My toes like the feel of balls. I like to step on them, grab the ball sack with my cute little toes and pull. My visitor enjoys looking at my manicured feet playing with his privates. Sometimes, I’ll even give the hair a little tug.

In some cases, I don’t want you looking at me.  When that happens, I turn you to the wall and go to town on the back of the balls! Poor baby…

 

Ouch!

For more extreme play and discipline, I’ll bring out my parachute that has little pins on the inside. The cute little chains that hang down are not only decorative, but serve a purpose. I can hang weights from them! And, as you can imagine, I have several.

For some reason, my male friends tend to walk on their tippy toes when this thing is dangling from the family jewels. Why is that?

The ice is right!

Things often get pretty heated here during a session with me. Have no fear, I have a simple remedy; a nice cold ice bag! This makes me smile just thinking about using it!

I get a lot of gratification playing with the gonads. This blog post only showcases a small sampling of the fun we can have together, so I suggest booking a session as soon as possible!

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

 

Drilling Me Softly… The Joy of the Drill-Do!

“I heard she sang a good song…”*

Wanna get tooled?

Yes, Mistress J is always on the lookout for new toys, and since 90% of her visitors enjoy ass play, she recently invested in a Drill-Do.

You see, women enjoy power tools as much as men, and this lil’ beauty has proven itself to be the queen of my crop. (pun intended)

This is an actual drill by Chicago Electric. I find that very appropriate since Mistress J’s family comes from Chicago. Serendipity perhaps?

This drill has a unique cock attachment and can accommodate any vac-u-lock style dong. The good news is, if I want to do any remodeling, I can switch out the cock attachment for a saw and take down what needs to come down. But, I digress.

The Drill-Do has proven itself to be a safe and fun toy that brings much pleasure to both parties. Mistress J is a stickler for hygiene, always uses a condom, and thoroughly cleans each and every item after use. 

Instead of a drill bit, I call it a drill butt!

Long term visitor Allen was my first victim. He submitted to some wax play and as he presented his lovely butt to me, I inserted the Drill-do. 

I think we we both a little nervous. I had never used a saw before and was unsure of the power and if I could handle such a machine. Allen was nervous because he was on the receiving end, and as someone very familiar with power tools, and, well, nothing more needs to be said.

I slipped on a condom and lubed up the dong. Once securely in place, I started the machine on low. I heard a delightful humming and couldn’t tell if it came from Allen or the Drill-Do. Perhaps both?

A Happy Mistress!

After the initial warm up, Allen gave the OK for faster power.  Soon, I had the Drill-Do going full speed! I felt so powerful holing my butt drill. Allen was very happy and could really take it, so I gave it.

Sweet Caroline

I am so glad I have my new toy. This has proven to be worth every penny, and is my ultimate tool. I have used it on quite a few butts, all with raving reviews. Mistress J has mastered the machine!

As always, Mistress J is looking for a few good men or women to play with.

Wanna try the Drill-Do? I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

*From Roberta Flak’s Killing me softly with his song.

Down of the Farm. Fall is Harvest Time!

Were you pervs aware Mistress J is a farmer? Yes indeed. She specializes in a particular form of animal husbandry; the male cock! And now that its fall, let’s harvest these guys.

 

Big, angry cock!

Cockadoodledo!

The farm is a serene place, full of peaceful animals except for one. There is one very large, angry cock with a bright red head. Look at him! Why is he mad? Perhaps he needs a spanking to straighten him out.

 

Peter Cotton Balls.

 

Bunnies happily frolic in the barnyard. Look at Peter Cotton Balls. Isn’t he cute? I think so, and in typical bunny fashion, it looks like he’s ready to multiply!

 

Lots of hay and tools are regularly used on my farm. Perhaps I have even used a few on you? Mistress J keeps her tools clean and organized, as you can see here.  Farmer J knows the perfect tool is necessary for a good harvest. She is always buying new things. 

 

A very special tool is the drip bucket. Drips and spills occur almost daily. An organized farmer like Mistress J has a bucket ready to go to collect milky white substances.

Remember the rhyme “Jack and Jill went up the hill to fetch a pail of water”? Well, Mistress J tends to fetch other liquids here on the farm, and the cocks don’t complain either…

 

More Cowbell!

And no farm can be complete without cowbells!

 

 

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination and want to visit the farm, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

The Perils of Being My Plaything!

It’s not my fault you are a dirty slut. But you are, and you need to be punished!

When you visit me, you agree to be my plaything. Your body is here for my amusement and entertainment. After we negotiate our boundaries, you become mine!  Now the peril begins…   

 

Taming the Teat:

Got sensitive nipples? I think nipple suckers are just the thing! Are you worried your nipples are too small? Relax, after an hour in one of these, your nipples will be nice and plump as the compression sends the blood to the desired area. They will be nice and tender afterwards too.

Girls just want to have fun. And this little lady liked electrical play on her nipples! Such a naughty thing. She needed to be put in her place. She was, and she liked it.

 

 

Humble Beginnings:

You know I like my men humble. I have both a homemade humbler and a store bought humbler. Here, Mike models the store bought humbler and a variety of festive clothespins I picked up last year on my vacation in Poland. Ain’t they pretty? And they feel sooo nice when Mistress takes them off! For some reason this photo makes me smile.

 

 

 

Controlling  the Cock:

Zap, Crackle, Pop! A fabulous erection controlling device is my zapper! The violet want comes with a variety of attachments and delivers a satisfying jolt wherever it’s needed. Leo is wearing the homemade humbler and to prevent him from finishing, I give him a hearty zap now and again. Another fun use for this is to use it during an edging session. A well timed zap keeps things in check.  You see, Miss J like to control everything

 

Where’s the beef?

Sometimes a man simply can’t control his erection! If that is the case, chastity shows him who’s the boss. Me! Here, Mike proudly submits to being locked up in his Bon 4 metal cage. He is owned by me and will now experience long term confinement. 

 

 

So that’s the story pervs.

If you are a nasty thing and are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.

A Handmade Tale. A Peek Inside Mistress J’s Dungeon!

You CAN keep a good man down!

 

It is said that necessity it the mother of invention. Well, Mistress J is blessed with a keen imagination and talented kinky friends who can help her invent pervy items for the dungeon!

Let’s take a look around the dungeon and see what has been crafted by hand.

The largest item is my cross. Made by Max, this cross has the ability to come apart for transportation. The wooden panels are attached to the metal X, which Max fabricated himself. The wood is birch, and now has a dark stain on it.

This photo is of the cross before it was stained. I think it needs a second coat. Who wants to be a good boy and do it for me? 

You might also notice I now have different curtains. I like changing things up now and again.

I love having nekkid men kneel in front of it for me.  A good place for a man is on all fours with his arse in the air, ready for inspection…

 

The second largest item is my Queening Chair. Perhaps you are wondering if this is a chair for short people? The answer is no. The chair is for the lady’s comfort during certain activities. The height is perfect for panty sniffing and administering showers into the mouth while the person in question lies beneath.  The chair also allows the lady to be comfortable while using her feet on select body parts. After all, why should Mistress J be uncomfortable, that’s the sub’s job!

The chair was modified by Tanya Caress. This is the last remaining chairs from my late grandmother’s beloved dining room set. I still have the table in my dining area. It is a gorgeous parquet patterned solid wood table, and I plan to keep it forever.  The chair is appropriately Queen Anne in style. Fit for royalty I say. I wonder if Grandma would approve of it’s current use?

 

I love to have access to various parts. A spreader bar helps with that purpose. I pry open a man’s legs, then cuff their ankles to the bar. I often pull their legs back and chain them to the wall. Such a nice view.

The spreader bar was also a Tanya Caress specialty, re-purposed from a closet rod. I still use it to hang things. ha ha.

 

One of my favorite items is my home made humbler. Simple and inexpensive, the humbler fits ALL sizes of balls because it is just dowels and rubber bands. I pull the junk back between the legs and secure the dowels around it. Try standing up and walking, I dare you!

On the same note, a pair of chopsticks and some rubber bands really show a nipple who is the boss. These two items give a new meaning to the term morning wood! 

 

I know these items are tempting you. Give in to your desire and give me a call. I’d love to create a session just for you!

If you are curious about my dungeon and my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com.  I am in San Jose, California.  I look forward to hearing from you.
 

Mistress J Goes on a Photo Shoot!

Today (May 6) is my birthday! And, my gift to you is a link to my photo session and a description of my experience!

I bought  Groupon for Krazy Zexy. I remember Kamran from when we were both in the wedding photography business. I knew he was a great shooter and had been doing boudoir photography for a while. I think by looking at his website, you see how good he is with posing and lighting. He is also very good at capturing the smoldering sexy woman lying just below the surface, a skill you don’t learn in school, but are born with.

Kamran recognized me when I emailed him and I told him these were business photographs and I was now a Bondassage practitioner. We had an email consultation about outfits and accessories and planned a date.

I was told to expect to be at the studio for about 3 hours. I arrived at 9 am on a Monday and had professional hair and makeup done. That was about an hour and a half. Then I sat a bit with Kamran.

This is when I was pulled out of my comfort zone. You see, Mistress J is used to being in charge. She is in charge of her sessions (as you all know). Even when she ran her vanilla photo business she was in charge. But here, I had to turn myself over to someone else and that’s a bit tough.

It started out like on of my sessions. He had me sit down and asked ME questions! Can you believe it?  Questions about my work, personal life, how Mistress J came about, what did I want to convey, what were my hard limits and safe words.

After what felt like an hour of questions, but what was really only 15 minutes, we began to do the photos. This was the fun and the hard part. Hard because I was on the other side of the lens. I had to hold the uncomfortable poses. I was the one insecure about my short legs and such. But it was also fun being the center of attention. I got to be elegant and fancy. It was all about me I was the receiver and not the giver. This was exciting and new, and also a little uncomfortable, as I am most comfortable giving.

I got to experience what my long time client Frank experienced during his first of three photo shoots with me. I got to be the model. I was put on display and admired, and my hair looked good too, how fun is that!

The shoot went longer than three hours, almost five. I guess Mistress J is a muse for many, and Kamran was so caught up in me that we went over. 

Here is one of my favorite images from the shoot. I think it captures my sassy and playful side, don’t you? 

Enjoy the gift of looking at me today. I hope to hear from you soon.

Mistress J